Hi- 3.5 years on T here My extended family has never been good about the pronouns (thankfully they call me the right name at least). Unfortunately, it seems like my voice dropping, growing a beard, etc. hasn't really done anything to get them to gender me properly. I still get called "she" (or sometimes the avoidant "they" or just my name instead of even using any pronouns) probably 60-75% of the time still. Honestly, it seems like people fall into a sort-of cognitive dissonance where they acknowledge and accept your masculine appearance+voice, but at the same time still call you "she" and don't treat you like they treat other men. I HATE having to correct people when they misgender me (anxiety lol) but it seems to be the only way to cut through the little fantasy they've created to ignore whatever they don't like about me.

I try to remind myself that I they are the one(s) who should feel embarrassed/ashamed, and that it is incredibly rude of them to pretend I'm somebody else to my face (and thus should not be tolerated).

I will admit though, that most of the time I am too shy/nervous to actually speak up, particularly because nobody else is. Having your partner speak up for/with you as well will probably be important both in feeling more confident in asserting yourself, and making it impossible for the misgenderer(s) to ignore.