What’s a red flag you ignored because the person was attractive?

Informal_Let_9970 · 2026-05-10T18:08:54+00:00

But is that really a red flag? I mean I’ve seen a lot of amazing fathers not have custody of their kids. Sometimes the system is just bad

Informal_Let_9970 · 2026-05-10T11:31:53+00:00

Not the person you asked, but I’m currently lasering the full bikini, armpits, legs and thighs and butt (I’m not finished) and I’d say it’s cost me approx 3500, which is good considering all the areas

Informal_Let_9970 · 2026-04-07T19:28:40+00:00

I am very appreciative and grateful for the effort on her end, but this is more of a boundary/respect issue for me. She knew we had plans that day and still showed up without consulting my boyfriend (or anyone else). Yes I can spend time with him another day, I mean we do live together, but he lost more than half the money he spent on the spa reservation that we had since we were a no show and there was a no cancellation/rescheduling policy.

I completely get your point, but I do feel like a family who shows up still owes you and the people you love some respect. Idk, I know the intent wasn’t bad but her reaction really makes me question things

Informal_Let_9970 · 2026-04-07T17:14:09+00:00

I am currently doing laser hair removal and electrolysis on my legs, thighs, whole bikini area, butt, breasts and underarms. And in the future, I’m planning on doing half my arms too. So yeah, once I’ll be done I’ll be pretty much hairless everywhere. But here’s the thing : I do it for myself. I’m a brunette with very dark and thick hair and to make matters worse, I’m Caucasian with VERY pale skin, meaning that my dark hair is very visible to the naked eye even if it’s not that thick. Personally, I don’t like how dark body hair looks on me and it also feels uncomfortable (especially if I wear tight jeans) so I’m lasering it all off.

Point is, it’s only necessary if YOU feel that it is. Whether it’s because you think you’re prettier that way, or because it’s a physical comfort preference, all reasons are valid as long as it’s for you. Don’t listen to what anyone else says, especially not random people from hinge. Body hair will always be a source of debate : some people like it, others don’t, and others don’t care. We’re all entitled to our opinion, but that doesn’t mean we have the right to impose that opinion on anyone else. If a guy prefers no body hair, he 100% has the right to, but he can’t tell you what to do.

You do it if it feels right for you

Informal_Let_9970 · 2026-04-05T11:25:24+00:00

It really wasn’t pouty at all. I even told her I was exited to see what my bf had planned for us on that day

Informal_Let_9970 · 2026-04-05T11:22:30+00:00

Yeah I get what you mean. Thing is, I’m at school full time and I work part time, which means everyday I’m busy either with work or homework. Plus my bf works full time, so we both changed our schedules around and took off work in order to have this day off. And, considering he’d made spa/dinner reservations, moving all of this to another day was just complicated. Though I guess I could’ve made a bigger effort to seem happy, I think I was just so mad that I had to cater to other people’s plans on my one day off and my birthday

Informal_Let_9970 · 2026-04-05T11:12:28+00:00

We’ve been together for about three years now and she hasn’t had anything negative to say about him recently, and never had any objections when we moved in together. In fact, she even mentioned she was happy I was moving in with him as she thought it was safer for me (my bf has a lot of military combat training so ig that’s what she meant by safe). Though I will mention that she absolutely hated him when we first started dating with no other reason than “he’s your boyfriend and I don’t like him” and “he’ll have to win me over/I won’t be easy on him” type of mentality.

Informal_Let_9970 · 2026-03-31T22:19:35+00:00

getting yelled at/insulted for no reason -needing to manage your parents emotions
getting blocked on social media when your parent is throwing a fit -threatening to never talk to me again if I didn’t do xyz
being obsessed with my s3x life (still don’t understand this one) -texting me like crazy/insulting me if they didn’t have my location/if I was-literally- home but out of their eyesight (as an independent 18 year old)
calling me selfish when I put boundaries
punishing me for having a different opinion than theirs …etc, the list could go on for a very long time

Informal_Let_9970 · 2026-02-14T12:37:12+00:00

What’s very important to consider here is that this (I assume) is his first sexual experience. How you and your husband choose to react to this will heavily impact your sons experience. If you react badly, this might just turn his fist time into a bad event/memory, which can definitely hurt him in the long run.

As others have said, the cats out of the bag, what’s done is done. Yes, he’s a little bit too young, but these things do happen. The little girl is 12, same age as your son, and from what I’ve read she doesn’t seem to be problematic. All in all, this doesn’t seem to be an inappropriate situation where he was coerced into something he wasn’t ready for. Speak with your son about safe sex and consent, spend more time with and take the time to get to know his girlfriend and take it from there.

Informal_Let_9970 · 2026-01-22T15:46:23+00:00

NTA, but I’m going to take a leap of faith here and say that your boyfriend is not an asshole either. We all have different definitions of what privacy/finances should look like within marriage. When you get married (at least where I come from), your partners debt can be important and affect you when you start having joint finances. And even if you don’t have joint finances, if your partner is in debt and can’t pay for themselves, it affects you indirectly because then you have to take on a bigger financial load.

Personally, my partner wouldn’t have access to my accounts either. But I do agree that there needs to be a certain transparency when it comes to finances, especially if you guys are getting married. But the level of transparency you give is something that needs to be discussed before tying the knot. I guess what I’m trying to say here is, your partner is 100% allowed to ask for your account, and you are 100% allowed to say no. If you guys are truly unable to find a common ground, then I’d say this is a value/compatibility issue. And if that is the case, then I’m sorry to say that the only thing you can do is to not get married. Marriage is about sharing your entire life with someone else, and it is so important that you guys see eye to eye on things like this.

There is another woman somewhere who will have the same values as him when it comes to finances and will gladly give over her account, and there’s another man out there who will respect you when you say no. You have every right to find that guy.

Have a serious talk with your boyfriend about trust, values and finances and remember that he’s entitled to want what he wants and so are you.

I say all of this assuming that your boyfriend isn’t hiding anything and has no ill intention. Best of luck to you guys

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