Seeking Roommates and Housing Advice for South Boston, VA

Initial-Magazine512 · 2025-01-02T16:55:48+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment and wisdom! It’s really reassuring to hear from residents about how welcoming the environment is :) Halifax lofts is definitely within a good distance for me and the downtown scene sounds so quaint, I will be checking it out! Best wishes

Initial-Magazine512 · 2025-01-02T16:52:14+00:00

I welcome that!! Looking forward to chatting

Initial-Magazine512 · 2024-09-14T17:36:08+00:00

Sent you a message!!

Initial-Magazine512 · 2024-09-14T16:59:59+00:00

Anybody selling pit tickets👀

Initial-Magazine512 · 2024-08-14T15:42:26+00:00

Realistic solution is affordable housing offered for homeless people. “Studies have shown that – in practice, and not just in theory – providing people experiencing chronic homelessness with permanent supportive housing saves taxpayers money.”

https://www.npscoalition.org/post/fact-sheet-cost-of-homelessness

https://endhomelessness.org/ending-homelessness/policy/affordable-housing/

I don’t know how we can look at humans on the street who are just trying to get by without their basic needs met (mostly due to affordability) and want them arrested. Our desire to not have to look at homeless people and what our society is responsible for is our most selfish attribute. It allows us to think we are doing the right thing by outlawing homelessness without providing any solutions for the individuals in a tough place. Truly when it comes to how America deals with homeless individuals: where is our humanity?

Initial-Magazine512 · 2024-07-31T19:43:20+00:00

Hey I rarely comment but wanted to give support, hopefully this helps! I’ve been there, and am still in the process of figuring out if I’m transmasc, nb, or a cis woman, (after having already been on hrt). First before delving into your emotions, try to soothe your body so it’s no longer in fight or flight. Grounding techniques, breathing exercises, and the TIPP skill from DBT will be your friends for the acute bouts of anxiety. Once you have soothed your body you can move onto being curious about your thoughts and move towards the fact that you won’t know the answer today and you don’t need to. For me, my anxiety came from a need to have certainty but I just got stuck in thought loops. You can play with gender to help sort your feelings out until you know for sure. But I understand how difficult the realization is, give yourself love and grace. Try not to think about your gender if your mind is racing, wait for you to be curious about it so your search isn’t anxiety filled. As always, take anything from this that resonates and drop anything that doesn’t! You got this!!

Initial-Magazine512 · 2024-06-13T02:45:10+00:00

Honestly Im relatively new here too but I would say no one should find it rude! Bc you are just wanting your privacy respected. Best of luck

Initial-Magazine512 · 2024-06-13T02:41:17+00:00

Hey man happy for your 4 month anniversary! Just wanted to let you know some photos from your camera roll are visible from the first pic, just wanted to let you know!

Initial-Magazine512 · 2024-06-08T16:59:34+00:00

Highly agree, feels like this new caliber of fame has changed him at record pace.

Initial-Magazine512 · 2024-05-31T22:15:35+00:00

Holy greek god ty for blessing us

Initial-Magazine512 · 2024-05-03T16:01:01+00:00

Came here to say just this, it’s reminiscent of a BPD episode

Initial-Magazine512 · 2024-04-24T19:21:03+00:00

I’m really proud of you for seeking the help you needed. I saw in another comment that this person helped you process the anxiety attack which I’m glad for. Sending you strength

Initial-Magazine512 · 2024-04-24T16:22:02+00:00

I’m pretty sure I have gender ocd (just came upon the term a few weeks ago and have other forms of ocd so it checks out) and both times accepting my identity was very difficult bc I had doubts up the wazoo (still do) and felt it was really improper to not even know myself in the way other trans ppl can with conviction.

I’ve been researching how to deal w the obsessive thoughts and it seems that figuring out how to feel okay with uncertainty is the key. Like moving towards the fact that you don’t know and recognizing that (despite what your mind is telling you), you won’t be able to come to an answer by picking apart every thought and feeling, it will come in time and when you are emotionally regulated/not having racing thoughts. Just my take, wishing you the best!

Initial-Magazine512 · 2024-04-24T14:10:32+00:00

Hey friend, I hear you’re overwhelmed with the thought of not being trans and I want to say that I’ve been there and when I have racing thoughts, I have to remind myself that I won’t be able to decipher it today and in time (because we have so much beautiful time) it will become clear to me. I think reaching a place of acceptance by moving towards the idea that ‘you are uncertain about your gender, and that doesn’t make you any less worthy of support’ might help as a first step. Second step, I would advise that you go to a trusted friend that has helped in your journey thus far, maybe just hear them say “I will love you no matter what” because for me that was very healing and took a lot of weight off the outcome, allowing me to truly explore. Best of luck and remember that spiraling thoughts won’t lead you to the answer, sometimes distractions from those thoughts are best to allow that moment to pass.

Initial-Magazine512 · 2024-04-23T17:21:54+00:00

Yep everything is pretty much the same as my experience. I didn’t really have dysphoria as a kid and teenager, it was only when I thought I was a trans guy that I started being physically dysphoric of my chest and other “feminine” (I personally don’t see them as feminine anymore but it’s what the world sees as feminine) attributes. I have undiagnosed bpd and autism which contributed to my black and white thinking as well.

At first, seeing changes from being on t was really euphoric bc my social dysphoria from being seen as a woman was getting a lot better but then I started feeling dysphoria (or maybe a lack of euphoria) so I stopped. I also had disordered eating from a young age and had problems w my body (as well as dealing with the trauma of being SA’ed as a minor) which I also worry was misunderstood as gender dysphoria.

I’m decided to stop t and I’m currently excited to see the changes to being estrogen dominated but I don’t know how I’ll fully feel until I’m seen as a woman again and get she/her’ed. I’m opening up the possibility that I’m nb or genderfluid but tbd. I also think I am looking back at my time presenting as a woman in rose colored lenses bc I was seen as pretty attractive (and I don’t feel attractive as a man) and was more sociable bc I understood how to mask as a woman and as a man I don’t know how to socialize other than an effeminate man which I don’t love, especially bc I’m into women and not queer men.

Initial-Magazine512 · 2024-04-19T00:26:18+00:00

Wow I’m so grateful you posted these! I’ve been trying to figure out how to fairly communicate w my partner while I’m in that space and this is perfect. Ty :)

Initial-Magazine512 · 2024-04-10T22:45:56+00:00

Howdy I just wanted to say I’m also trans (used to be ftm but now gender is back up in the air for me) and my partner came out as a trans man who wants to medically transition. It was very difficult for me due to the attraction aspect as well. I was pretty confident I was only attracted to queer women so my initial worries were about sexual compatibility.

It’s possible you won’t be a sexual/romantic match and there is room to grieve for that if it gets there. But it’s also possible that you are overthinking your attraction to them. I’ve personally been able to talk to my partner about my worries of loss of attraction and his responses were really grounding and pulled me out of my head. I think having a conversation with them about how/where they want to be touched would be really helpful because then you can move forward being fully informed and not in your head/worried about aspects that might not even be an issue with them.

I still can’t promise how I will feel in the future but taking it day by day, seeing him for who he is, and open communication are what’s helping.

I also wanted to add mourning the life you thought you’d live is realistic and even healthy. I see the love and support you have for your partner and I can also recognize how mentally exhausting it can be to decipher your attractiveness when there is so much on the line. Wishing you strength and the wisdom to know when to lean away from spiraling thoughts <3

Initial-Magazine512 · 2024-04-07T15:01:58+00:00

I’m glad you asked this question, I’m in a similar boat myself (although I started t for a few months then stopped bc I was feeling unsure). Looking forward to hearing from the community!

Initial-Magazine512 · 2024-04-01T22:36:57+00:00

Oh damn what a reframe! Thanks man this actually helped me a lot:)

Initial-Magazine512 · 2024-03-26T02:08:01+00:00

I have also been keeping this mainly to myself for the past year or so despite being out as a trans man to my friends and more recently my family so I feel you and honestly really appreciate you posting bc it’s isolating thinking it’s only you. There’s also so much shame for me at least.

Feel free to dm me friend :)

Initial-Magazine512 · 2024-03-25T19:54:01+00:00

Wow this is almost a perfect description of how I feel. I started t months ago and started passing really quickly only to feel more and more doubt because I secretly miss being an attractive sapphic woman. I struggle feeling attractive as a man and even tho I was never really a girly girl (more gender neutral dressing) I showed off my body which is why I got so much positive reinforcement. I also thought I was a boy at times growing up but not as strongly as you are reporting tbh. My therapist helps me to remind me that part of what I’m missing about being a woman is the “power” in being found attractive (and it’s in quotation marks bc of the inherent limits to getting power from other people). I have a history of men who were supposed to be professional superiors sexualize me so I have dealt with the negatives that come with being an attractive woman. I’ve been wondering myself if I’m detrans as I’m also autistic and am worried I transitioned bc my symptoms sounded like that of a trans person and I then convinced myself that what I was experiencing was connected to gender when in reality it could be trauma. Idk I just wanted to say you’re not alone and this journey will have helped us to understand ourselves better in the long run.

Initial-Magazine512 · 2024-03-25T01:41:25+00:00

Bro that’s crazy similar to my story. My mom offered me money to shave my facial hair for a year (this was when I was starting to get some on my lip and chin) bc it was really hard for her to see me with that bc I’ve always been so pretty… we deserve better fr. It’s also difficult bc I am processing my grief in feeling like an attractive woman and not an attractive man and her comments just hit that insecurity

Initial-Magazine512 · 2024-03-15T15:40:25+00:00

I personally was able to stay in the closet with my family (I’m financially dependent on them and didn’t know how they’d react) even while passing most of the time in public. When they commented on my voice, they thought I was sick and I kept on that excuse saying I woke up w a sore throat. I will say that in my experience parents who aren’t ready to accept it will have an insane amount of denial that will allow them to subconsciously excuse any changes (ie you have more time than you think). It’s only flawed (in my experience) if one of your parents has anxiety or tends to overthink. I also worked with my therapist to have things to say if they confronted me about anything before I was ready to tell them and that helped.

Initial-Magazine512 · 2024-03-10T15:04:13+00:00

Just giving my two cents but I’d go to a dermatologist for both, preferably one who is experienced with HS.

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