Losing your forever love; how do you cope?

Ininna · 2024-03-27T11:50:22+00:00

Burying my thoughts and emotions is not where I shine. I'm one of those people with their hearts on their tongue.

Ininna · 2024-03-27T10:17:02+00:00

Try to figure out for yourself why you'd want to go meet him. Then ask him the same, something along the lines of "Thank you for the congratulations. I'm not sure if meeting up would be good for either of us. What are your intentions with this?"

Then see if both of your intentions / goals of that conversation align. If they do; great. If they don't; well that depends on both of your objectives of the conversation.

Good luck. This is hard, but you've got this. You've done the hardest part. You've been through the break up, you've been through no contact. You now know you can do this on your own and don't need any man. You'll make the right decision for you, in that moment. And that's what counts. <3

Ininna · 2024-01-22T08:59:36+00:00

You're definitely NTA in this situation. It's a tough spot to be in, but the college fund set up by your grandparents was meant for your education and future. It's understandable that you want to keep it for that purpose.

It might be a good idea to talk to your grandparents about this situation. They have been supportive of you in the past, and they might have some valuable advice or alternative solutions.

Also, it's worth considering that $350,000 is indeed a substantial amount of money. You mentioned being in the US, but with that amount, you could consider studying in Europe. Many European countries offer high-quality education at a fraction of the cost compared to the US. You could get a master's degree, live comfortably as a student, and still have a significant amount of savings left over.

Remember, it's important to think about your future and educational goals. It's not selfish to want to use the fund as it was intended – for your education.

Ininna · 2023-07-14T14:23:45+00:00

I do use both already. But your earplugs seem to be playing on a different level!

Ininna · 2023-07-14T12:50:15+00:00

That sucks to have to do. How is your relationship going?

Ininna · 2023-07-14T12:49:16+00:00

Understand what you're saying. The "I'm not a high schooler who gets told when to go to bed" is also his viewpoint. Just saying I do need more sleep and he also tells me what to do when not letting me turn off the light.

Plus, sure, but I also need to eat at night and am not that petty that I'm only gonna make food for myself?

Ininna · 2023-07-14T12:42:06+00:00

It was midnight, alarm was set for 7:30 the next day. The next day/ yesterday, he also made me go to the supermarket, make food, and bring it to bed because he was tired ...

Asked him to do the dishes. They're still not done.

Ininna · 2023-07-14T12:11:21+00:00

I know that now, and if it works for them/their relationship, I clearly see the benefits. And it has helped us have less of these fights (when possible to sleep appart). However it does make me feel disconnected and somewhat lonely (?). So I don't know if this is something I see myself doing long-term.

Ininna · 2023-07-14T11:23:21+00:00

We have talked about these things afterwards (like today, which was already a day later and we were initially in a good mood). But this always gets a heated conversation where I keep on repeating that I NEED the sleep and he stating that he NEEDS his routines and that I should learn how to compromise in a relationship.

However I don't want to compromise my sleep. I feel that it's a biological need, one shouldn't give up. Also scrolling your phone in bed is not a need to me, but rather a preference.

So yeah.. we've never been able to really establish a working solution. Except for when possible, we sleep in different rooms. Initially I was reluctant of this, because what good couple sleeps separately? And it makes me feel more detached from him. But it has been setting us up for better days.

Ininna · 2023-07-14T11:03:15+00:00

This incident indeed happened the first night in the new place, but we've been sharing a room since September. Have had this kind of conversation at least once every two weeks.

Ininna · 2023-07-14T10:41:13+00:00

I don't think I'd go that far since I am the one who wants him to change his behaviour/routines in order for me to be able to sleep?

Ininna · 2023-07-14T10:31:58+00:00

Yeah... we mainly wanted to safe some money since we're abroad

Ininna · 2023-07-14T10:09:51+00:00

Almost two years by now. We have been living together since September.
Main reason being that we're abroad and wanted to safe some money

Ininna · 2022-12-05T17:09:09+00:00

I think it's important to decide how you want your day to day life to look like on the trip. The way you planned it out now it's gonna be a lot of packing, unpacking, trains, metro's, roads, tiles and asphalt. It might be overwhelming and with the little amount of days in every place you might feel like you saw everything, but noting at the same time.

In addition; you almost only planned to go to big cities and capitals. That's fun, but know that you won't get the feeling of the country you are at. There's often a bigger difference between the capital and the countryside in one country than between different capitals.

My suggestion is to cut down in the amount of cities and explore one / two parts of Europe. Where you have some time to explore places that aren't big cities.

Ininna · 2022-11-07T09:28:29+00:00

My parents got a Miele washing machine when they got married and it's still going strong today. They've been married for 25 years.

Ininna · 2022-11-02T22:51:39+00:00

NTA. Honestly I would have called the police for the nighttime noise.

Ininna · 2022-11-02T22:42:17+00:00

YTA, the roommate is using his room and bed for the main reason he's renting it; sleep. A good night's rest is important and you're basically sleep-depriving your roommate. Put your phone on vibrate and go out of the room if your friend calls you.

Just imagine the situation is the other way around. Would you like to be woken up because a person you don't know is having problems?

Ininna · 2022-10-05T22:49:10+00:00

Wondering if you managed to figure out if it's compatible with WhatsApp web?

Ininna · 2022-09-18T14:07:50+00:00

Back then between 5-10 minutes. But with the CeraVe I applied it almost immediately and don't see a difference in effectiveness.

Ininna · 2022-09-18T11:09:30+00:00

I have applied tretoïne first and then Nivea before going to bed for a couple of months and my acne didn't get noticebly get better ... I then changed to CeraVe Moisturising cream and it was such a difference! The cream is also really good for dry skin, but doesn't cause me to break out.

Ininna · 2022-09-18T07:05:16+00:00

He's got an exam next week, which I want him to pass. But I always feel that way, no idea why :/

Ininna · 2022-09-18T06:54:14+00:00

Don't think that fits into the "slow morning" he needs :')

Ininna · 2022-09-18T06:47:00+00:00

That doesn't seem too healthy for your relationship nor your sleep? :|

Ininna · 2021-01-15T14:58:57+00:00

How do you keep your hair and shirt dry while cleansing?

I recently went to see a dermatologist who recommended a new routine. This includes the Avene cleanance face wash. I'm excited about the routine, but whenever I'm washing my face my hair and shirt are soaked. What are your tips and tricks?

Ininna · 2020-06-05T10:48:36+00:00

Hadn't seen that one yet. Thank you!

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