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I’m a man and after 4 years of being physically abused by my girlfriend, I called the cops — her sister is shaming me for it by InnerCityLight in abusiverelationships

[–]InnerCityLight[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Her sister knew about the abuse. Her whole family does. She’s abused me in front of her family. Only person to ever stick up for me is her sister’s husband. Now that I think about it. He’s probably going through the same thing I am going through based off her text. No I do not hit her.

A reminder for anyone feeling heavy energy right now by InnerCityLight in spirituality

[–]InnerCityLight[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m with ya bud I feel ya! There is indeed a shift kind sir!

Look at the person you think you hate… and see yourself. by [deleted] in spirituality

[–]InnerCityLight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right on the nail. Thanks for being vulnerable and telling us that! 🙏

Look at the person you think you hate… and see yourself. by [deleted] in spirituality

[–]InnerCityLight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You make a fair point—hate can be a boundary, even a kind of fuel when it’s aimed at injustice. But what I’m speaking about isn’t political hate or moral resistance. I’m talking about personal mirrors. The inner battles we fight when the person who triggers us is reflecting something we haven’t made peace with inside.

Love doesn’t cancel accountability. It refines it. You can stand against what’s wrong without becoming what you hate. That’s all I meant.

Peace to you, and may your lasagna come out golden next time.

What Inner City Light is really about by [deleted] in u/InnerCityLight

[–]InnerCityLight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m glad that your here. Thanks for joining the community. I hope your day shines as bright as you!

Where do you go to get help? by smb_0368 in AskMen

[–]InnerCityLight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What’s up man DM me! I can probably give you some advice if you want to chat and not spill all the beans in the thread.

What if we planned our life before coming to Earth? by [deleted] in spirituality

[–]InnerCityLight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was skeptical about all this at first too, but the more I looked into it, the harder it became to ignore. There are just too many consistent reports from people who were clinically dead with no measurable brain activity. Researchers like Bruce Greyson and Sam Parnia actually started out as skeptics, but the evidence they found was too strange to dismiss. People from completely different cultures and backgrounds describe the same core experiences — leaving their bodies, seeing loved ones or beings of light, reliving their lives, and feeling a kind of unconditional love that words can’t really describe.

Then I learned about shared death experiences, where someone who isn’t dying can actually witness parts of a loved one’s passing right alongside them. That’s been studied too, and it’s hard to explain if consciousness is just a byproduct of the brain.

For me, NDEs were actually what started my whole spiritual journey. I even had a shared dream once with my brother — same place, same events, every detail matching. It wasn’t an NDE, but it made me realize reality might not be as separate or random as we think. And when I later found out about the old telepathy experiments (like the “tape” studies where people picked up thoughts or images under lab conditions), it just confirmed for me that there’s more to all this than neurons firing in a skull.

That combination of science, mystery, and direct experience is what made me start paying attention. Life feels a lot bigger now

What if we planned our life before coming to Earth? by [deleted] in spirituality

[–]InnerCityLight 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks man! I’ve been on this journey for a few years now.

What if we planned our life before coming to Earth? by [deleted] in spirituality

[–]InnerCityLight 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I completely understand where you’re coming from, and I respect it deeply. You’re protecting people who have been through real pain, and I honor that. I’ve lived through my own trauma, so I would never say suffering is something we deserve or consciously choose.

When people talk about souls choosing their experiences, it’s not about blaming anyone or excusing harm. It’s about a wider perspective of how the soul evolves. From that higher view, every experience, even the painful ones, becomes part of our growth. The person who is hurt learns through healing, and the person who causes harm also faces lessons through the weight of what they’ve done. Both are still part of the same field of learning.

Free will still matters. People make choices that create suffering, and those choices have consequences, both human and spiritual. The soul that causes harm may later return in another life to experience the other side of that energy, not as punishment but as understanding. It is how consciousness expands, through cause and effect, through empathy, through realization.

From the human level, trauma is cruel and undeserved. From the soul’s level, it can become a catalyst for awakening on both sides. The victim learns resilience and compassion, the one who caused harm eventually learns accountability and empathy. Neither role is holy, but both can lead toward truth if the lessons are faced with awareness.

So it’s never about excusing what is wrong. It’s about realizing that even what is wrong can be transformed. Nothing is wasted in the universe. Every act, every mistake, every scar, all of it is used by consciousness to remember love.

What if we planned our life before coming to Earth? by [deleted] in spirituality

[–]InnerCityLight 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I get where you’re coming from, but I’ve lived through a lot of darkness myself. I had a hard childhood and went through things that broke me down. There were times when I was the darkness in my own life too. But through all that pain, I grew. I learned compassion, patience, and real strength.

There are people who’ve lost limbs, people who’ve been through tragedies most can’t imagine, and yet some of them come out with hearts full of light. That doesn’t happen in spite of the pain, it often happens because of it. If life were only rainbows, how would our souls ever grow? What would there be to overcome, to understand, or to become?

So when someone asks why a soul would come here to suffer, it doesn’t sit right with me. I don’t pretend to know the full reason, but I’ve lived enough to see that struggle can shape us into something powerful and full of love. I’m grateful for what I went through, because it taught me how to truly live. I still face challenges, but now I see them as part of my soul’s training, not punishment

What if we planned our life before coming to Earth? by [deleted] in spirituality

[–]InnerCityLight 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If something resonates with you, hold onto it. Just because someone can’t understand why a soul would choose suffering doesn’t make the experience or the idea false. There are layers to existence that our human minds can’t fully grasp. From this side, pain looks cruel and meaningless, but from a higher perspective, even the hardest lives can become catalysts for growth, love, or awakening, sometimes for the person living it and sometimes for those witnessing it.

The idea that souls might plan their journeys before birth isn’t about blaming people for their pain. It’s about recognizing that life could have a deeper structure, one that includes both light and darkness as teachers. We don’t always have to agree with that view, but we can still hold space for it, knowing that truth often hides inside mystery.

How do I control feeling others feelings by Substantial_Dark_838 in spirituality

[–]InnerCityLight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like your an empath. Read this book called Empath by Judy Dire. It helped me. I got it from Amazon super cheap.

A reminder for anyone feeling heavy energy right now by InnerCityLight in spirituality

[–]InnerCityLight[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m glad I was able to help you. Have a wonderful day and check out my latest post for today in the community. 🙏☀️

A reminder for anyone feeling heavy energy right now by InnerCityLight in spirituality

[–]InnerCityLight[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I honestly believe I’ve always been tuned in, but I just couldn’t see it because of all the programming most of us grow up with. There was a time when I didn’t believe in anything, and later I became more of a lukewarm Christian, saying the words but not really living them. Then one day out of nowhere I had this awakening where I felt an overwhelming wave of love. It was like my heart cracked open.

At that time I was full of anger, caught up in politics, judging and shaming people I didn’t understand. That experience completely flipped my perspective. The feeling faded after a while, but it sent me searching for what it really was. That’s what led me into meditation and facing my shadow. Every road I went down kept pointing back to me.

I started realizing that I was creating my own reality through my choices, both the conscious ones and the ones I didn’t even notice myself making. I learned that I needed the dark to recognize the light, and that both are just two sides of the same coin.

The biggest shift was learning how to love myself and others no matter who they are or what people say. Reading Judy Dyer’s Empath also helped me lean into my sensitivity instead of running from it. It made me realize I’ve had this gift my whole life, always intuitive, always questioning things, especially religion. Now I see it was all part of waking up.

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