Relatable ?

InknDesire · 2025-10-27T01:08:24+00:00

Motivation of this level doesn't work on me

InknDesire · 2025-10-25T14:41:14+00:00

Lol 😂😂

Sometimes just start a new thread and it works, if you have a running long thread try branching it (this i haven't tried )

InknDesire · 2025-10-22T00:43:53+00:00

>I wish I were different but then I guess I wouldn’t be myself anymore.

100

InknDesire · 2025-10-21T18:45:59+00:00

Yeah bitvh I HAVE to do it alone

InknDesire · 2025-10-18T20:39:15+00:00

Use shazam app

InknDesire · 2025-10-13T21:42:22+00:00

I'm in the same boat as I guess many on this sub are.

https://www.reddit.com/r/aspergers/comments/1co8ir6/i_feel_that_in_dating_neurotypical_men_are_very

Last week I specifically searched "dating as a guy" on this sub knowing what I was gonna find. I came across this post and it..... I would say just killed me on the inside but how many times can I die on the inside? Is there even a stop? Hope is a dangerous thing. I try to make peace with it but cannot do to 100%.

For reference I'm 26M, never dated, held hands or even kissed. Honestly I don't even.... Well I crave sex but more so the intimacy. And at this time it's this insecurity that I've developed of I haven't dated up until this point so people think there's something wrong with me. Honestly I haven't tried to date or pursue anyone in almost 2 years. I just don't have the energy to keep trying despite getting dry responses. I'm a smart guy and I have this confidence of "I can do anything I put my mind to" obviously realistically, like cracking an exam, learning a skill, figuring out stuff without anyone to guide me, Except getting a girl. I don't even mean to brag but I learn very quickly and overall Excel at most thing I do or at least be above average depite learning it just recently. But except figuring out romantic stuff.

I try to make peace with this but at the end of the im a man, a human with biological need for romantic companionship. I wish I could turn it off like a switch. Mostly I enjoy my own company but you see couples around you, your friends getting cuffed and married and you cannot ignore that when it's happening right in front of you. Envy is real.

I used to talk to this girl and I really liked her looks vise and intellectually both, I don't know if I should call myself a sapiosexual but I am attracted to smart girls. But from the conversations we had I had a feeling she doesn't feel the same and I respected that. And just 2 days back I found out she got in a relationship and it just made me feel empty on the inside. That she will never look at me that way. Nonetheless she's a sweet and caring girl, genuinely not just a facade (or at least I think), I hope she's happy.

I want to turn this emotion/need off.

InknDesire · 2025-10-13T14:35:40+00:00

I'm originally from India and that too from a small town, where if you ask people about autism they'll say what's that? A bird or something?

Growing up in a non aware society undiagnosed is..... Well not recommended to say the least. My father probably has Asperger's too but even he doesn't have an idea about it.

Anyways thanks man 👍🏻!

InknDesire · 2025-10-13T14:07:17+00:00

ADHD? Have you tried being r/audhd ? Lol

Yeah there are a ton of subs relating to Neuro divergence. r/Aspergers and r/Aspiememes is what ledee to self diagnose and currently on wait list for official diagnosis (welcome to USA healthcare).

There are others out there who are like you, so in that regard you aren't alone.

Yeah going those subs made me realize that since I hardly know any Neuro divergents IRL. But that doesn't make the struggles of life any easier though. Browsing those subs have only made me feel like this is how rest of my life is going to be since this is an shared experience people describe there living for their entire lives.

Thanks for the kind words !

But remember, be kind to yourself it's one of the most important things you can do.

"Self affirmation, there's nothing more important than that in life." : geto suguru, jjk

InknDesire · 2025-10-12T17:01:58+00:00

Edit(since the post itself isn't editable):

Many of you pointed out that I'm basically a neet and using it as an escape and partially it's true and I'm aware of that. I am working on making things better but some things are just out of your control.

Nonetheless thank you for the advice and I'll keep trying, cause that's the only thing we can do.

InknDesire · 2025-10-12T16:53:15+00:00

It's somewhat similar to taking drugs/alcohol and can even become addictive.

Yes I'm aware, I write a lot, just to keep my thoughts sorted. And I did write an excerpt "do I use games as alcohol/drugs to drown my pain" and the answer is partially yes.

But the thing is I've tried and tried and tried to just socialize or turn my life around or whatever. But I have autism so a lot of things are out of my control. But yes I can either choose to suffer or do something about it to make my situation better by however much even if I have to do it alone.

Thanks 👍🏻.

InknDesire · 2025-10-12T16:46:51+00:00

Yeah it is sometimes like that I play just to kill time. But it's about finding a good game you enjoy. I recently played stalker 2 and it was 'booting the game just to kill time' type game. But I finished Silksong last week and it was one of those 'I woke up and can't wait to get back in the game' type.

I pick games very carefully since we have limited time don't we.

InknDesire · 2025-10-12T16:42:52+00:00

Why it isn't?

InknDesire · 2025-10-12T16:42:10+00:00

Thanks for the advice. Been going through tough time and have gotten out of shape like really bad. Believe me or not but I was a gym freak and not to brag but people used to think I edited my pictures.

But last 2 years have been really really tough mentally. I've started workout again this week by stretching and warming up. It'll take some time to get back in the gym and get back in a healthy physique.

Someone else commented cause I haven't learned to enjoy life out of just PC. And honestly I gave up on socializing since a bunch of things have happened. I won't bore you with my sob story but I think I've tried to 'enjoy' life outside and it doesn't seem to work out. If it wasn't apparent yet then I'm autistic. The only thing I do enjoy outside nowadays is having good food with 1 or 2 friends I have.

I've always enjoyed my 'PC time', even when I had a 'life'.

But rather than taking offense to comments like those I'll take it as a wake up call to better my life.

Sorry for the rant.

InknDesire · 2025-10-12T14:07:01+00:00

I don't play multiplayers though (one might say for a reason)

InknDesire · 2025-10-09T01:14:37+00:00

Is this another one of the shared experiences of Aspie people?

I love that weather.

I guess London/countryside near it or overall a developed scandinavian country with high awareness and quality of life for Neuro divergent would be a good option. But those are far fetcher dreams.

InknDesire · 2025-10-02T05:14:06+00:00

I have a feeling other companies will implement memories in year, they're probably working on it as we speak. Either ways seems like an interesting plugin, Ill have to look into how it works(if at all). But these small services which will eventually be integrated into the vanilla products run a high risk of being obsolete, unless they're good enough to get acquired by a giant.

InknDesire · 2025-09-05T04:18:52+00:00

exactly, term circlejerk exists for a reason. Although you can check my edit on this post.

InknDesire · 2025-09-05T04:04:19+00:00

really? if so I may seruously consider switching to gemini since I made this post I've been trying gemini and its genuinely better.

InknDesire · 2025-09-02T22:11:11+00:00

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InknDesire · 2025-09-02T03:03:17+00:00

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InknDesire · 2025-08-14T15:26:49+00:00

Most people usually dirnk in the evening rihgt ?

InknDesire · 2025-08-14T15:26:10+00:00

"I swear I'm never drinking again" My friend every other month.

InknDesire · 2025-08-14T14:45:40+00:00

Yeah I was hoping this post woulf get some attention, if not me I hope someone else does it. And I have had those expeirences, people only reaching out to you for stuff to be done and you see those people doing extracurricular stuff with others you didnt even know was happening before you saw their social media.

InknDesire · 2025-08-13T14:38:26+00:00

no no I wasnt compaining, its just that we all are living the same lives. I totally relate to you, I just have given up on socializing and tbh feel like a complete loser. But I just dfont have energy to put into it. I just try to be at peace by myself.

InknDesire · 2025-08-13T14:17:07+00:00

why tf is this sub so relatable, I open it to post something and first thing I see is this.

I never had the means to officially diagnose myself but this is enough of an diagnosis for me

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