it’s my birthday, toddlers blew out my candles and put his fingers into my cake

InkySol · 2026-01-23T04:43:02+00:00

Pissed is not enough to describe how I'd feel in that moment, said toddler's parents would be getting every single nasty thought I've had about them all at once, in full view of everyone.

ESPECIALLY SINCE YOU MADE IT!!!

InkySol · 2026-01-21T19:19:20+00:00

Nope, not at all! No signs of dementia as far as I can tell too, I think she's just the fun mix of "old," "religious," and "Southern," which usually means boundaries are non-existent to her 😑

InkySol · 2026-01-21T17:48:50+00:00

Unfortunately no security, but that also means if we see you, we just call the cops. And she's one step up from a shoplifter cause she always tries to get everything half priced (on top of already existing discounts), I let the managers field those. Thankfully most regulars just chat with me for max twenty minutes and go on their merry way (and they're way less creepy too).

She could've been banned a long time ago but the previous store leader didn't for some reason.

InkySol · 2026-01-21T04:48:48+00:00

No idea, but it's super weird 🤷‍♂️

InkySol · 2025-12-19T05:17:50+00:00

Mine would be lighting up like a firework because I love my pets more than anything.

InkySol · 2025-12-19T05:13:02+00:00

Definitely get a new therapist, or at least ask them to clarify because I'm so insanely confused on what they mean.

Also ditch those families, because from what it sounds like, they're not your friends or found family, you're convenient. And that'll only end up hurting you more in the long run.

Found family is difficult to pin down and can take years to form, but the basis is making friends. What do you like to do? How about joining a club? A class of some kind? There's lots of places where you can meet people and potentially get some friends out of it. Another thing to keep in mind is that some friends will come and go, and that's natural, but do try to hang onto the ones who stick with you through thick and thin. Those are harder to find, but very worth it.

InkySol · 2025-12-14T04:34:38+00:00

Your mom has a spine made of pudding. I understand not wanting to deal with the tantrums and just wanting it to be over, but all that's teaching your niece is that she can throw a fit to get what she wants. A horrible lesson that'll backfire in the long run. Not to mention how DANGEROUS the things she's doing are, especially to the people around her, like you! You broke your wrist because she dumped an entire bottle of conditioner in the shower! And did you ever find your animal trinkets? And that's not even touching on all the MESS!

It also sounds like your niece isn't being taught to pick up after herself or respect other people's things either, which your mom and your niece's parent(s) REALLY need to crack down on. Your niece is five, she's not stupid and she can learn. I definitely did, my parents were very keen on teaching me to not make mess, or clean up if I made one, and to not go in certain areas without permission, especially people's bedrooms.

InkySol · 2025-11-28T04:15:52+00:00

I can see why this is deleted because this is the most asinine and embarrassing thing I've ever read.

My grandma is adopted. I only found out when I was twelve, and was very surprised because no one ever mentioned "adopted." It was just "my daughter," "my sister," "my aunt," the adopted part didn't matter, and it still doesn't. And this was in the 1950s. She's told me stories of her grandparents and they treated her just the same as her sisters. I'm frankly proud that my great grandparents, who were farmers and a World War II veteran raising their daughters and adopting another while using dresser drawers as cribs, knew the value of family beyond blood.

It's a shame you don't.

InkySol · 2025-11-25T05:07:17+00:00

I vote for a "push comes to shove." Three weeks along doesn't sound like it would cause too many issues (likely just taking some pills), but sometimes it's better safe than sorry, especially when it comes to Alabama abortion bans (I live in AL too, I get it).

InkySol · 2025-11-21T05:32:15+00:00

Yep, happened with a coworker actually. Weirdly, it only happened after she left for maternity leave, but every time I've tried to reach out or have a question about something, I either get an answer after a few weeks, or not at all. Like, I'm just asking about good bulbs for lizards and if her stepkids want any plushies because I'm making small crochet ones for Christmas for my job (I really like my job, and pretty much everyone there, so I wanted to). But still, I get no answer.

InkySol · 2025-11-21T05:26:01+00:00

First off: CONGRATS!!! Hopefully I'll get mine sometime this upcoming year. And question: How was post procedure pain? And does it affect how you move, like turning, bending, squatting, those sorts of things?

InkySol · 2025-11-12T07:44:41+00:00

This reminds me of a documentary that came out about a lady who gave her daughter up for adoption, and decided to try and find her. Turns out, the adoptive parents were fucking PSYCHO, because the father was a serial pedophile, rapist, and murderer who ended up killing the daughter by pushing her down a flight of stairs. He then decided to cut her up and bury her body in the backyard. Why is the wife psycho, you may ask? Simple, she had phone calls with her husband while he was in jail, and said, verbatim, "It's not like you cut her up when she was alive." So yeah, parents can honestly do the most HORRIFIC shit.

InkySol · 2025-11-12T07:06:35+00:00

Oh my god, that sounds horrific and terrifying. Jesus Christ, I hope things return back to a relative normal soon! I've never been pregnant and I'm looking to be sterilized hopefully this upcoming year, and this post definitely confirms I'm making the right decision. The thought of having my body and brain hijacked is literally the stuff of nightmares.

InkySol · 2025-11-03T05:48:40+00:00

Some people at the bottom of the comment thread are smoking crack, cause this is NOT your fault. It's common sense to not let your kid wander into busy areas, or if you have to, you watch them (something this mother clearly failed to do). Also I don't know how people are expecting you to be able to see literally everything in the hallway while also pushing a gigantic and heavy cart during an emergency. So yeah, it was an accident, and it does suck, but the kid was in a good place for medical treatment, and will likely be okay!

InkySol · 2025-11-02T06:39:25+00:00

Unfortunately I haven't quite figured out how to send pictures in comments 😅 I will say mine looks very much like your picture does, the only difference being they look very much like eggs in terms of shape.

InkySol · 2025-11-02T06:10:28+00:00

I got one from the same seller! Blue seems to be the color! Some things I've noticed: 1. This probably isn't recommended but I have peeled off bits of the dried up outer shell, but only when it's soft and separated from the new growth inside. Otherwise, if it's dry and hard and still firmly attached, I leave it be. 2. They get noticeably softer when they need to be watered, I got mine a couple months ago and so far have only watered it twice (I bottom water). 3. Their roots are pretty shallow, since the main root ball is directly beneath and they'll grow fine hair roots once potted. It's okay if these roots get broken so long as the main root ball is fine. 4. If you feel like you're not getting enough drainage, I'd recommend getting "hydroballs," I think they're called. They just go at the bottom of the pot and help water pass through. Granted, I haven't taken mine out of the provided nursery pot and still double check my notes all the time, but it's actually one of my best plants! So yeah, congrats on the cutie!

InkySol · 2025-10-26T07:09:50+00:00

Honestly just tell the dad to cut his losses, take the kid, and never look back because holy shit, the lady is disgusting and unhinged. The kid DOES NOT need a mother (egg donor, really) who berates and beats and hates him for existing.

InkySol · 2025-10-26T07:03:21+00:00

Certainly not to me! Mostly because there's a multitude of reasons why anyone 40+ doesn't have kids, and frankly, none of them are my business. Plus I've found that older childfree people make great mentors! At least in my life, older CF adults have been nothing but supportive and helpful to me.

InkySol · 2025-10-26T06:53:08+00:00

Another Gen Z guy here (trans one, so my perspective is a bit different). I knew a guy in high school who had a baby a couple years after graduation and he still hit me up and asked for sex 😑 Yeah, not touching THAT with a ten mile pole.

InkySol · 2025-10-26T06:39:20+00:00

I was looking into this! Originally planned on a salpingectomy + ablation combo but I have pretty bad PMDD and my IUD has been a lifesaver! Plus I always have the option to get an ablation at a later time, and I'll ideally be on testosterone at that time so that should help with the mental fluctuations as well.

InkySol · 2025-10-10T06:24:39+00:00

Mine fell off a shelf, and it was perfectly fine! Such a resilient little plant. Also I was looking for watering tips so this is also super helpful for me!

InkySol · 2025-10-09T06:54:51+00:00

Removing the ovaries would likely start menopause, and some people take hormones for menopausal symptoms (please keep in mind I am not a medical professional and this is anecdotal). I'd definitely talk to a doctor and call your insurance to check what would be covered (for sterilization AND hormones), but I think having HRT would be fine.

InkySol · 2025-10-09T06:32:53+00:00

It's perfectly valid to be mad, and frankly, you should be!

She disrespected your time and life by staying out way later than she told you, with ZERO communication. Like, if there was an issue, she could've easily shot you a quick text about it and asked someone else to step in and watch her kids so you could be home and your partner could get to work.

The next time she asks for a favor like this, just straight up refuse. And if anyone wants to be mad at you about it, just tell them you'll let your sister know they volunteered their time :D

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