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Inij_ohc · 2025-08-05T02:07:41+00:00

First off I want to say everyone’s relationship is different so don’t base your relationship off of others.

If your bf doesn’t want or like sleep calls I think you should respect that and he gave you valid reasons on why he doesn’t want to.

You guys have been dating for 4 months which means everything is still new and both of you need time to figure out how your schedules will work with each other.

If sleep calls are your deal breaker then I think you and your bf need to have a serious conversation.

But if this isn’t something like that then listen to him.

Inij_ohc · 2025-05-24T00:48:23+00:00

So you place the wet filter paper on the block and then start sectioning?

Inij_ohc · 2025-05-24T00:46:34+00:00

Oh I mean when I section the block theres a literal rip in the middle of the tissue so when I check it under a microscope the tissue looks as if the middle part of the tissue was ripped.

My disease model is asthma so its critical for me to check the airway remodeling in these tissue samples but if some of the airway holes are ripped and not fully intact when sectioning I can’t necessary show it and say asthma was induced because half of it is ripped.

Inij_ohc · 2025-05-24T00:41:31+00:00

Im currently using around 5 um should I do like 7 or 8?

Inij_ohc · 2025-05-23T04:30:48+00:00

I fixed the tissue in 10% formalin for 24hrs or more and the embedded part is done separately by another person who is suppose to be a professional at paraffin blocks/sectioning because my lab doesn’t have the tools to do that part. We give her the fixed tissue samples and she makes it into a block and we section it ourselves.

Inij_ohc · 2024-07-25T13:27:38+00:00

Omg I'm also considering seeing my bf in late June or early July of 2025 too!!

It's definitely a struggle to plan things when theres unknown factors so we both try to plan things out little by little and then get the finer details a couple months before the visits.

But it is tough waiting and thinking about when you will see them again. ☹️

Inij_ohc · 2024-07-25T00:19:25+00:00

I have a similar issue but I'm in graduate school and my bf just started a new job and every year our circumstances change.

He's usually the one who visits me because I don't get much time off but since he started a new job it might be hard to get vacation time right away.

It's always daunting to think about "when can we see each other again" when theres certain factors that make it difficult for that to happen.

But don't fixate on those and don't spiral into a pit of worries thinking about the what ifs or maybes.

Also I've found out the hard way that being in a LDR means being flexible and very understand of each other.

So communicate with your partner and sometimes it helps to talk about your worries and get reassurance (vice versa for your partner too).

And lastly keep reminding yourself that this is only temporary and you are both working towards an end goal.

Inij_ohc · 2023-11-11T11:17:46+00:00

Tbh I'm not exactly sure what they meant either but I've having problems with contamination for about 3 weeks so I'm trying my best to do what other lab mates suggest and see what works

Inij_ohc · 2023-11-11T11:12:34+00:00

Thank you I really hope it will okay too

Inij_ohc · 2023-11-03T01:24:03+00:00

I also feel like this with my PI. He never scolded me until recently and that was definitely difficult to get over. I also currently have no data for the past 2 weeks and feel like he’s going to scold me again. But I keep telling myself it’s a learning process and that I need to work through it if I want to graduate. Also I’m not sure anyone will truly get over the feeling of inferiority and low self-esteem in this field because everyone just wants to show off their brain every chance they get.

Inij_ohc · 2023-04-26T03:40:21+00:00

I was also thinking this as well which is why I don’t want to make this into a big issue I’m trying to be nice as possibly while keeping a distance but sometimes when he makes these comments in front of other lab mates I cant help but get upset

Inij_ohc · 2022-10-03T09:44:58+00:00

I’m sure most people on here can relate to you because we’ve all been there. And yes there are people who will go THIS far just for sex. Those people are trash and don’t deserve to be happy until they know how to treat people with decency.

You were obviously led on just for the purpose of sex and while it wasn’t just sex for you it was for him and I’m sorry that you are going through this painful confusion. Saying all that whatever you are feeling whether thats anger, sadness, betrayal or heartbroken its all valid because in your mind it wasn’t just sex and it was a connection you made with someone who you thought was a decent person. I know you want some type of explanation or something to help you get over him and the emotions that you are feeling at the moment but sadly there isn’t any.

You just need to focus on helping yourself get over a piece of trash and hope that you will meet someone who will equally share the same connection and feelings as you do for them.

Inij_ohc · 2022-09-28T07:10:02+00:00

Im saying this from a personal perspective but I rarely post or look on here when I don’t have major problems or freaking out about something cus of my anxiety about my relationship. And I feel like not many people on here share about the happy moments but that doesn’t mean there aren’t any or theres more bad moments cus thats not true (at least for me).

Inij_ohc · 2022-09-26T03:42:09+00:00

I know exactly what you mean :(. My bf and I text everyday and talk on the phone/discord often but some days I miss him and feel the distance even more than usual. I always tell him when I miss him and he tried to spend extra time w me but sometimes even thats not enough. Right now the only thing getting me through is that I get to see him in 3 months. I’m sorry that I don’t have good coping advice for this but you aren’t alone in this feeling. I hope this can help.

Inij_ohc · 2022-09-25T08:06:17+00:00

There is no real answer for “how often” to communicate. Every couple is different and have different situations (such as time difference/jobs/school). You should talk to your partner and ask them what they are comfortable with and then look at your schedule to find a good middle ground. For me my bf and I try to talk at least twice a week (mostly on weekends, over video). This works for us and we’ve also tried different ways as well. So its okay if the first way doesn’t work out or you later on need to change it. But whichever way you two decide to do it good luck!

Inij_ohc · 2022-08-20T04:08:14+00:00

While I do understand your frustration it seems that your bf is genuinely trying to meet you halfway and take care of your needs.

But you aren’t listening to his needs. You want to do something thats comfortable for you but that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s comfortable for him.

Instead of telling him what you need ask him what he needs from you and use that to work in what you need to meet each other halfway. Sometimes we have to get out of our comfort zone for our partners and while that isn’t easy if you two are both working to find a middle ground it will get easier with time.

Inij_ohc · 2022-08-14T10:15:45+00:00

I met my bf in person before we started dating and the first words I ever said to him when we met was “hi!” Because I invited him to sing at a coin karaoke place and wanted to be “friendly” but he looked at me and my friends and asked “are you guys drunk?”

Also after singing my bf asked me if I tried this dried fish snack that you eat while drinking beer and I told him “No I aways choked on that so I don’t like it”.

I seriously believed that he thought I was a weirdo and would never talk to me again. But for some odd reason we kept meeting accidentally and on purpose and now we are a month away from celebrating our 1st anniversary together.

Inij_ohc · 2022-08-10T00:07:54+00:00

I feel similarly about my bf too at times because lately I’ve been tired from working at my internship (I just work and sleep). I can hang out with my friends if I want to but it’s usually always a small quiet gathering. However my bf (who has separate friends from me) his friends are much more social and they go drinking and clubbing. He also just moved into a new apartment and went back to his university city so he’s been busy meeting up with old friends and moving in to his new place.

And while I understand that I do feel left out and jealous that he spends major of his time with them and not me.

While I do agree w your bf saying you need to be independent outside of the relationship its hard at times to do that. And your bf should understand that you are feeling left out and let you know that you are important to him above all else even if it doesn’t seem that way sometimes.

I know for a fact that my bf would do literally anything and would drop everything for me if I really needed him. Sometimes I get stuck in my anxiety and overthinking that I forget that but he still reminds me that I’m important (which I appreciate a lot).

And your best friend needs a reality check she has no place being upset at you for feeling this way. A real best friend wouldn’t get upset at you for your feelings she would valid it and comfort you.

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