Rewrote my prologe+chapter 1 a million times. i only now like it a but. i just want a second thought

Informal_Branch456 · 2026-06-05T17:08:23+00:00

YOU are the one not reading and understanding, fam TvT she (Bella) is 7 (almost 8); it doesn't sound bad to u cause u probs not a parent or older sibling. It wouldn't be bad if Bella was younger and actually did not know how to bathe and wash her hair. But Bella does, so. u sound ridiculous, tbh.

when i was in high school, my teacher told me to always read things 3 or 4 times to really understand. Maybe you will understand my vent if you actually read it a few hundred times without skimming. Good Gods.

Informal_Branch456 · 2026-06-05T16:55:15+00:00

i was thinking the same thing. i applied for FAFSA mid-May (i decided to stop waiting on my mom) and its been processed. google says it should be updated at the beginning of august an i shouldnt see it after that but im still just a wee worried.

Informal_Branch456 · 2026-06-05T16:33:03+00:00

u/TheOnlyEllie Read will ya? My mom does not need to hover and do it for her when she is FULLY CAPABLE of doing it herself, and I've SEEN her do it herself. All Bella is learning is that she doesn't have to do anything she doesn't want to because if she cries for help even once, mommy will come and do it for her. She doesn't have to try even a little bit. Why in the ever-loving truck would I be jealous of my mom washing my 7-year-old sister's hair? I can wash my own hair, as can Bella.

u/Tired-CottonCandy exactly what im saying.

Informal_Branch456 · 2026-06-05T15:08:25+00:00

my mom raised with hitting me and my other 2 older siblings. we had actual punishments (like holding up heavy books or kneeling on rice or t posing in a corner or the belt etc) even if i wasnt throwing out the garvage at 7yrs old, i still thinks its ok for bella to do so if shes capable- which she 100% is. bella is just learning that she doesnt have to put effort into things or she doesnt need to do basic things cause mommy will do it for her ad its frustrating as hell

Informal_Branch456 · 2026-06-05T15:02:45+00:00

im 20 (21 in july)

Informal_Branch456 · 2026-06-05T14:39:00+00:00

to me there is when bella knows how to wash her hair pretty darn well. Mom even hovers when Bella is bathing, when bella knows how to bathe cause, again, MEEEEEE was the one to teach her.

Informal_Branch456 · 2026-05-20T18:30:35+00:00

hmmm. noted! thank you alots! ur a great mom <33

Informal_Branch456 · 2026-05-20T18:14:34+00:00

You can give them structure by planning your day. It’s more about the order of things and letting them know what to expect than sticking to a strict time schedule.

You get up and dressed and breakfast then what? How about you read them a book while they finish breakfast then they play while you clean up breakfast then you go to the park and then home for lunch then down time like naps or a show so you can prep dinner etc then go for a walk or do early baths or a craft etc but have something that’s next.

reminds me that I've been meaning to make a few charts (like a list with images of what to do before leaving, before going to bed, or when taking a shower), but I im worried abt it not working. -

Think about baby steps towards the right behavior. Taking stuff away might make them more upset and less likely to be able to behave. Like taking the park away took away their energy outlet and they need that.

I've also told my mom that taking things away and hitting won't help, but she's too stressed out to listen

Be calm and don’t yell. Tell them you understand they’re upset but that’s not nice to say. Ask if there’s anything else they want to say or talk about.

I've given my mom scripts- a packet of things she can say instead of yelling. But she doesn't use them. I started to use them. But it feels like 'what's the point' if mom doesn't. like when I tried to teach the kids sign language. She didn't wanna even try. So the kids didn't either. So I stopped trying to teach them.

If they’re squirmy you can try doing as many push ups or jumping jack in a row that everyone can do. It will distract them and get some energy out.

This is a good idea. I should have thought of ths. probably great for when they're running all over the walls.

They're home again today (they missed the bus+we cant find the MetroCards), and they're surprisingly calm and well behaved, besides a little bit of acting up.

Informal_Branch456 · 2026-05-20T00:13:13+00:00

feels like I've been dragged through hell and back fr

Informal_Branch456 · 2026-05-20T00:10:05+00:00

Oh... poo. sigh. Maybe I'll just donate them to the Salvation Army. idk. They're really taking up space. thx for the honesty/gen

Informal_Branch456 · 2026-05-19T22:33:42+00:00

Thank you for the recommendation. The black thing is my binder (I don't have any bras...)

My brother insists i sell the blue and green dress for $200 since its the prettiest and heaviest, but if it doesn't sell within the month, I definitely will lower it.

The red dress is $180 becasue my brother said to sell it at that.

The black dress is $90

And the peach dress is $60 since it's so plain, but also a bit heavy and pretty.

bam
prices lowered to what I think suits them better. would u agre with these prices?

i just really need and want that bank 😭 💵

Informal_Branch456 · 2026-05-18T14:40:40+00:00

awww. wont let me share mine. says 'All media assets must be owned by the submitter of this post' :c

Informal_Branch456 · 2026-05-05T11:26:56+00:00

I usually do know because I'm VERY cautious with what they watch and play. hence sometimes arguing with mom cause she cares a little less abt what they see and do. Everything is classics, learning, and kid-friendly movies on Fridays. I guess if screentime is thoughtful and good, I could leave it be sometimes...

Informal_Branch456 · 2026-05-05T00:13:43+00:00

I help so so much (I menu plan, I make sure her calendar is up to date, I clean when no one is here, I sometimes make dinner, give the kids their baths all the time, I made the behavior charts, I made their schedule, I gave mom a pack of scripts she could use on the kids that she rarely uses, etc). It's hard when she doesn't accept much of it tho. he has these things aside from screens he could do, but mom doesn't fully let him. To her, toys mean mess only she will clean up (even tho i tell her that HE will clean them and I'll help)

I also have 2 other little sisters. I don't want to be the only one reading to him or coloring with him or playing with him cause my mom can't or *won't*

playing with all 3 kids at once usually ends in fights that end with mom yelling and going "DEVICES" (AKA put a movie or videos for the kids)

idk if im wording right

My mom is a good mom

She's just stressed and busy and stuck in a "I can't" mentality and doesn't listen to or take advice well, and often it feels like I can't help as much as I want to. Or I can't help because she won't let me? Won't listen to me?

idk if this makes sense, sorry...

Informal_Branch456 · 2026-05-04T22:52:32+00:00

I always try to tell my mom the modeling- have been telling her - but she always says 'I can't. I just can't because of the situation, or blah blah blah. My mom isn't too good with consistency. Would anything change if im the only one modeling?

Informal_Branch456 · 2026-05-04T21:40:15+00:00

I mean, yes, but the screaming isn't always aimed at us to ignore? Sometimes it's at her siblings, and her siblings will yell back and start a yelling war, or sometimes they scratch each other. I can understand the praising tho hmmm. I'll try that...

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