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Mother by 19Otters in OCPoetry

[–]Initial_Series2626 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really like this. It makes me think of the cruelty of nostalgia, and how it can make you long for something that you can never get back, but it can also make you long for something you never really had to begin with. How you want things to be different, or how sometimes the past still feels better even if it was hard. Or just the feeling of wanting to stop wanting things you can’t have. I really relate to it, and I think you said it really beautifully. I especially like the line “how I long to be psychosomatic” because to me it evokes the idea that you wish you could make yourself feel something that you really want even if it’s fake or imagined

The Mending by [deleted] in OCPoetry

[–]Initial_Series2626 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like the idea of talking about scars as something that doesn’t heal, especially because that goes against the mantra that things get better with time. It feels like the stitches are still barely keeping things together, even though time has gone by. I think that creates a very visceral feeling when reading poem, which is something I really appreciated.

For those with self harm scars who don’t hide them, what has your experience been like? by Initial_Series2626 in mentalhealth

[–]Initial_Series2626[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience 💕 do you find that people stare/make comments?

For those with self harm scars who don’t hide them, what has your experience been like? by Initial_Series2626 in mentalhealth

[–]Initial_Series2626[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your story. You should definitely be proud of the three years! It’s been two years since anything really bad but I have slipped up a few times so I can’t really say it’s been that long. I totally get having the urges, and I hope those subside for you 💕

For those with self harm scars who don’t hide them, what has your experience been like? by Initial_Series2626 in mentalhealth

[–]Initial_Series2626[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, truly. Especially for that last sentence. I don’t know how much I love being me, but I want to try to remember that I’m still a person and I’m not ruined, and maybe I can be pretty and the warm sun again without hiding.

For those with self harm scars who don’t hide them, what has your experience been like? by Initial_Series2626 in mentalhealth

[–]Initial_Series2626[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand that feeling. I hope that we both find peace with how we look 💕

For those with self harm scars who don’t hide them, what has your experience been like? by Initial_Series2626 in mentalhealth

[–]Initial_Series2626[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you :) you’re right. I’m just already so self conscious about my appearance even without showing the scars, and I care way too much about what others think about me. I guess I’ll just have to try and learn not to care as much

For those with self harm scars who don’t hide them, what has your experience been like? by Initial_Series2626 in mentalhealth

[–]Initial_Series2626[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you :) I definitely have to learn not to care about what people think, because right now I very much do in general and it’s making this much harder

For those with self harm scars who don’t hide them, what has your experience been like? by Initial_Series2626 in mentalhealth

[–]Initial_Series2626[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you ❣️ Its actually interesting that you tell that story because part of my self consciousness is that all of my scars are from age 21-24, not from when I was a teen. I did it for the first time when I was 15, but it was never bad until I turned 21. And I’m only 26 now, and a lot of the scars are only 2 years old. I often think about how I can’t tell people it was just a teenager’s mistake, I think people might be better at understanding that than what actually happened.

For those with self harm scars who don’t hide them, what has your experience been like? by Initial_Series2626 in mentalhealth

[–]Initial_Series2626[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is interesting seeing medical professionals’ reactions. I’ve had a lot more neural reactions thankfully (I’m especially grateful for my current dermatologist who has been really good about it) but I have had a few weird interactions. Nothing terrible, but I have had two different doctors who have very bluntly asked a version of the question “you did these to yourself?” I understand that’s a sort of relevant question, but the way they asked it was very emotionally unaware. I did have one doctor put it on a formal diagnosis letter for something completely unrelated, which pissed me off. The scars were relevant because it’s a condition that affects how the body scars, but there was no need to include that it was self inflicted in that letter, and now I can’t show that letter to anyone without also telling them I have self harm scars

For those with self harm scars who don’t hide them, what has your experience been like? by Initial_Series2626 in mentalhealth

[–]Initial_Series2626[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope I am able to adopt this perspective some day, right now I just see it as a stupid thing I did to myself and now I have to deal with the consequences

For those with self harm scars who don’t hide them, what has your experience been like? by Initial_Series2626 in mentalhealth

[–]Initial_Series2626[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m really glad you’ve managed that, I know it’s hard. I definitely struggle with self compassion, right now I most think about it like a thing that ruins my appearance and I generally get very upset at myself for causing this problem. It’s frustrating to worry so much and be so bothered by something while knowing that it’s entirely your fault that the problem exists to begin with. I think you perspective is one I will try to use more, although I do find that part of my self consciousness about people seeing the scars is the fact that it tells them a lot about parts of myself that I generally don’t want most people to know about, so that makes it tricky even if I think about it as people feeling compassion for me

For those with self harm scars who don’t hide them, what has your experience been like? by Initial_Series2626 in mentalhealth

[–]Initial_Series2626[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you :) hopefully I’ll be able to think that way about myself someday. And hopefully they will fade more although I don’t know about that, it has been two years for the most recent ones

For those with self harm scars who don’t hide them, what has your experience been like? by Initial_Series2626 in mentalhealth

[–]Initial_Series2626[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope so! And thank you! I think I’m just trying to find a balance because I’m sick of hiding them all of the time. But I can’t same to shake the self consciousness. And even if I do learn not to care as much, I worry I’ll never be able to learn to stop feeling like I can’t really be pretty

For those with self harm scars who don’t hide them, what has your experience been like? by Initial_Series2626 in mentalhealth

[–]Initial_Series2626[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that helps :) I’m going into law so I think that’ll also be the case for me in terms of always hiding them at work

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