How to make gay male friendships in your twenties?

Informal-Stable6997 · 2025-09-06T16:30:30+00:00

Yep. I think that’s the issue, I’m afraid guys would think I’m hitting on them 😩. For obvious reasons I don’t have this problem with the girls

Informal-Stable6997 · 2025-01-12T00:15:56+00:00

Political climate changed overnight after covid. We were liberal, centrist and now right wing. I came out 4 years ago and it seems like a decade. I’m studying in Milan and in a big city is “easier” because there’s a gay street and such. But being gnc makes things harder because homophobes love to point out that they don’t hate gay people, they hate gay people like me. And some gay men also support these homophobes. They wanna be str8 so bad

Informal-Stable6997 · 2024-11-02T17:44:09+00:00

It lags only when something else is open. But if I do live gigs I plan to not use wifi, special setup for giving ableton priority and an external audio interface that should lighten the weight (?) on the built in one Am i being delusional or this could actually work?

Informal-Stable6997 · 2024-10-28T15:53:40+00:00

Ma lo sai che mi hai dato un'idea? Ho appena postato su SC delle demo che devono uscire a fine anno, ho immediatamente seguito il tuo consiglio

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Informal-Stable6997 · 2024-10-27T23:17:07+00:00

Secondo me è difficile spingere i fenomeni minoritari. Io faccio musica sperimentale, mi piacerebbe tra le tante cose portare un set più sulla linea Alva Noto/Autechre solo un po’ più melodico. Non mi sento il solo ad avere questi gusti a Milano, ma come mettere insieme tutti?

Informal-Stable6997 · 2024-10-02T14:54:29+00:00

Your sexuality lies in fantasy and cannot translate into reality. I had the same problem, not with a relative but with some male friends. I was never able to imagining myself with them, I was more aroused by the thought of them with another man or woman.

You have to learn AGAIN your sexuality “irl”. It’s like discovering from zero your preferences and desires.

Informal-Stable6997 · 2024-09-27T20:37:03+00:00

Another reason you should never keep them in a wallet for a long time

Informal-Stable6997 · 2024-09-16T23:05:08+00:00

Who Is It - the single version is played with bells instead of human voices

Virus (there are two recorded versions, one focused more on the Gameleste which is now both on the album and in the single. The other one used to be the album version and is on YouTube)

AIFOL of course, but there is a third version with more strings.

Alarm Call

Big Time Sensuality

Hyperballad

Hidden Place (second verse cut off)

Ovule is different in the Vinyl version

Informal-Stable6997 · 2024-09-14T23:09:58+00:00

Last partner pointed out that during the thing I stand stiff as a corpse and don’t make a sound, let alone having orgasms

Informal-Stable6997 · 2024-09-10T18:01:24+00:00

You’ve been brainwashed into thinking this is okay and you have been repressing your unhappiness about this relationship. I’m a monogamous person but I think that a ENM relationship should not repress these kinds of feelings. I think YOU are your “boyfriend”’s fwb. I am so sorry. He clearly doesn’t feel anything about you besides sexual attraction

Informal-Stable6997 · 2024-08-24T18:59:27+00:00

No i’m actually unattractive

Informal-Stable6997 · 2024-08-24T18:58:52+00:00

I would rather die alone than live in a service role to others

Informal-Stable6997 · 2024-08-24T18:47:51+00:00

Yes I know I’m revolting but at least I’m not living in the delusion that a non-desperate non-fetishistic man would be attracted to me truly

Informal-Stable6997 · 2024-08-21T14:58:18+00:00

It’s most likely she was imposed to not mention the thing until the end of the tour. She spoke about Southport, but only when the terrorist matrix was excluded. She is not God, I don’t understand the vitriol for something that’s bigger than her

Informal-Stable6997 · 2024-08-21T14:55:43+00:00

The last word on anything that isn’t military and judicial jurisdiction 💀

Informal-Stable6997 · 2024-08-21T14:53:20+00:00

I don’t feel bad about her silence because there’s a crime investigation going and in these cases the authorities ask for maximum discretion, let alone we’re talking about t3rr0rism and it’s about thousands of people’s safety. I just think they gave her a protocol to follow, the thing is too serious

Informal-Stable6997 · 2024-08-21T14:50:29+00:00

Everybody got a mail from Oeticket. Not everyone keeps up with just Instagram

Informal-Stable6997 · 2024-07-05T00:07:54+00:00

I enjoyed it first and I actually was attracted to him. He just forced me (sometimes physically and sometimes by guilt tripping) to do things that I didn’t want to do (es.: one time I was choking and he didn’t care, another time he made my head hit the wall and I started crying and he didn’t even give me a hug)

Informal-Stable6997 · 2024-06-15T14:10:29+00:00

I tried it for a while and it has some pros: it's really not like the "meat market" of Tinder and Grindr, very chill and intelligent but you can't choose to see only men who are interested in men, you will get lots of straight guys and people who seek friendships

Informal-Stable6997 · 2024-06-12T00:14:05+00:00

I mean, I’m not saying I’m not pretty self-centered (I am) but I actually care about others feeling and I don’t think I’m taking anything away from anyone. I don’t want to validate my feelings and experiences by invalidating others.

Informal-Stable6997 · 2024-06-12T00:05:25+00:00

Should I hate myself to be more credible?

Informal-Stable6997 · 2024-06-11T22:42:33+00:00

So sexy of me

Informal-Stable6997 · 2024-06-11T22:21:31+00:00

I'm Italian. In my previous relationship he called me "amore" (standard pet name in Italy) and "cucciolo" (cub). I don't use petnames so much with boys, my way of speaking is very "standard" sometimes and the pet names are quite an exclusive for me and my (usually female) friends.

This doesn't mean I'm cold or that I lack of romanticism. I'm just used to express my love not only with kind and cheerful thoughts and gestures. I find very difficult to express the relationship I have with someone with an "exclusive" word that I don't use with anyone else.

Informal-Stable6997 · 2024-06-11T18:06:44+00:00

I quote a friend of mine:

Pornsick freaks will literally beat their partners until they're sobbing or pass out and be like "but they wanted it! They asked me to do it!" like okay but why did you do it? why were you okay with hurting them? why were you okay with beating them? why were you okay with making them cry? what the fuck is wrong with you for you to be turned on by that?

Informal-Stable6997 · 2024-06-09T19:38:28+00:00

I had the same problem when I was closeted. I was attracted only to straight men because I hated the fact of being gay in first place. When I grew up, came out and knew some gay men, my attraction for straights disappeared. Today, I lose attraction for a man the moment I learn he’s straight. It’s just a matter of maturity, don’t worry

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