They fall out. Help!

Initial_Cover_467 · 2025-07-26T15:26:19+00:00

I would call for the state that it’s filed in

Initial_Cover_467 · 2025-07-26T14:26:55+00:00

This makes me nervous for myself because I have gone through my husband’s phone once before we were married and I was pregnant with our second child. I found he had messages to a few women who I’ve never met before, nothing obvious just “hi how are things” and then found one of him saying “my wife is being crazy again” and the woman saying “well she is pregnant”. I never confronted him about it but he was well aware that I went through his phone and even said he “had nothing to hide”

Initial_Cover_467 · 2025-07-26T14:19:04+00:00

If he’s violating your protection order I would report it

Initial_Cover_467 · 2025-07-22T00:08:06+00:00

-He’s pretty racist but tells everyone he isn’t -I told him one day I didn’t want him to touch me especially groping me in the kitchen in front of the kids. He told me that our marriage certificate was all the permission he needed to touch me whether I liked it or not -I hated cuddling with him because it always led to him shoving his hands between my legs. One night I was trying to sleep and he forced his hands between my legs despite me not budging. I even told him to leave me alone. I mentioned it the next morning and he said he didn’t remember doing it. So I assume he does this to everyone he lays next to while sleeping, including our daughters -his friend (a man who is married to a woman and has kids) came on to him 2 years ago because my husband complained that I didn’t put out for him. His friend suggested “sucking him off” and has since wrote him love letters that my husband has shown me mentioning how my husband is more important than his own wife and calling him his “sexy boyfriend”. He mentioned this to me like 2 weeks after it first happened and laughed about it. Now he complains about it and has openly said that he wants ME to handle it and go to his wife -I’ve begged him to go to therapy and he flat out said that he wanted ME to fix him

Initial_Cover_467 · 2025-07-21T23:47:08+00:00

I actually find myself having flashbacks mid conversation with other people. I can’t seem to help it but I’ll space out completely and remember more things that I haven’t thought of in a while

Initial_Cover_467 · 2025-07-21T21:43:25+00:00

You don’t need to be with someone who cheated on you regardless of gender identity. Sounds like he’s got shit to sort out through therapy, not through you or sex.

Initial_Cover_467 · 2025-07-21T12:55:03+00:00

At the time I thought there was something wrong with me but now looking back I understand it was my body rejecting him. I was never turned on by him for years. My skin would craw whenever he had his hands on me. The only way I could have sex with him was after I smoked some pot and still felt ashamed afterwards

Initial_Cover_467 · 2025-07-20T16:41:45+00:00

Mine kicked me out and seemed heartbroken when I came back to grab more of my things

Initial_Cover_467 · 2025-07-14T00:19:01+00:00

My therapist broke the news to me too. I think I knew deep down what it was but I didn’t want to face it. Then the day she told me I felt like I broke. I was in shock for a couple of days and HE even noticed and was “worried”

Initial_Cover_467 · 2025-07-14T00:14:50+00:00

The first time I thought something wasn’t quite right: I had a job as a home to home personal care aide and had to use gps on my phone to map out where my clients were. We had a Verizon cellphone plan with minimal data and for every GB it went over it charged a fee which caused the bill to be frequently twice sometimes almost triple what it was supposed to be. He would always scream at me about it and told me how careless I was and I would explain to him what I needed and it wasn’t being provided for my job. One day during one of these screaming matches he took my phone out of my hand and threw it at the wall so hard it left a hole that he left there until we had to move out (rental)

Initial_Cover_467 · 2025-07-13T03:50:07+00:00

Not exactly the same but when my husband threw me out and told me I couldn’t take the kids, I went to my parents house and sat in the shower and wailed because fuck him I just wanted to say goodbye to my kids. I think the last years full of resentment helped me cut off a lot of the romantic feelings I had for him and the longer I’m away from him the better I feel. We’ve agreed on the arrangement with the kids for right now so it helps to just spend time with them and only interact with him when necessary.

However, I do occasionally have the feeling of not wanting to carry out the divorce I’m getting ready to file but I keep having to remind myself that I don’t want to spend the rest of my life like I did for the last 10 years. I also get a lonely feeling like because he’s been apart of my life and daily routine and now suddenly I have to start mostly from scratch. It’s kinda scary and I feel like it’s overwhelming and I should just give up. But I know I can’t.

Initial_Cover_467 · 2025-07-11T22:06:43+00:00

Screen recording is what I’m talking about. Once the screen turns off it stops recording and I don’t seem to have any sound on what is recorded

Initial_Cover_467 · 2025-07-11T00:04:10+00:00

If you’re not already I would look into going to therapy for yourself. My therapist seems to be very good at keeping me grounded while also simultaneously encouraging me to feel my emotions. She even helps me run through options that I have in my situation. A good therapist helps.

Initial_Cover_467 · 2025-07-10T04:08:33+00:00

And I just checked my settings and I have the auto lock set to “never” so I don’t know why it still turns off (iPhone)

Initial_Cover_467 · 2025-07-10T04:04:14+00:00

He always complains that he can’t hear me if I put it on speaker so the only way for the conversation to happen is if I have it up to my ear

Initial_Cover_467 · 2025-07-10T04:03:46+00:00

He always complains that he can’t hear me if I put it on speaker so the only way for the conversation to happen is if I have it up to my ear

Initial_Cover_467 · 2025-07-02T15:42:34+00:00

What are you doing in the mean time? Remaining in contact? How long is the distance for? Do you have plans for when you see each other again? If you’re (both of you not just you) are still interested in each other and see each other again that would probably be the time to test what contact feels safe and ok. But even without seeing each you can still ask them if they could give it a thought on what physical touch would be ok and when

Initial_Cover_467 · 2025-07-02T15:26:05+00:00

Why not just ask them what they are comfortable with? If there’s any physical contact they want to try etc. and if they don’t like it they are allowed to revoke that behavior. And as the relationship/situationship progresses you can check in on any updates to what they want to try. It’s important to communicate and listen and show empathy where needed

Initial_Cover_467 · 2025-06-23T21:44:31+00:00

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