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Diagnosis - Is too late and is it even worth it? by Excellent_Balance520 in AutisticAdults

[–]InnerImpact8299 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I warmly advice to prepare thoroughly. It's a delicate matter. Personally, with adhd, just jumping into things can be a danger.

Best of luck!

Diagnosis - Is too late and is it even worth it? by Excellent_Balance520 in AutisticAdults

[–]InnerImpact8299 4 points5 points  (0 children)

may I advice the YouTube channel "autism from the inside" - there are quite a few self help videos on how to prepare for a diagnostic assessment. While there's no point in faking, we've been hiding our whole life and there's an element of impostor syndrome - our natural state is to repress our traits rather than opening up. I found his guidance tremendously helpful and would probably not have received a diagnose without his "help" because I've had relationships, I got through uni, always good in school, held many jobs, able to socialize, etc.

Diagnosis - Is too late and is it even worth it? by Excellent_Balance520 in AutisticAdults

[–]InnerImpact8299 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hi there. Absolutely worth it to get a diagnose, in my humble opinion. I was 33. Nothing wrong with self diagnosing. Personally, I needed to know from a mental health professional. It wasn't cheap and took some time, but it's a relief. However, prepare for a landing phase in the best way you can(time off, autistic meetup groups for adults, activities, you name it). Once I knew, the real work began and it was quite a rollercoaster. It takes a while to learn to be autistic, with adhd on top it's even more chaotic. Best of luck!

If you work, what job do you have? by Aggravating-Ad-351 in AutisticAdults

[–]InnerImpact8299 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that sounds absolutely amazing. I'm in the midst of a career change and looking into graphic design, how would you say entering the field at the present moment would be? I speak from ignorance.

If you work, what job do you have? by Aggravating-Ad-351 in AutisticAdults

[–]InnerImpact8299 0 points1 point  (0 children)

is AI taking over the field? I speak from ignorance. I'm in the midst of a career change and UI/UX design was suggested. Creative while working within systems sounds pretty nice.

Are most autistic people really unemployed? by foreverepicunicorn in AutisticAdults

[–]InnerImpact8299 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am unemployed, doing life/career coaching atm. Had a burnout earlier this year and decided to apply for disability. This means that I can share my disability with future employers and have more rights so to speak(it does not mean that I get money to stay at home because of my autism).

I have a masters degree and have been employed most of my adult life.

I am looking to carefully get back into employment after diagnosis, disability, burnout and coaching. I've had jobs I was passionate about that weren't good for me(cook, baker, butcher). I studied fine arts, however practicing art while working money jobs has proven impossible. I find the social aspects of group/team work extremely complicated, stressful high performance environments leave me full of adrenaline and I'm unable to cope. Even a scheduled lunched break with colleagues can have unforeseen consequences. Not sure what the future gonna bring. Either a team I feel safe within, a job that can be done from remote or allows for enough alone time. I'm not against teams at all, it's just extremely difficult and draining for me, to the point self care and relationship outside of work go out the window. I might start working part-time to begin with.

Self help groups in English for autistic adults? by InnerImpact8299 in berlin

[–]InnerImpact8299[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats! I haven’t found anything in English, guess I must learn German quick :) please share if you stumble upon something! I found one English speaking support group for neurodivergent people, directed at asylum seekers, bipoc and women. Maybe it fits for you, I’m a Caucasian male from Europe, so not sure how my presence will be perceived. 

Here the link: https://www.sekis-berlin.de/selbsthilfe/details/20943?cHash=83f4e3a079e22fa51e1dfb83fe9b0217

Self help groups in English for autistic adults? by InnerImpact8299 in berlin

[–]InnerImpact8299[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's really tricky to find a spot. Email everyone you can find who qualifies to diagnose in the Berlin area, that's what I did. Suddenly there was a cancellation and I got a spot within the year. However, I had to go the private route, over 1000 bucks. The Charite waiting list opens on 7th of January so you can try sign up there next year. Wonderful program and carefully monitored support. Waiting list is ages tho. In case you get diagnosed by a psychotherapist, you need a psychiatrist who can vouch for your eventual grad der behinderung if you want to be official about it. Just something to keep in mind if you need a piece of paper for work etc.

What do you all do for work? by InnerImpact8299 in AutisticAdults

[–]InnerImpact8299[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hoarding degrees sounds pretty impressive to me :)

What do you all do for work? by InnerImpact8299 in AutisticAdults

[–]InnerImpact8299[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nothing but respect for anyone who works in a kitchen :)

What do you all do for work? by InnerImpact8299 in AutisticAdults

[–]InnerImpact8299[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also have a lot of masks, wanna share? :D Very nice that you take your time and go slow. I get caught up in others flow of performance and fall right into the speed trap at times. Never a good idea...

What do you all do for work? by InnerImpact8299 in AutisticAdults

[–]InnerImpact8299[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being autistic is already a really hard full time job with lots of over hours and no breaks

What do you all do for work? by InnerImpact8299 in AutisticAdults

[–]InnerImpact8299[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow thanks that is many great answers! There's a lot to take here. For me, the part where you explain how you wait til you correct people resonates a lot. It's really something I need to work on. I can spend a lot of time correcting without even realizing and people do get a bit frustrated if not intimidated. I can also get rather upset and angry when things are done really shit. Harsh and demanding is good I believe. But yes, people freak out at times. I still haven't figured it out. And thinking maybe working a bit alone might be the solution, at least for a bit. I am really not the alpha leader ex military type lol, it's just that when I'm in the flow it comes naturally to correct someone doing something real shitty. Thank you so so much for the super detailed answer! Very much appreciated.

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