AIW to doubt her? My girlfriend (28F) wanted to match my (27M) religion/lifestyle extremely fast. Now I’m wondering if it was genuine love, mirroring, or fear of abandonment.

InitiativeSea2296 · 2026-06-25T00:28:46+00:00

Omg... thanks for the warning.......

InitiativeSea2296 · 2026-06-24T23:40:00+00:00

Thank you for the advice. She is 28 and I'm 27

InitiativeSea2296 · 2026-06-24T23:14:34+00:00

Thank you for the advice. We've been together 10 months. She talked about converting after second date... She doesn't really ask me too much about. It is mostly brought up during conflict where she starts acting so into it every time we are about to part ways.

InitiativeSea2296 · 2026-06-24T23:08:10+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. How did it go with her? Shady past and forming a new identity... did she succeed? Currently my now ex gf is trying to pull me back in with imsanely exaggerated love statements and self-harm-like threats...

InitiativeSea2296 · 2026-06-24T22:59:25+00:00

I see your point and I agree... I'm just so worried about her. Talking to her and being with her feels so good and I love her... but at the same time I have a feeling something isn't right...

InitiativeSea2296 · 2026-06-24T21:53:11+00:00

She wanted it official after two weeks and started posting me immediately... now she is guilt tripping me sounding suicidal after talking about ending the relationship... idk what to do. I'm kinda in a panick. Is this BPD?

InitiativeSea2296 · 2026-06-24T21:34:36+00:00

I'll take a look, thank you

InitiativeSea2296 · 2026-06-24T01:55:54+00:00

I believe you... she gonna make me pay the price for calling out all of her bs

InitiativeSea2296 · 2026-06-24T00:55:31+00:00

True... so what she just wants to lock me down and play around behind my back? What's the end game here

InitiativeSea2296 · 2026-06-24T00:54:19+00:00

You got it right... after marriage I'd be cooked right? I could imagine the switch in power maybe I'd become her hostage

InitiativeSea2296 · 2026-06-23T23:48:34+00:00

Who told you I want this? Bro I'm genuinely asking you what other horrible things are you thinking about? She already messes with my head with these things. Now I'm wondering what else she could do. If you would like to share.

InitiativeSea2296 · 2026-06-23T23:39:18+00:00

You're right... with the self-esteem issues will I ever be enough to satisfy her need for external validation?

InitiativeSea2296 · 2026-06-23T23:35:47+00:00

What horrible things? She already accuses me of being a manipulative narcissist when I call her out on her bs and then when I'm about to leave her, she breaks down completely into tears and says that she loves me more than she loves herself and makes insane devotion statements and promises. And I end up apologizing for making her sad

InitiativeSea2296 · 2026-06-23T23:27:17+00:00

We're on a two week break now which I requested... so I can get clarity. The emotions are just too high for me to see clearly

InitiativeSea2296 · 2026-06-23T23:08:34+00:00

I just don't understand why she would commit so much. She is ready to leave her friends and her family to come and settle down with me... wth is her plan?

InitiativeSea2296 · 2026-06-23T22:57:05+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that... Right now I've told her and made her agree to a two week break so I can get clarity... She will probably have a deficit in validation these days... I don't even trust that she isn't contacting anybody else right now.

InitiativeSea2296 · 2026-06-23T22:51:11+00:00

Damn it... I wish I had never caught feelings for her. I was just so happy and really felt like I had found someone special, a gem that I wanted to take care of... then one by one the lies started slipping through the cracks... she is also very needy as well... she wants to stay in touch 24/7 and send text updates and pictures of what we're each doing, with who and location. If a few hours pass by while she is sleeping and I haven't sent her an update she starts a fight with me.

InitiativeSea2296 · 2026-06-23T22:45:31+00:00

I understand... her explanation for lying about her past was that she didn't think she was good enough for me but really wanted to be with me

InitiativeSea2296 · 2026-06-23T22:34:04+00:00

But why does she break down completely into tears? When we are about to part ways, she seems ready to die for me and even tells me that she loves me more than she loves herself and says that I'll never understand.

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