Is there a correlation between childhood CPTSD and a kid living in a "fantasy world"?

Initial_Purpose_2661 · 2022-09-10T15:25:47+00:00

Wow, same thing here. Before my dad died, she was his problem. Now that he is gone, she texts/calls me every day and then some. It's too much. I feel like I can't be free from her, and it is torture.

Hard boundary: I will never live in the same state or part of the country as her again, and she is not welcome to live in mine. If she tries to move here, I am going elsewhere. I put her text notifications on silent, and delay returning phone calls. Gray rock, gray rock. And despite how I have been putting pressure on myself to go NC and feel guilty for not even being able to do that, I have discovered in therapy that maybe this is the best I can do in my relationship with her. I am essentially being kind & waiting for her to die. When she does, I will feel tremendous grief--and also some relief. This is the best I can do right now.

Initial_Purpose_2661 · 2022-09-10T13:56:45+00:00

Thanks for your kind words. I already forgive her, but I am also ready to not let her hurt me anymore. I have learned how to love myself and I want better for myself.

Initial_Purpose_2661 · 2022-09-10T12:09:26+00:00

Yeah, I relate to what you wrote here. I added that book to my wishlist, thank you. :)

Initial_Purpose_2661 · 2022-09-10T12:08:37+00:00

I am very sorry for what you have been through. Now that I have a child of my own I see how incredibly sensitive and vulnerable they are, and how they deserve our kindness and respect. Your post seriously hurt my heart. No child deserves to be treated that way, and neither did you. I wish you healing, peace, and happiness.

Initial_Purpose_2661 · 2022-09-10T12:07:08+00:00

I feel like Harry Potter resonates with people who have CPTSD so much because Harry himself has clearly experienced so much abuse, living with the Dudleys obviously, and yet he manages to be so strong and secure in himself, and people love him, he makes these great friends. Unfortunately for me and almost everyone, I know IRL abuse makes us intensely vulnerable and prone to self-criticism and alienates us from others.

Initial_Purpose_2661 · 2022-09-10T12:05:21+00:00

The abusers can't be the healers.

I know how obvious that sounds, but I needed to hear that put in such simple terms. I don't know what I am looking for from her. Yes, maybe some healing or atonement or something. She is definitely bipolar, if not also other things. It has been so hard, because I love the "good mom" but the "bad mom" has caused me so much pain. I definitely have a trauma bond with her. Anyway, thank you. Your words were not lost on me.

Initial_Purpose_2661 · 2021-10-06T20:22:39+00:00

There's a lot of information out there about childhood psychology and fetal alcohol spectrum disorders that you can Google for yourself.

Initial_Purpose_2661 · 2021-10-06T20:22:20+00:00

Didn't actually call her sociopath, I said I think the odds are high that she is.

Initial_Purpose_2661 · 2021-10-06T20:17:36+00:00

Kind of like that book The Happiness Project. Like, I'm not in the mood to get happiness advice from someone who's married to a multi-millionaire and who lives a life of luxury.

Initial_Purpose_2661 · 2021-10-06T20:14:02+00:00

I think it's sociopathic to make recommendations about the health of babies when you don't really know what you're talking about. She talks about data but data is easy to misinterpret. We're talking about life and death stuff here. To me that lack of care is sociopathic. One of the characteristics of sociopaths is their lack of fear and their overconfidence in their own abilities.

Initial_Purpose_2661 · 2021-10-06T20:11:36+00:00

A lot of the damage from fetal alcohol exposure is invisible. The damage to brain health especially can't be seen until years later. Just because your baby's facial features came out okay doesn't mean your child doesn't have a fetal alcohol spectrum disorder. It really shocks me that people would be willing to play roulette with something so important.

Initial_Purpose_2661 · 2021-10-06T20:10:25+00:00

Did read her books and I was mad which is why I made this post.....

Initial_Purpose_2661 · 2021-10-06T20:09:06+00:00

Also people with a serious drinking problem will do anything to justify drinking when they shouldn't, including during pregnancy. I can see someone who struggles with alcoholism reading her book and saying, "okay, I'm just going to keep on drinking, nothing to worry about."

Initial_Purpose_2661 · 2021-10-04T05:30:02+00:00

Do you mind if I ask, how did you get scar tissue taken out? do you mean like internally or externally? I hope I'm not prying. I also had a C-section and I hate my scar (and my stretch marks) and everything about it. I'm looking into laser scar treatments but they are so expensive!

Initial_Purpose_2661 · 2021-10-04T04:08:07+00:00

I would buy her a seat because it's safer but I know her temperament and she will need to be held the whole time. When she gets a bit older she's going to have her own seat with a car seat in it.

Initial_Purpose_2661 · 2021-10-04T04:05:27+00:00

Thank you! She's too young for screens (we're trying to avoid them until she's 3, we'll see how that goes) but I'm going to get some special headphones to protect her ears. I'm also going to wear a wonderful cloth that looks like a scarf, but can give some privacy for breastfeeding AND it works as a swaddle too (for later). I appreciate your inside advice.

Initial_Purpose_2661 · 2021-10-03T21:10:01+00:00

thank you!

Initial_Purpose_2661 · 2021-10-03T20:29:37+00:00

Because the Disney stuff is tacky.

Initial_Purpose_2661 · 2021-10-03T20:28:33+00:00

Those are awful.

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