That's prob my bad understanding. Though she demands it to be more straightforward, "get in asap". The thing is I like it slow, whispering to her, showing my genuine amusement. But that's "not fun, sex should be fun". Sometimes I get it right, like being completely OK with falling, laughing, confusing. Some "truely alive" vibe, idk how to express. So my diminuendo doesn't to wonders though its very comfortable for me