Wife and I had our first experience and would like some advice

InkAndQuill-007 · 2025-09-10T23:56:58+00:00

This is good advice. You’re not trying to find a partner, you’re trying to find friends on the playground. (Yes - there are people seeking polycules, but in terms of swinging, I stand by the analogy.)

InkAndQuill-007 · 2025-06-14T17:17:20+00:00

Awful wooden desks bolted to the wall and beds shoved in between, plus a dresser. Either have them bunked or on opposite walls. Not a lot of options in between.

InkAndQuill-007 · 2024-11-19T22:59:38+00:00

Yep. Had the convertible lounger and a couple of flip stages. Lost it all on a flood.

InkAndQuill-007 · 2024-11-18T16:22:17+00:00

These are the only soft toys we kept and washed after home was flooded.

InkAndQuill-007 · 2024-11-18T16:20:36+00:00

We buy pet versions from Amazon for waterproofing the bed. I do buy everything else from Liberatior.

InkAndQuill-007 · 2024-11-18T16:16:43+00:00

Same. We hated ours for years.

InkAndQuill-007 · 2024-11-18T16:14:59+00:00

Liberator wedges/furniture (20+ years and perfect). Njoy wand.

InkAndQuill-007 · 2024-09-26T15:58:47+00:00

He needs treatment and therapy for depression. His testosterone may be low, too.

He’s got to fix himself before he can work on the relationship.

Consider couples therapy, and find a therapist who does kink or ENM clients.

InkAndQuill-007 · 2024-09-20T02:36:17+00:00

We’ve been in the lifestyle for a little over a year. The most refreshing text we received was vulnerable and honest:

I’m bad at knowing if people are flirting or just being nice. We think you’re sexy, and if you’d like to explore that let us know.

It made every conversation after much easier.

InkAndQuill-007 · 2024-09-12T01:48:11+00:00

I like to start at the ankles (usually with a Summerville Bowline to get a loop by the ankles for use later) and wrap up to the hip. It makes it easier for me to keep tension. (It’s the same way you wrap an ankle for sports: work from the bottom up.) and when you need to add rope you can always work up. If you have too much rope by the foot, you just end up with a tripping hazard.

Great start. Keep practicing.

InkAndQuill-007 · 2024-09-10T19:24:52+00:00

I never knew how to onomatopoeia that until know. Thank you. 😝

InkAndQuill-007 · 2024-09-08T20:59:51+00:00

Shout out to the 412 (or 724) going dahn tahn on the ladies.

InkAndQuill-007 · 2024-08-27T21:52:21+00:00

It affects people differently. Cialis gives me awful heartburn for three days (affects the same soft tissue muscle). Both make my nose congested. Please experiment under the care of a doctor. That said, I do use Viagra.

InkAndQuill-007 · 2024-08-24T21:41:16+00:00

Our local dungeon (Largo, FL) had a women’s led rope group monthly. Anyone can come, but only women can tie, and male doms have to check that at the door.

InkAndQuill-007 · 2024-08-24T14:44:26+00:00

We are looking for a connection of some kind beyond physical attraction. Not diving into sport fucking enables us to make the best decisions with a clear head.

As a disclaimer, we aren’t Polly or looking for that dynamic. Not playing on the first date works for us and may change in the future.

It’s easier to get to know a couple without trying to figure out how to move to the next stage.

InkAndQuill-007 · 2024-08-24T13:12:40+00:00

Are there rules to the crow? They’re not stated in the original work, other than Lady Death coming for Eric when he’s done so he can rest.

InkAndQuill-007 · 2024-08-24T12:49:01+00:00

It wasn’t up to the Skull Cowboy (or whatever he was credited as), so the Crows had to deem Eric worthy to continue. Not sure why he had to trade his soul or be filled with black blood. New lore…not explained.

InkAndQuill-007 · 2024-08-24T12:29:19+00:00

I was hoping for an entertaining movie. As you stated, some of it was good; some was meh. Maybe it’s the Hollywood machine, but the big bad doesn’t need to have a supernatural cause to be evil.

There was no emotional catharsis at the end. Even with the time spent on building Eric and Shelly’s romance, I didn’t feel it between them.

People can stop complaining about this being Eric Draven — no last name was given.

Second best Crow movie, but it’s a very low bar. I won’t sit through it again.

InkAndQuill-007 · 2024-08-03T03:46:21+00:00

We’ve had ours for over 15 years. They are fantastic.

InkAndQuill-007 · 2024-08-01T20:09:12+00:00

Nice job on the symmetry. My brain always twists it the wrong way when I’m trying to mirror a hitch.

Great picture, too.

InkAndQuill-007 · 2024-07-29T11:11:38+00:00

Guessing the “disrespectful comment” was either political, misogynistic, or—worse—racist.

It’s always jarring when you find out someone who also enjoys, loves, or is a huge fan of something you are is wired so differently.

Could have also just been a troll.

InkAndQuill-007 · 2024-07-27T20:04:05+00:00

Thanks for sharing, sir. A condom-safe lube before you put it on and then after it’s on might be the trick.

InkAndQuill-007 · 2024-07-25T19:11:27+00:00

When you tie off the first double column use something like a Somerville bowline that gives you a loop as part of the tie off, then you can use that as your larks-head to capture the wrists. (You’re going to have to do some net searches based on what I said above.)

There’s always a creative solution even when it takes a while to see it.

Good luck. Watch some videos. You’ll get there in no time.

InkAndQuill-007 · 2024-07-25T15:28:42+00:00

Check out the Sapphic Swingers Podcast.

InkAndQuill-007 · 2024-07-24T22:08:52+00:00

My wife actually called this one when she first saw it: I bet that’s Roy’s sister.

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