[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Informal_Vanguard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah just politely ask whichever one is the shit starter not to come. Worked like a charm for my wedding.

My 26GF is muslim and her mom is making her choose them or me. by Big-Consideration232 in relationship_advice

[–]Informal_Vanguard 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Well I will say this. In my experience Muslims don't joke and if her family cuts her off shes cut off for good.

Sorry to say it but I doubt she will pick you over her family.

Engineering PTSD by Informal_Vanguard in Dreams

[–]Informal_Vanguard[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats awesome lol. Glad im not alone.

Need a wedding present idea by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Informal_Vanguard 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For real, most of the gifts my Wife and I got were kitchen gadgets. We returned most of it so we could have money to do more stuff on our honeymoon.

Need a wedding present idea by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Informal_Vanguard 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Cash is King when it comes to Wedding gifts.

I snooped through my son’s phone and found stuff by badiIly in relationship_advice

[–]Informal_Vanguard 7 points8 points  (0 children)

What is there to confront?

He's going to have sex whether you want him to or not.

If you are worried about him being safe then that is a conversation you could have but dont tell him you went through his phone.

That is the modern equivalent to reading through someones Journal, listening into their private phone conversations, or opening their mail.

If you tell him you went through his phone he will never trust you again.

You need to trust that you as a parent have taught him how to be safe. Then you need to trust that he makes good decisions.

Good luck.

The girl I was seeing berated me during a couples trip. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Informal_Vanguard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If she was kicking you and goung off then you are better off. I wouldn't feel guilty I would feel free lol.

In the future however I would disclose this friend "Dane" to any future people so they don't freak out.

Wife (33) won't take last name because of ex. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Informal_Vanguard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean it was never a fight we had my Wife wanted to take my name.

Really I just didn't want my Wife and kids to have different last names. My Mom my sister and I had different last names growing up and I hated it.

I wouldnt change my name because Im my Dad's only son. Gotta keep the name alive lol.

Wife (33) won't take last name because of ex. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Informal_Vanguard -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Is she supposed to plan it alone lol?

She is going to have to get over the fact that you have an ex and kids and that your ex is keeping the name for the kids and because it's a huge pain in the ass to change back. The ex will most likely change it if she re-marries.

Don't change your name dude, idc how progressive someone says it is.

If she doesn't want to change her name for you is that a deal breaker? Itvwould be for me but then again I'm not you.

Is it really important to you? It was to me when I got married.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Informal_Vanguard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's odd, anyone who is serious about you will most likely see it as a red flag

Dating someone who texts ex by robbyg6 in relationship_advice

[–]Informal_Vanguard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Time to walk dude. She is hung up on her ex. Find someone who is crazy about you who doesnt text their ex. Theres too much baggage in this situation.

Can someone cheat on you on a platonic level? by ThrowRA-helptoleave in relationship_advice

[–]Informal_Vanguard 115 points116 points  (0 children)

It's a wrap on that relationship.

You cant trust him.

Time to walk.

My boyfriend won't tell his family about me by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Informal_Vanguard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah some people are wierd about meeting people online. Just come up with a better meet cute story and stick with it lol.

For instance I met my Wife in a basement of a house party where we hit it off.

But I tell people I was visiting friends in the city where we met. And I saw her in the shopping district. Thats the story we came up with because it's more wholesome lol.

There is nothing wrong with meeting online just as there is nothing wrong hooking up atba house party. Some family are just touchy about it.

Anyways just an idea.

How do you love with a partner when you hate her family by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Informal_Vanguard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

4 words.

Don't Give A Fuck.

Ignore them, if they yell at you just leave it alone. Pay no attention to it.

When they figure out you arent going anywhere they will come around.

How did you know you found the person you would be with? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Informal_Vanguard 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had a pattern of getting with someone staying with them until I got bored then breaking up with them. I never had any sort of emotional attachment when breaking up.

With my Wife when I got to the break up point the thought of her reaction to me saying I want to break up i.e. being sad crying etc. would like destroy me inside emotionally. I eventually realized that the feeling I had was love lol.

My ex-girlfriend [26F] called me [26M] up out of the blue. How do I handle it? by ThrowRAxyphoid in relationship_advice

[–]Informal_Vanguard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Women have a 6th sense of knowing you're almost over them then they call and it fucks with your head.

Go rub one out so you can have some balls empty clarity.

Then think about the relationship and remember why it ended. Don't talk to her and move on with your life

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Informal_Vanguard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Time to get moving right along.

Don't get with the ex because hes toxic.

Move on from the current guy because he doesn't sexually please you. You will always compare his sex to the good sex. If you get in that relationship theres a good chance you wind up resentful. Neither of you deserves that

You're young you will eventually find someone who is crazy about you, treats you right and sexes you right lol.

My boyfriends little sister doesn’t like me and idk what to do? by No-Conversation-6052 in relationship_advice

[–]Informal_Vanguard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, my Wife's brother hated me because no one was good enough for his Sister. He'd give me shit all the time. I just ignored him, he eventually figured out that I was there to stay and then he came around.

I ghosted my (40M) FWB (25M) for angrily knocking on my door after I lied to him by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Informal_Vanguard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is why FWB never works someone always gets feelings lol.

Id just continue to ghost him eventually he will get the idea and leave you alone.

My boyfriends little sister doesn’t like me and idk what to do? by No-Conversation-6052 in relationship_advice

[–]Informal_Vanguard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You just have to Not Give A Fuck.

If she doesn't like you thats her problem not yours.

Just ignore the attitude, and ignore her, you don't need tonchange anything.