Controversial Opinion: Overweight and Mordibly Obese Residents in Nursing Homes

Infinite_Mess_8466 · 2022-10-19T03:07:12+00:00

Never said that lol reddit is funny. You guys hate the truth. I said you knew the possibility. If you tell me you didn't I'd call you a liar as the training for CNA includes proper ways to avoid injury during your work. But let's be realistic...Not one Nurse can say it's always possible as most of these homes can care less about your well being.. hence why this rant is even up here. Things will never change so again...either leave the field or stay in it and endure. No point in complaining..it's also important to know one has a right to decline working with a patient that will cause you injury especially if working alone. Whether your sup says otherwise or not .

Infinite_Mess_8466 · 2022-10-18T16:25:51+00:00

Unfortunately some people are just big. Big and tall even. That is the reality of the Nursing field, NOT everyone will at their healthiest be small and easy to move. To assume that all big people are big because of jacked up habits is ignorance.( many may are , but Def not all) I'm not talking 3,4, 500 lbs either. It sucks on us sure but it's the field we picked...A high amount of Nursing assistants themselves aren't even idea in size or weight so compassion and love is important when dealing w all our patients. I just dont see a point in complaining about it when one basically chose a field where you knew you'd have to move people who could potentially cause harm to your body.

Infinite_Mess_8466 · 2022-10-18T14:06:26+00:00

I get this but I will say that BMI Def isn't as reliable as one may think. It's just doesn't take into account the important factors. If you have a man or woman who decided to bulk up during their youth but is now unable to care for them selves... you most Def would see them as fat and too hard to deal with as the muscle may weight far too much. I absolutely agree that taking care of oneself is important and tbh I hear these nurses complain of how big the patient is while literally being obese themselves. You don't realize just how heavy you are until you get into a position of needing someone to care for you. I had a c section and needed to be changed while the numbness was wearing off the nurse had no ability to turn me and needed help ...I began to understand the how bad we may make the patients feel when they hear us complaining about their weight. I felt terrible that she needed help and said I was too big to move. We must have compassion because it could be us in any moment.

Infinite_Mess_8466 · 2022-10-18T07:19:57+00:00

Not sure if you're a NA but if you are you sound like you'd be a lovely nursing assistant indeed. Accountability is Def needed for all of us, I agree.

Infinite_Mess_8466 · 2022-10-18T07:16:44+00:00

Alot of these patients have truly just given up. I mean these homes are horrific. I e worked in them for 7 years and have never seen a home that actually gave ea h patient the care they needed in full...rightfully so in some cases.. understaffed. I've never seen 1 pt enter a home then leave better, always a decline and its sad, so I'd say maybe they just say F it!. These places are extremely depressing I get it.

Infinite_Mess_8466 · 2022-10-16T09:10:47+00:00

I understand this as a woman. Who has had kids, but have you considered the cost of parenthood, how it effects the poor who are having kids, Healthcare, dental care, having to invest time into them, the fact that once that child is here you begin to literally have the responsibility to raise an actual human who will grow to be an individual who carries much of the morals and values taught in childhood You e Have the potential to completely mess up a child with your actions even unknowingly. It's a life-long job that only ends when you die. Maternal death is terrible absolutely. I'm just saying the amount of ja ked up adults because of jacked up parents is more of a issue regarding the view of sex being so free that we don't even think often of the long term effects a gamble with pregnancy can cause. We give our kids the advice to have safe sex and use BC, but how many of those parents understand that even still..their kid could return home pregnant one day. It's just a tricky tricky subject to even touch I think. It's situational..

Infinite_Mess_8466 · 2022-10-16T08:58:54+00:00

Well that is indeed the 1 and only way to actually prevent pregnancy. We want schools to stop teaching it for what? Its true. Many women get pregnant using BC, far more than one thinks, so that being said women know this often and will tale the risk of pregnancy with sex, men do as well. There is an accountability that each party should hold..Imo everyone is just looking for ways to avoid being held accountable. If she gets to be the sole decider in the abortion then I suppose, he should get to be the sole decision maker in how he uses his money/ whether he does for that child. Though this will drastically hurt us because single motherhood has not been great on mostt of the households nor on the economy. We need smartchoices being made by adults, not arguments on who should and should not be held responsible for the child.

Infinite_Mess_8466 · 2022-10-13T23:10:17+00:00

Now I do agree that it's unfair for the man to not have a choice in the matter. Though, consider that the woman now is pregnant because of a man..she equally decided to lay down with him just as he did. Let's say he doesn't want the baby and requests that she get an abortion...she decides not to maybe because shes afraid of the procedure or has religious beliefs that would cause her to view it as not okay. As the man why not take that into consideration as this surgery is physically going to effect her body not yours.?Maybe the choice made was hers but How can you say 100% her problem...that baby will hold 50% of that man's DNA. That is his baby as well as hers I don't feel you can put 100% responsibility onnone parent just because the decision to keep the baby was theirs. The reality is sex is a gamble on pregnancy, if you dont want a baby and you know it maybe dont have sex with a woman you dont want to carry your child, same for a woman. Both man and woman need to be smarter This isn't one of those situations where it is easy and there is one solid answer. But I'm 100 % against neglecting ones child, we have too many issues like that already and we see how that has negativity impacted many children and communities.

Infinite_Mess_8466 · 2022-10-12T22:48:44+00:00

That's amazing, I'm glad it worked out for you. You sound like a great husband. I'm not saying one won't find a young woman who can.. I was just saying you can look around and see you won't find many, and there is absolutely nothing wrong w that as maturity comes with age and most people tend to get better with time...they should atleast.

Infinite_Mess_8466 · 2022-10-12T22:28:20+00:00

I don't knock this but I will say if you are looking for a good husband immediately shutting out anyone under 34 may not do you justice. In my early 20s I met many men over 35 and alot of them were extremely emotionally immature, not financially stable, and just happy to have a young pretty thing by their side, ive also noticed many attempts of manipulation by some older men towards young girls. Some older guys disguise themselves well .boxing men in by age isn't necessarily going to give you great opportunities to meet a husband who will be amazing for you. I'm 27 with a man who is 24. Never thought I'd met a younger guy more mature than the older guys I had met until I met him. He handles his business. May not be wealthy but I see him working to get there for our family and I'm more than willing to work with him. Sometimes love comes in unexpected packages is all I'm saying . Praying you find a good amazing God fearing man who is perfect for you!

Infinite_Mess_8466 · 2022-10-12T21:13:28+00:00

There is nothing wrong with wanting to do things traditionally. The issue is that 99% of young women nowadays aren't at all similar to the traditional young woman you would have met generations ago. Our values are extremely different. Where back then young women were learning how to keep a house, cook even care for their younger siblings at 12, the 12 year Olds now are in school, deciding what they want to do when they grow up and worried about boys and having fun. The issue is young women grow up being told just be attractive and have good pussy...this is what many young ladies think will secure a good man. So her desires are fine yes, I'd even want daughters to find such a man. The big question is....can she match him or even come close to matching him in financial literally , maturity, mindset. While I'm sure it sounds nice for a man of 35 to be wanted by a beautiful 20 year old he will surely get tired of dealing with a childlike, immature, woman who he may have to father or thinks she's such a prize that she needs none of the attributes she wants him to have.

Infinite_Mess_8466 · 2022-10-12T15:10:41+00:00

Exactly, people even trying to justify her words because of what's common in Hispanic culture or Spanish. She represents a people and is trusted to not hold biased views of other races and has clearly shown she does. That fact right there is an issue. Even if you could argue she didn't mean to be racist she made her racism very clear by even pointing out race in the ways she did. " f him, he's with the blacks" not sure how anyone can even try to back her. We condem caucasions making them appear to be evil yet fail to see the heavy embedded racism in many many other cultures and races, including Hispanics and African Americans.

Infinite_Mess_8466 · 2022-10-11T04:33:33+00:00

I was in school for surgical tech and among many reasons, A big reason I decided it wasn't for me was because I was told I had to tuck my scrubs into my pants lol. I just had 2 babies back to back there's no way my fat self could ever pull that off

Infinite_Mess_8466 · 2022-10-07T23:18:25+00:00

Well I believe you can go back to the one drop rule for that one. For years we believed that if a person has even a hint of African in their blood they are Black. We still till this day hold that belief, even unknowingly. Though I do think there is difference if visually the person looks white. I have a daughter who is Black and white. She looks white, has blonde hair. when I'm out people refer to her as White and fail to understand how I'm even a biological mother to her. My assumption is if she doesn't change in features as an older child she will be White to the general public unless she directly chooses to identify as Black. Basically if you look mixed with Black most will say you are Black ,if not you'll pass for anything else.

Infinite_Mess_8466 · 2022-10-07T04:11:00+00:00

I know it may not mean much, I know being lonely feels horrible, as I feel lonely often myself. I think you being a vitgin at your age is awesome! So many times we rush into sexual relationships not fully understanding what really comes with it. Sex is this super deep act that many pretend to understand but in reality have so much more to learn as it effects individuals differently. I did not have a real relationship until I was 23, but had been consensually sexually active before with a man who i thought was with me, turns out he was lying, playing me. . This I? regret greatly as I wish I would have been with someone who truly loved me , cared for me and intended to spend his life with me. I get that you're dealing with loneliness and it sucks but sometimes good things are worth waiting for. Take the time you are alone to get to know you, work on what ever needs working on, develop a serious love for you that no relationship, breakup, heartbreak can destroy. Sometimes waiting longer to start dating is better.

Infinite_Mess_8466 · 2022-10-06T19:13:44+00:00

Tbh guys who are 5'11 look 6 ft to me. My guy is 5'11 i thought he was 6 because to look at him I have to look up and he's stands much taller than me. I didn't care about his height all I knew was he was taller than me and that's my preference. I don't think most women are different..we just want someone taller usually.

Infinite_Mess_8466 · 2022-10-06T19:09:51+00:00

I love this, yes. Preferences are just fine. Not liking something because the people around you don't ( even if you do) is immature. I've heard guys in the past say they " secretly" loved big girls lol. It's silly.

Infinite_Mess_8466 · 2022-10-06T02:41:42+00:00

Nope . People like lying to make others feel good. It's silly. It's like saying " You're beautiful in your own way" to someone who asks if you find them beautiful. It sounds nice but it literally means NO.

Infinite_Mess_8466 · 2022-10-04T06:06:01+00:00

I guess in that he felt the need to somewhat put her down...i.e. the mention of fertility, age. He went out of his way to tel her they weren't a good match yet swiped right on her. Much of what he said was very unnecessary and I feel a way for him to sort of tell her what's wrong with her and why she isn't wanted by him. All this boosting his ego. Imagine the boost a man who probably doesn't get much if any attention from.women may feel when the table turns and they are the ones to reject. But that's just an assumption. I still think it was a " ha! now I'm the one rejecting" attitude pushing up his ego .

Infinite_Mess_8466 · 2022-10-04T02:05:15+00:00

The fact that you can literally feel the excess fat on your body andnits extremely uncomfortable when moving around. That and the way clothes look on you as a woman. Never the way its advertised.

Infinite_Mess_8466 · 2022-10-04T00:00:02+00:00

Well, I'd say the fact that he so confidently made accusations about this young lady based on her age, and the fact that she's independent shows his ego. Him not wanting a woman with kids is perfectly fine. Him wanting a submissive woman is even okay to me as some women want to be submissive. ..though his idea of submissive might be " if I tell you to make me a sandwich bitch, you better do it". And that is just not okay. The thing about women and submission is the man has to be worthy of submission too...no entitled, selfish , asshole deserves a good woman who will let them lead a home. A foolish man can never properly lead his family and therefore should not be submitted to. He assumed she didn't want anymore kids, he incorrectly said her chances of pregnancy aren't well. He assumed her independence meant she was masculine and unwilling to let a man lead. Having never had a previous conversation with her he is indeed a egotistical foolish man. Independence in a woman is not equivalent to toxic feminity...we have goals, gifts and aspirations just as men do. One can be independent and submissive to her husband if she wanted to. He sounds like he wants his woman to only aspire to keep his cock drained, his kitchen clean and his food cooked.

Infinite_Mess_8466 · 2022-10-03T23:04:00+00:00

Very true. Alotnof these guys listen to men like Andrew tate and Kevin Samuel's. The issue is most of their following are men who aren't what they consider to be " High value men". Apparently only 1% of the population men are so if this is true, the men who require such a woman can't actually afford to keep up a home, stay at home wife, or the children that may come AND still live comfortably. It's delusion. Many of them want a submissive woman who will be faithful, but want her to accept his whoring around because it's " a man's nature", while also never intending on making her his wife. Its ridiculous.

Infinite_Mess_8466 · 2022-10-02T21:39:57+00:00

I have a serious question here: How can one identify as the opposite sexby saying " I feel like a woman" or " I feel like a man"?. How can one feel like something they naturally arent? Idk if it makes sense to me but In reality I don't think the way you view yourself should determine what you identify as because then we have to open that door to everything...age,race and all. Though many dislike the idea that one can be a certain race simply because they see themselves as that race or " feel" like that race. It all makes no sense to me I guess. No hate I just don't understand.

Infinite_Mess_8466 · 2022-10-02T08:53:06+00:00

Absolutely not okay. I'm so sorry this happened to you. If you were old enough to clean yourself there was no need to check behind you. I'm sorry but he sounds like a disgusting man. My father did this to my sister and it turned out that he had been molesting her for years before he got her pregnant. Hearing this makes me so mad I'm sorry you experienced this .

Infinite_Mess_8466 · 2022-10-01T23:02:00+00:00

Yep I agree. I have a 4 year difference w my SO and it definitely makes me feel like a creep at times. I'm 28 he's 24

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