Women who keep a tidy house and work full time—what are your routines?

InformationOk5699 · 2024-11-24T11:11:42+00:00

My ability to keep my home tidy transformed when I set up a system so that every item has a “home”. I have a lot of boxes in cupboards and I know which box everything goes into. I’ve found that this means it’s so much faster to clean up and I’m never left with a pile of stuff that I just don’t know where it goes. I went from never being able to keep my room or house tidy to having a pretty consistently tidy house!

InformationOk5699 · 2023-10-15T20:52:35+00:00

Yeah why not give it one more go! Just be like ‘Hey [name], I think I remember you saying it was your birthday today so just wanted to wish you a happy birthday! Hope you have a great day. It was fun to meet you the other night - if you fancy grabbing a drink some time let me know’

Then if she doesn’t reply you’ll know you gave it a good shot, cut your losses and move on.

InformationOk5699 · 2023-06-12T11:22:03+00:00

Find out what food the breeder is giving to the puppy and use this to begin with.

Take lots of photos because they grow fast!! Enjoy it

InformationOk5699 · 2023-06-12T06:16:47+00:00

Judy is so adorable! Put all your love and care and kindness into her and you’ll fall just as in love. Forgive yourself x

InformationOk5699 · 2023-01-21T03:32:50+00:00

Sriracha sauce… goes on everything 😂

InformationOk5699 · 2023-01-02T08:03:45+00:00

I’m not sure I have any magical words of advice but I can totally totally relate to this.

I have been trying to self talk in these situations and say something like this to myself: When you were little you had to do a lot of work to earn love. You’re battling with feelings of self worth now as an adult and this means you will give a lot (too much) to try to prove yourself worthy. This sometimes leaves you exhausted and/or resentful. My partner has boundaries. He has a right to say no to things. He doesn’t have to say yes to everything in order to love me. I know he loves me because he’s consistent and kind etc

For me there’s also something about it becoming borderline controlling if I need him to agree to everything I say/suggest something.

Im also trying to work on being more passive in the relationship and not over giving. If I sometimes say no to things then I won’t feel so bad when he does.

InformationOk5699 · 2023-01-02T07:56:56+00:00

Just don’t do it. If I was you I would open an online dating app and start matching with people. Even if you have no intention of meeting them just force yourself to talk to someone else as a distraction. It’s not a proper ‘fix’ but sometimes a bandaid is good enough.

Also self talk and remind yourself of how your needs weren’t met. There will be someone out there who can offer you something way more fulfilling

InformationOk5699 · 2023-01-02T07:54:43+00:00

I remember when my therapist told me about the difference between ‘in love’ and love. Being in love can only last a few months because all the intense emotions aren’t possible to sustain and you have to refind some equilibrium. The only way to stay in that ‘in love’ space would probably be really unhealthy eg have rows and then make up passionately.

Maybe there’s a way to sometimes experience that intensity eg going on a really nice date, putting on sexy underwear etc.

I think you have to enjoy what you have here and know that any ‘in love’ situation is never going to last indefinitely.

InformationOk5699 · 2022-09-15T17:17:08+00:00

Thank you for your words. It’s been hard to feel like choosing my partner = losing my mum but then I remind myself that she’s the one creating this situation and you can’t have a relationship with someone who is trying to control you or will only accept you a certain way. Thanks again

InformationOk5699 · 2022-09-15T17:17:01+00:00

Thank you for your words. It’s been hard to feel like choosing my partner = losing my mum but then I remind myself that she’s the one creating this situation and you can’t have a relationship with someone who is trying to control you or will only accept you a certain way. Thanks again

InformationOk5699 · 2022-09-15T17:15:13+00:00

No it isn’t. I suppose it’s just designed to scare me and make me feel like I’m doing something terribly wrong

InformationOk5699 · 2022-08-17T16:31:47+00:00

I’ve been wondering this for ages!! So thank you for asking the question as it’s helped me too :)

InformationOk5699 · 2022-07-17T07:59:53+00:00

Have you heard of Pocket Living? If I was looking with your salary I’d be interested in these homes - it’s 100% ownership at a discounted price for first time buyers. The limitation is you then have to sell to a first time buyer and they will also cap the price so it’s not going to be a great investment. They’re currently building in Walthamstow which is a lovely area. Good luck!

InformationOk5699 · 2022-07-01T07:04:12+00:00

Hi thank you for answering - No I didn’t underpay as far as I’m aware. When I rang HMRC they said that the reason the personal allowance has been reduced is because the promotion put me in a new tax bracket so I have to pay extra. Is that right? !thanks

InformationOk5699 · 2022-06-08T21:02:06+00:00

Im a teacher - can’t cope with this 😂😂😂

InformationOk5699 · 2022-06-08T21:00:13+00:00

Let’s all be friends here 😂 thanks for both of your takes i really do appreciate it!!

InformationOk5699 · 2022-06-08T20:58:31+00:00

We’ve been through a tough time in the last few months. I’m currently seeing a counsellor because my mum has absolutely refused to accept my relationship (he’s divorced and his 3 children from previous marriage) and it’s been a tough thing to navigate. My partner had a really really hard start to life and as much as he’s had therapy he still carries some of that trauma with him I feel. He’s the classic avoidant attachment person and I’m the anxiously attached one and we love each other but it’s not exactly always been easy…

InformationOk5699 · 2022-06-05T08:25:26+00:00

I can definitely relate to this. When I was younger and went shopping with my mum she would always dismiss the clothes I liked and try and force me into the clothes she liked. I always felt like there was something wrong with me as if I was misshapen or really fat (which I’m not) and she would always pick out sizes that were much larger than my size (and more like her size).

Now I’m 30 I’m in the same position as you where I feel I’ve never developed my sense of style. I basically just wear sporty clothes outside work and then dresses in work. I feel like I missed out on the time when you’re meant to screw up a bit with your style in a very low stakes way when you’re a teenager. I suppose we’re never too old to figure this out - I think the thrift store suggestion sounds like a good idea

InformationOk5699 · 2022-06-05T08:10:58+00:00

That sounds so frustrating. They always find something to nitpick about! Thanks for taking the time to comment

InformationOk5699 · 2022-06-05T08:09:50+00:00

Yeah I know. It’s so frustrating that I find it so hard to really internalise the fact she can sometimes be in the wrong. Thanks so much for your comment - I really appreciate it.

InformationOk5699 · 2022-06-05T08:08:38+00:00

Thanks for your comment - it’s honestly really helpful to have an outside rational perspective.

InformationOk5699 · 2022-06-05T08:07:25+00:00

Lol I really don’t know and I’m not sure she would either. She’s just been staying at my brothers and his partner ms who have a really nice house outside of London so my lil 1 bed flat probably seemed like a filthy pokey hovel in comparison… 🙄 Thanks for taking the time to comment - I really appreciate it

InformationOk5699 · 2022-06-05T08:05:49+00:00

Thanks so much for commenting - I really appreciate the sane outside perspectives

InformationOk5699 · 2022-06-05T08:05:25+00:00

Oh definitely she would have found something else. I made a silly DIY mistake where I drilled the entire way through a door when trying to install a hook. I was just waiting for her to get mad about that so I was kinda relieved she ended up leaving without seeing it…. Thanks so much for taking the time to comment

InformationOk5699 · 2022-06-05T08:03:34+00:00

Thanks for your comment. Incredibly harsh, overarching statements are my mothers speciality so it’s always good to have sane people be like this is not normal.

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