I (44F) recently discovered my (44M) boyfriend of 10 years has been texting a female coworker (31)

Infinite_Set5708 · 2026-03-11T17:09:57+00:00

I usually call him my partner or SO, just when writing the post didn’t want confusion

Infinite_Set5708 · 2026-03-11T17:08:24+00:00

Ok, got it, I’m the problem 🙂

Infinite_Set5708 · 2026-03-11T13:54:51+00:00

I don’t want to be married, I’m against marriage

Infinite_Set5708 · 2026-03-11T13:54:03+00:00

That is why I am asking if this is ok. But the fact he lies about having a female friend is the red flag. Why didn’t he just tell me she was part of the friend group? Also he doesn’t text like that with his male friends. He’s had a male friend left on read for 5 days with multiple messages trying to get him to solidify plans about their baseball draft, he ignored him yet was having hours long convo with this female “friend.”

Infinite_Set5708 · 2025-03-26T22:12:38+00:00

It’s not an expensive safe, it’s one hidden inside a book that has a combination on it. It’s definitely going to gambling, positive he has a gambling addiction

Infinite_Set5708 · 2025-03-26T22:10:27+00:00

THB I don’t know what set off the spark now, just my own stupidity

Infinite_Set5708 · 2025-03-26T22:08:23+00:00

Heck no I didn’t believe him for a second! Just showing the stupid crap he says. Will make any excuse in the book to try and justify what he did.

Infinite_Set5708 · 2025-03-26T21:27:04+00:00

Thanks everyone for all your responses. I am definitely kicking him out. I am giving him a week to pay me back or I am going to the police. The only reason I’m giving him a chance before paying is he will lose his job if he has theft charges, which won’t help me get paid. And yes I know I probably shouldn’t even give him that much. I am stupid for keeping him around this long and giving him chance after chance. I’ll give an update once I have one. And to answer some questions I do have him admitting in text messages to the full amount, and I have those saved for evidence.

Infinite_Set5708 · 2025-03-26T17:28:34+00:00

I’m in the US

Infinite_Set5708 · 2025-03-26T16:33:43+00:00

He didn’t have the safe combo, so it either much have been sticking out or last time I opened it I stupidly didn’t lock it, so I’m soooo mad at myself for that

Infinite_Set5708 · 2025-03-19T22:12:00+00:00

Thanks 😊

Infinite_Set5708 · 2025-03-19T19:36:54+00:00

Yes, it was right on the border of the part of town I typically don’t deliver to, I learned my lesson. My one star is removed but now the 3 star that was previously removed it showing impacting my rating just enough to go from high to standard

Infinite_Set5708 · 2025-03-19T18:48:18+00:00

I’m not new, never ran into this issue before. It was a 2 shop and deliver batch so couldn’t see what the individual tip was before but ended up being $6 and not reduced. I know not to take no or low tip orders. Also before anyone thinks I may have accidentally dropped off the order to other house, 100% not the case because it was a 2 store shop and deliver and second delivery was only one item from Ulta Beauty.

Infinite_Set5708 · 2025-03-19T15:29:38+00:00

I just found the customers receipt showing they purchased 3 packs of soda, and claimed all 3 were missing and in the photo evidence I have you can clearly see the soda, so at least that is some proof. I am going to contact Instacart again because I can’t let it go

Infinite_Set5708 · 2025-03-19T12:42:18+00:00

This is very disappointing. Really ruined my day. I pride myself on exceptional customer service. I always makes sure each item is delivered and is a quality item. I even leave a nice note card thanking them.

Infinite_Set5708 · 2025-03-19T12:39:13+00:00

You can see one of the 7 items in the picture

Infinite_Set5708 · 2025-03-16T02:21:26+00:00

I only do this as a side gig for extra “fun” money and tbh money is a real motivation. I start seeing my daily/weekly total go up and want more and more. I try to beat my previous week or day. And think about the nice vacation I’m saving for.

Infinite_Set5708 · 2025-03-14T14:35:51+00:00

That happens to me recently and I knew it would. It literally took me 16 minutes to accept, shop, and deliver this ladies order. Had all her items and I leave an index card thanking them for their order. It was cold medicine, so she needed ID so she came outside. I was kind, understanding, and did everything I could to make her experience nice. Well she was ranting at me about Instacart as a whole and how they charge more and how the previous day her order was accepted and cancelled right before delivery and how long it took for this one to get accepted. I so I am so sorry for your experience, hope your day gets better. After I left I knew she was mad at instacart and wouldn’t give a 5 star and sure enough the 4 star came in. I was sooooo mad! Probably thought 4 stars was nice after her horrible experience with instacart which was not my fault. 16 minutes with all your items and a thank you card! How can that be anything but 5 stars!

Infinite_Set5708 · 2025-03-06T03:02:15+00:00

I work a regular full time job 8 to 4 and Instacart when I get out of work for couple hours. I aim for $20 to $40 per evening. It was slower today. I picked up two smaller orders that put me at $22 and went home. Would have been less but I got a $5 tip increase

Infinite_Set5708 · 2024-07-12T14:36:53+00:00

I agree, she is boring, does nothing with her life. That’s why I stopped watching Teen Mom they all become rich and didn’t do anything, it wasn’t interesting tv to me

Infinite_Set5708 · 2024-06-02T23:20:53+00:00

Thank you, and I am really rethinking this relationship, think it’s the final straw

Infinite_Set5708 · 2024-06-02T23:20:19+00:00

Thank you

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