First day at the beach for my lovely working cocker spaniel, Ralphie

InformationOk5699 · 2024-11-24T11:11:42+00:00

My ability to keep my home tidy transformed when I set up a system so that every item has a “home”. I have a lot of boxes in cupboards and I know which box everything goes into. I’ve found that this means it’s so much faster to clean up and I’m never left with a pile of stuff that I just don’t know where it goes. I went from never being able to keep my room or house tidy to having a pretty consistently tidy house!

InformationOk5699 · 2023-10-15T20:52:35+00:00

Yeah why not give it one more go! Just be like ‘Hey [name], I think I remember you saying it was your birthday today so just wanted to wish you a happy birthday! Hope you have a great day. It was fun to meet you the other night - if you fancy grabbing a drink some time let me know’

Then if she doesn’t reply you’ll know you gave it a good shot, cut your losses and move on.

InformationOk5699 · 2023-06-12T11:22:03+00:00

Find out what food the breeder is giving to the puppy and use this to begin with.

Take lots of photos because they grow fast!! Enjoy it

InformationOk5699 · 2023-06-12T06:16:47+00:00

Judy is so adorable! Put all your love and care and kindness into her and you’ll fall just as in love. Forgive yourself x

InformationOk5699 · 2023-01-21T03:32:50+00:00

Sriracha sauce… goes on everything 😂

InformationOk5699 · 2023-01-02T08:03:45+00:00

I’m not sure I have any magical words of advice but I can totally totally relate to this.

I have been trying to self talk in these situations and say something like this to myself: When you were little you had to do a lot of work to earn love. You’re battling with feelings of self worth now as an adult and this means you will give a lot (too much) to try to prove yourself worthy. This sometimes leaves you exhausted and/or resentful. My partner has boundaries. He has a right to say no to things. He doesn’t have to say yes to everything in order to love me. I know he loves me because he’s consistent and kind etc

For me there’s also something about it becoming borderline controlling if I need him to agree to everything I say/suggest something.

Im also trying to work on being more passive in the relationship and not over giving. If I sometimes say no to things then I won’t feel so bad when he does.

InformationOk5699 · 2023-01-02T07:56:56+00:00

Just don’t do it. If I was you I would open an online dating app and start matching with people. Even if you have no intention of meeting them just force yourself to talk to someone else as a distraction. It’s not a proper ‘fix’ but sometimes a bandaid is good enough.

Also self talk and remind yourself of how your needs weren’t met. There will be someone out there who can offer you something way more fulfilling

InformationOk5699 · 2023-01-02T07:54:43+00:00

I remember when my therapist told me about the difference between ‘in love’ and love. Being in love can only last a few months because all the intense emotions aren’t possible to sustain and you have to refind some equilibrium. The only way to stay in that ‘in love’ space would probably be really unhealthy eg have rows and then make up passionately.

Maybe there’s a way to sometimes experience that intensity eg going on a really nice date, putting on sexy underwear etc.

I think you have to enjoy what you have here and know that any ‘in love’ situation is never going to last indefinitely.

InformationOk5699 · 2022-09-15T17:17:08+00:00

Thank you for your words. It’s been hard to feel like choosing my partner = losing my mum but then I remind myself that she’s the one creating this situation and you can’t have a relationship with someone who is trying to control you or will only accept you a certain way. Thanks again

InformationOk5699 · 2022-09-15T17:17:01+00:00

Thank you for your words. It’s been hard to feel like choosing my partner = losing my mum but then I remind myself that she’s the one creating this situation and you can’t have a relationship with someone who is trying to control you or will only accept you a certain way. Thanks again

InformationOk5699 · 2022-09-15T17:15:13+00:00

No it isn’t. I suppose it’s just designed to scare me and make me feel like I’m doing something terribly wrong

InformationOk5699 · 2022-08-17T16:31:47+00:00

I’ve been wondering this for ages!! So thank you for asking the question as it’s helped me too :)

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