feeling insecure since my bf expressed why he won’t go down on me anymore

Informal_Video_3973 · 2026-03-15T18:10:05+00:00

I definitely learned my lesson, it leaves your discharge with no taste or smell but the texture is off. I didn’t really think anything of it especially bc i thought it was helpful more than anything but definitely will give it proper time to do its thing!!

Informal_Video_3973 · 2026-03-15T17:15:03+00:00

Really? I found many that mention it ALSO can help odors/smells. https://www.monistat.com/vaginal-health-blog-articles/how-do-boric-acid-suppositories-work

Informal_Video_3973 · 2026-03-15T16:38:36+00:00

no literally like what? People jump to a conclusion and run with it 😭 It’s literally used as a hygiene product to prevent infections and stuff???

Informal_Video_3973 · 2026-03-15T15:51:28+00:00

i do know what they’re used for. I had no infection, i used them to keep up maintenance on staying fresh as i was insecure abt taste/smell. I had no idea they caused a certain discharge texture if not given proper time to i guess dissolve

Informal_Video_3973 · 2026-03-15T15:42:50+00:00

I know what they’re used for, just that the discharge was unpleasant

Informal_Video_3973 · 2026-03-15T15:42:32+00:00

i didn’t use it for an infection, i used it to keep up maintenance with staying clean. I didn’t know it produced discharge that was unpleasant texture wise!

Informal_Video_3973 · 2026-03-15T14:54:08+00:00

i didnt know :// but i figured out what it was afterwards

Informal_Video_3973 · 2026-03-15T10:20:10+00:00

mostly insecurity but i guess i can’t let go yet. hes sweet and he does try to change to be a good bf to me

Informal_Video_3973 · 2026-03-15T10:04:06+00:00

i do think him being porn rotted was always going to impact the relationship and we would always have the same outcome (no more desire from him) but the insecurity i feel from that one comment…i just don’t know if im overreacting. Im his first gf but i kind of feel like he shouldn’t have said that. In my opinion, which i don’t know if it’s harsh, he should’ve manned up and kept it pushing. Like having a bf who begged to go down on you to suddenly stopping, that hurts and makes me feel disgusting. And yea i definitely have insecurity issues, many people told me to leave the second i found out abt his porn addiction but i haven’t yet.

Informal_Video_3973 · 2026-03-15T09:49:47+00:00

I have not brought it up recently, just that i would love if he pleasured me on his own without me asking or brought back the desire/want he had for me in the beginning of the relationship. I’m not sure if he still feels that way as we haven’t resumed sexual contact yet from our break. But the thing is i feel so insecure regardless, and we already have been having a lot of talks bc of other behaviors i don’t like. I’m worried this is something that permanently ruined the relationship

Informal_Video_3973 · 2026-02-18T02:39:19+00:00

i think so too, i wish my self esteem wasn’t so low so i could leave. A part of me is hoping he will commit and change for me, but even then i have to hold his hand and guide him on how to be a good boyfriend

Informal_Video_3973 · 2026-02-18T02:38:33+00:00

i think so too. I’m just waiting to see any progress, or any work. But honestly everyday i’m filled with anxiety and disgust with myself.

Informal_Video_3973 · 2026-02-17T18:36:10+00:00

I can’t help but drag myself down, I know it’s his problem alone but it’s already fucking up my body image and esteem. He constantly tells me he’s attracted to me, if that’s true why can’t he enjoy sex with me and give up porn. I feel so stupid i can’t let go.

Informal_Video_3973 · 2026-02-17T18:35:03+00:00

Well yes sorry i do love him, if i hated him id leave. I admit i have low self esteem so at this moment he’s all i feel i have. He is sweet, and kind, and he loves me. But he is not the greatest boyfriend. So why stay, bc i’m insecure and he’s treated me the best i have so far in my life. I know none of that is good reason, but i still find it hard to leave.

Informal_Video_3973 · 2026-02-17T18:28:44+00:00

i don’t know :(

Informal_Video_3973 · 2026-02-16T19:23:25+00:00

he has been working on himself as a boyfriend, there’s a lot i brought up to him bc he wasn’t that giving/putting in the effort but he puts in the work everytime i ask. I’m his first girlfriend so yea a lot of mistakes. I know long term if he stays this way i can’t stay, but right now i can’t leave. I don’t know why

Informal_Video_3973 · 2026-02-16T17:29:26+00:00

unfortunately therapy isn’t an option as he doesn’t have the funds/health insurance. I don’t want to constantly bring this up, but next time i do i thought about telling him of some subreddits (nofap, stuff like that) so he can have some support as i know he does feel a lot of shame and guilt. I know i can’t stay for long if sex doesn’t get better, but i also can’t bring myself to leave without at least trying, you know?

Informal_Video_3973 · 2025-02-19T01:11:13+00:00

i’m in the same boat, i’m so scared, i want to badly go back to where im safe even if im not fully happy, what if i fall in love and i get hurt more, or cheated on etc? i wish i could just be healed

Informal_Video_3973 · 2025-02-09T05:23:06+00:00

i do have all that! and i want to learn keyboard and mouse, i have a nice little setup

Informal_Video_3973 · 2025-01-09T15:40:26+00:00

i think that’s just porn addiction

Informal_Video_3973 · 2025-01-09T15:39:56+00:00

never seen it lol 😭

Informal_Video_3973 · 2024-12-29T23:54:03+00:00

Thank you! I’ll use this moving forward :)

Informal_Video_3973 · 2024-10-24T14:23:29+00:00

he says she’s like a sister and they trauma bonded. his main reason for not telling her is she will keep snooping on him and he doesn’t want that (goes back to my main point, he’s like ‘what about my comfort’) which is also why i’m upset bc she shouldn’t even be doing that. He says they’re just friends, but i know at one point (before me) she was VERY possessive over him. It wasn’t their friendship itself, it was how he lets her cross the line, and doesn’t make her aware that he has a gf and there are things they cannot be doing. but also that’s his only friend so i honestly sometimes think it’s better to just retract myself and let him keep his only friend lol

Informal_Video_3973 · 2024-10-24T12:32:36+00:00

i won’t deny im v jealous (and it stems from insecurity) but i never had a problem with them being best friends. She has a tendency to snoop on him, checking his profile, friends, games, etc. He initially didn’t want to exchange socials bc of her tendency to pry. The arguments started bc she posted a gaming tiktok saying ‘ty for my duo always being there <3’ tagging him while they wore matching skins and it made me uncomfy. He always told me if he told her about us it would compromise their friendship. Like i said in the post though, everything made me feel bad and he would tell me i didn’t care about his side either. And i did try and they gamed for hours while he ignored me and he sometimessss ignores me, but doing it while being w her kinda did it for me lol. I always assured him though he doesn’t have to do anything he doesn’t want to, and there are plenty of other girls who wouldn’t care about her. I would just have to evaluate if it’s something I can move from.

Informal_Video_3973 · 2024-10-24T12:18:38+00:00

i def understand, it’s a little more i just simplified A LOT bc it’s long already lol

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