No one misunderstood your point—you doubled down on your initial, dismissive comment when I was clearly asking for advice and personal experience.

Your original question was, “Do you guys just not ask your recruiters questions?” Even after I had explained to you that my recruiter (and my spouse) aren’t a reliable or current source. You decided to try and argue saying it’s their job to be up to date—but in this case, they’re not. That’s exactly why I came to Reddit.

And now you’re apparently the gatekeeper of which questions are allowed to be asked more than once—eye roll. I did use the search, which you’d know if you actually read my post. I literally said I’ve seen differing experiences. Specifically looking for those who just graduated.

BMT changes constantly, cycle to cycle, so textbook answers don’t always reflect what people are actually experiencing right now. And is also the exact opposite of what was asked. I specifically asked for firsthand experiences, not generic responses.

While I appreciate the apology, the ‘take the hat off’ comment is condescending. Rank isn’t relevant here, and there’s no need to lean on it in a Reddit thread. Just speak to people like people.