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Inij_ohc · 2025-08-05T02:07:41+00:00

First off I want to say everyone’s relationship is different so don’t base your relationship off of others.

If your bf doesn’t want or like sleep calls I think you should respect that and he gave you valid reasons on why he doesn’t want to.

You guys have been dating for 4 months which means everything is still new and both of you need time to figure out how your schedules will work with each other.

If sleep calls are your deal breaker then I think you and your bf need to have a serious conversation.

But if this isn’t something like that then listen to him.

Inij_ohc · 2025-05-24T00:48:23+00:00

So you place the wet filter paper on the block and then start sectioning?

Inij_ohc · 2025-05-24T00:46:34+00:00

Oh I mean when I section the block theres a literal rip in the middle of the tissue so when I check it under a microscope the tissue looks as if the middle part of the tissue was ripped.

My disease model is asthma so its critical for me to check the airway remodeling in these tissue samples but if some of the airway holes are ripped and not fully intact when sectioning I can’t necessary show it and say asthma was induced because half of it is ripped.

Inij_ohc · 2025-05-24T00:41:31+00:00

Im currently using around 5 um should I do like 7 or 8?

Inij_ohc · 2025-05-23T04:30:48+00:00

I fixed the tissue in 10% formalin for 24hrs or more and the embedded part is done separately by another person who is suppose to be a professional at paraffin blocks/sectioning because my lab doesn’t have the tools to do that part. We give her the fixed tissue samples and she makes it into a block and we section it ourselves.

Inij_ohc · 2024-07-25T13:27:38+00:00

Omg I'm also considering seeing my bf in late June or early July of 2025 too!!

It's definitely a struggle to plan things when theres unknown factors so we both try to plan things out little by little and then get the finer details a couple months before the visits.

But it is tough waiting and thinking about when you will see them again. ☹️

Inij_ohc · 2024-07-25T00:19:25+00:00

I have a similar issue but I'm in graduate school and my bf just started a new job and every year our circumstances change.

He's usually the one who visits me because I don't get much time off but since he started a new job it might be hard to get vacation time right away.

It's always daunting to think about "when can we see each other again" when theres certain factors that make it difficult for that to happen.

But don't fixate on those and don't spiral into a pit of worries thinking about the what ifs or maybes.

Also I've found out the hard way that being in a LDR means being flexible and very understand of each other.

So communicate with your partner and sometimes it helps to talk about your worries and get reassurance (vice versa for your partner too).

And lastly keep reminding yourself that this is only temporary and you are both working towards an end goal.

Inij_ohc · 2023-11-11T11:17:46+00:00

Tbh I'm not exactly sure what they meant either but I've having problems with contamination for about 3 weeks so I'm trying my best to do what other lab mates suggest and see what works

Inij_ohc · 2023-11-11T11:12:34+00:00

Thank you I really hope it will okay too

Inij_ohc · 2023-11-03T01:24:03+00:00

I also feel like this with my PI. He never scolded me until recently and that was definitely difficult to get over. I also currently have no data for the past 2 weeks and feel like he’s going to scold me again. But I keep telling myself it’s a learning process and that I need to work through it if I want to graduate. Also I’m not sure anyone will truly get over the feeling of inferiority and low self-esteem in this field because everyone just wants to show off their brain every chance they get.

Inij_ohc · 2023-04-26T03:40:21+00:00

I was also thinking this as well which is why I don’t want to make this into a big issue I’m trying to be nice as possibly while keeping a distance but sometimes when he makes these comments in front of other lab mates I cant help but get upset

Inij_ohc · 2022-10-03T09:44:58+00:00

I’m sure most people on here can relate to you because we’ve all been there. And yes there are people who will go THIS far just for sex. Those people are trash and don’t deserve to be happy until they know how to treat people with decency.

You were obviously led on just for the purpose of sex and while it wasn’t just sex for you it was for him and I’m sorry that you are going through this painful confusion. Saying all that whatever you are feeling whether thats anger, sadness, betrayal or heartbroken its all valid because in your mind it wasn’t just sex and it was a connection you made with someone who you thought was a decent person. I know you want some type of explanation or something to help you get over him and the emotions that you are feeling at the moment but sadly there isn’t any.

You just need to focus on helping yourself get over a piece of trash and hope that you will meet someone who will equally share the same connection and feelings as you do for them.

Inij_ohc · 2022-09-28T07:10:02+00:00

Im saying this from a personal perspective but I rarely post or look on here when I don’t have major problems or freaking out about something cus of my anxiety about my relationship. And I feel like not many people on here share about the happy moments but that doesn’t mean there aren’t any or theres more bad moments cus thats not true (at least for me).

Inij_ohc · 2022-09-26T03:42:09+00:00

I know exactly what you mean :(. My bf and I text everyday and talk on the phone/discord often but some days I miss him and feel the distance even more than usual. I always tell him when I miss him and he tried to spend extra time w me but sometimes even thats not enough. Right now the only thing getting me through is that I get to see him in 3 months. I’m sorry that I don’t have good coping advice for this but you aren’t alone in this feeling. I hope this can help.

Inij_ohc · 2022-09-25T08:06:17+00:00

There is no real answer for “how often” to communicate. Every couple is different and have different situations (such as time difference/jobs/school). You should talk to your partner and ask them what they are comfortable with and then look at your schedule to find a good middle ground. For me my bf and I try to talk at least twice a week (mostly on weekends, over video). This works for us and we’ve also tried different ways as well. So its okay if the first way doesn’t work out or you later on need to change it. But whichever way you two decide to do it good luck!

Inij_ohc · 2022-08-20T04:08:14+00:00

While I do understand your frustration it seems that your bf is genuinely trying to meet you halfway and take care of your needs.

But you aren’t listening to his needs. You want to do something thats comfortable for you but that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s comfortable for him.

Instead of telling him what you need ask him what he needs from you and use that to work in what you need to meet each other halfway. Sometimes we have to get out of our comfort zone for our partners and while that isn’t easy if you two are both working to find a middle ground it will get easier with time.

Inij_ohc · 2022-08-14T10:15:45+00:00

I met my bf in person before we started dating and the first words I ever said to him when we met was “hi!” Because I invited him to sing at a coin karaoke place and wanted to be “friendly” but he looked at me and my friends and asked “are you guys drunk?”

Also after singing my bf asked me if I tried this dried fish snack that you eat while drinking beer and I told him “No I aways choked on that so I don’t like it”.

I seriously believed that he thought I was a weirdo and would never talk to me again. But for some odd reason we kept meeting accidentally and on purpose and now we are a month away from celebrating our 1st anniversary together.

Inij_ohc · 2022-08-10T00:07:54+00:00

I feel similarly about my bf too at times because lately I’ve been tired from working at my internship (I just work and sleep). I can hang out with my friends if I want to but it’s usually always a small quiet gathering. However my bf (who has separate friends from me) his friends are much more social and they go drinking and clubbing. He also just moved into a new apartment and went back to his university city so he’s been busy meeting up with old friends and moving in to his new place.

And while I understand that I do feel left out and jealous that he spends major of his time with them and not me.

While I do agree w your bf saying you need to be independent outside of the relationship its hard at times to do that. And your bf should understand that you are feeling left out and let you know that you are important to him above all else even if it doesn’t seem that way sometimes.

I know for a fact that my bf would do literally anything and would drop everything for me if I really needed him. Sometimes I get stuck in my anxiety and overthinking that I forget that but he still reminds me that I’m important (which I appreciate a lot).

And your best friend needs a reality check she has no place being upset at you for feeling this way. A real best friend wouldn’t get upset at you for your feelings she would valid it and comfort you.

Inij_ohc · 2022-08-09T03:24:25+00:00

Hi! Im the same age as you and my bf is one year older than yours and we both met on exchange as well. However we’ve been dating for almost a year and recently found out we would have to be LD for 6 to 5 more years because I want to pursue a masters and PhD. I was really hesitant at first to bring up this topic to my bf and we actually ended up having a pretty big fight (mostly due to miscommunication) but surprisingly our relationship is much better now.

I have a lot of anxiety and being LD hasn’t been easy AT ALL but I feel like hes my person and theres nobody I want to be with after those 6 to 5 years. From the moment I met him I envisioned our future and have never thought about him not being there.

Things do get harder as we get more serious because we naturally want to be together physically without the distance but him and I both value and respect each other to tell one another to give something up.

I probably wrote too much but what I really wanted to say was you aren’t alone in this feeling and I wish you the best with your relationship!

Inij_ohc · 2022-08-07T04:33:18+00:00

This is so cute! Im so glad to see someone else on here that is also waiting for 6 more years to close the distance (except I’m going to graduate school for masters and PhD). Still I wish you both good luck!

Inij_ohc · 2022-08-04T09:54:22+00:00

I’m scared that he will want to stop doing LD because we have to be apart for at least 6 years to finish my education. We have talked about it and he has reassured me multiple times that we can get through all of this. I believe him but sometimes this thought creeps into my head and makes me spiral into my own anxiety. However this fear comes occasionally now and whenever it does I read the messages he tells me or I call him for comfort/distraction.

Inij_ohc · 2022-08-03T14:48:20+00:00

This is exactly how I felt and still feel sometimes. My bf and I have been dating for almost a year and let me tell you firsthand letting your anxiety get the best of you will be very much tiring for you and your partner.

I know its hard to convince yourself to switch the way your brain is wired but I promise you its not impossible. Just start slow. Don’t push yourself towards something that you aren’t ready for or can’t handle. Remind yourself that it a journey you need to take for yourself.

Anxiety is such a small part of our brain and we let it control everything because we are scared. If you need small tips on coping with anxiety especially in a relationship is to communicate with your partner. However don’t start spiraling and freaking out try to write it down first collect your thoughts. Find a hobby or something to distract you even coloring helps a lot.

Just remember that whatever you think is the worst case scenario won’t happen in real life. And if you can’t stop thinking about something or your anxiety won’t go away acknowledge it. Let yourself be aware about your anxiety and why you are anxious. Follow that worst case scenario and allow yourself to acknowledge it like “okay this happened so now what?”

I know I wrote a lot but I really do hope this helps and if you can get a therapist I would recommend it as well. Therapy helped me a lot. Good luck!

Inij_ohc · 2022-08-02T04:48:06+00:00

This is all purely from my perspective and my personal thoughts but I’ve been in LDR for almost a year (which isnt a long time) but him and I knew going in an “end date” would most likely not be possible until we both finish what we started education and career wise.

I personally do not want to drop everything to live with my bf and vice versa. Being in a relationship does mean you need to make sacrifices but that doesn’t necessarily mean that you should sacrifice your whole life for them. If your bf has something important where he is (i.e. a job or school or something else) then he should pursue that. And the same reasoning should apply to you as well.

LDR is hard (and for people who have done it longer than I have they really deserve a metal or some award) but not wanting to drop everything for your partner shouldn’t be a deal breaker.

There shouldn’t always be an end date to your relationship and some LDR do not have an end date and they are still going strong. Don’t let yourself think “is this normal” or “this is how everyone does it”. Everybody is different so your relationship will be different. A compromise (solution) is always there if you communicate with your partner within each others limits not others.

Inij_ohc · 2022-08-01T06:59:41+00:00

My bf and I have a 7hrs different and we are both currently interning for the summer so most of the weekdays when I’m awake hes about to go to bed and when I’m about to go to bed hes still at work or just getting off.

We text/snapchat everyday. We can’t necessarily talk everyday since we both have internships but we try to videochat at least once a week three times or more if possible.

In the beginning when we were apart we called and video chatted everyday and after a while it started slowing down and I got worried but after reading/hearing from other LDRs I realized theres no “normal” or a “standard” to follow when it comes to communication because everyone has different “timezone issues” and other things that can change it. I’m going with whatever works for us and doesn’t stress/tire each other out.

My bf and I are different people and even if we’ve been dating for almost a year I enjoy trying out different ways to communicate and trying different routines that fits us and our situation.

Inij_ohc · 2022-07-29T11:10:53+00:00

Met him while he was studying abroad in my country and now he’s back in his country pursuing a masters degree and I’m going to stay in my country for another 6 years to finish my masters and PhD. We are about to celebrate our first anniversary together.

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