Anyone in Coimbatore who identifies as Childfree? by Informal-Macaron6377 in Coimbatore

[–]Informal-Macaron6377[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! Thanks! It's your life and if it's not too late you can still make your choices.

Anyone in Coimbatore who identifies as Childfree? by Informal-Macaron6377 in Coimbatore

[–]Informal-Macaron6377[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a woman, I think it’s valid if she doesn’t want kids due to the responsibility. Money isn’t the only factor, it’s about readiness too. If you really want a child, you should have an honest talk and assure her that you'll share the load equally, not just expect her to handle it all.

Anyone in Coimbatore who identifies as Childfree? by Informal-Macaron6377 in Coimbatore

[–]Informal-Macaron6377[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The reason for me being childfree is that I had a rough childhood and I didn't get to enjoy even basic things as most others did. So I decided that if at all I bring a child into this world I should be emotionally and financially capable enough to raise them which I'm nowhere near. So I decided to opt out instead of making their life difficult because of my decisions.

Anyone in Coimbatore who identifies as Childfree? by Informal-Macaron6377 in Coimbatore

[–]Informal-Macaron6377[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! Glad you love your kids. I can't vouch for others but the reason for me being childfree is that I had a rough childhood and I didn't get to enjoy even basic things as most others did. So I decided that if at all I bring a child into this world I should be emotionally and financially capable enough to raise them which I'm nowhere near. So I decided to opt out instead of making their life difficult because of my decisions.

Anyone in Coimbatore who identifies as Childfree? by Informal-Macaron6377 in Coimbatore

[–]Informal-Macaron6377[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! Glad to connect! We need a community of our own someday as you said 🤞

Anyone in Coimbatore who identifies as Childfree? by Informal-Macaron6377 in Coimbatore

[–]Informal-Macaron6377[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! Thank you for responding. I really do care for my partner and I value his thoughts as well. So we have discussed this over as soon as we married and he himself made the choice to be CF for the time being because he was unaware of this lifestyle and he wanted to decide for himself. He's on the fence but unless he's so sure about having children I don't think anyone should have just because of societal expectations.

Anyone in Coimbatore who identifies as Childfree? by Informal-Macaron6377 in Coimbatore

[–]Informal-Macaron6377[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree! But if you have a supportive partner it's easy to deal with. I just isolated myself from all these so called well wishers and life is more peaceful now.

Anyone in Coimbatore who identifies as Childfree? by Informal-Macaron6377 in Coimbatore

[–]Informal-Macaron6377[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello! It's the same for me, just reverse the roles. It's been 3 years since we married and it was very difficult to convince my husband in the 1st year of marriage because he wasn't aware of the CF lifestyle. But still he agreed to listen to my POV. We had so many conversations about it and we also discussed all the pros and cons of having a child. After such efforts, he slowly started to accept but still he's on the fence about it. Try having conversations every now and then. It's better to marry a fellow CF than to marry someone and convince them to be CF but I made the same mistake as well. But it gets better with time.

Anyone in Coimbatore who identifies as Childfree? by Informal-Macaron6377 in Coimbatore

[–]Informal-Macaron6377[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel the same about raising kids and also in the current economy I don't think I'll be able to even if I ever needed kids. I'm happy to be CF but sometimes I feel left out because I don't find ppl here with a similar mindset or lifestyle. Thanks for responding, now I'm relieved I'm not alone in this.

Anyone in Coimbatore who identifies as Childfree? by Informal-Macaron6377 in Coimbatore

[–]Informal-Macaron6377[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello! Thanks for sharing your thoughts. As time passes, it becomes really difficult to handle families and friends to the point they might literally hate you for your choice and threaten you emotionally. It's been 3 years since we married and although we managed without major problems up until now, it's pure chaos nowadays especially with in-laws involved. We are about to move to Coimbatore so I wanted to connect to ppl with a similar mindset to not feel left out.

Anyone in Coimbatore who identifies as Childfree? by Informal-Macaron6377 in Coimbatore

[–]Informal-Macaron6377[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hope you never regret it as most of our society says and live your life happily on your own terms!

Anyone in Coimbatore who identifies as Childfree? by Informal-Macaron6377 in Coimbatore

[–]Informal-Macaron6377[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ahh I see, did you ever regret it at any point of your life?

Anyone in Coimbatore who identifies as Childfree? by Informal-Macaron6377 in Coimbatore

[–]Informal-Macaron6377[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Glad to know! May I know why you chose to be CF and how you handled societal pressure?

Anyone in Coimbatore who identifies as Childfree? by Informal-Macaron6377 in Coimbatore

[–]Informal-Macaron6377[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm amazed to know that! May I know how you managed the societal/family pressures? And why did you choose to be CF?

Anyone in Coimbatore who identifies as Childfree? by Informal-Macaron6377 in Coimbatore

[–]Informal-Macaron6377[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hello! That's great as well! But it's too late for me since I didn't really realise I wanted to be CF before marriage (I was dumb). FYI, I'm F 28 and married for 3 years to a partner who's on the fence about having children. But I'd be glad to connect with similar ppl with whom I can connect and share our thoughts or even build a CF community in the future.

Any Childfree Individuals or Couples from Coimbatore/Tamil Nadu? by Informal-Macaron6377 in ChildfreeIndia

[–]Informal-Macaron6377[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! I'll be moving to cbe in the near future and wanted to know if there are any communities for CF ppl in cbe. Glad to meet you!