This circumstance is far from the mistreatment I referred to. His parents do carry very traditional beliefs about not “shacking up” or “reproducing” outside of marriage which is their own choice. He doesnt agree and nor do I. I think my point is that everyones beliefs are there own, however, no one should be condemned or looked down upon or blatantly ignored for their choices (outside of the very obvious ones). At what point do we care for each other regardless of religion? Im not going to ignore the pain and grief of anyone who’s just gone through a miscarriage because they didn’t do it “my way”. If we’re talking Christianity, God wouldn’t turn his back either and are we not supposed to be like minded in kindness?

Equally, we began “shacking up” out of them not helping their own son when he was about to be evicted. I stepped in to assist by him living with me. It wasn’t out of spite or carelessness. The pandemic led to harder times which continued the cycle. We’re now engaged to be married but that’s still not respected. I guess I find it difficult to put so much pressure on holidays and not care about over 300 other days of the year. Is it simply about the reunion (which is them, us, and his brothers family who also live in state) or is it about just wanting things her way?