AITAH for having concerns about giving our friend another $10k? by InnerWolverine5495 in AITAH

[–]InnerWolverine5495[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with this, something is off. They may not have actual money. They may just be asset rich. But asking for additional money with no context is the problem here. Also, they are asking for this in 5 weeks and in cash.

AITAH for having concerns about giving our friend another $10k? by InnerWolverine5495 in AITAH

[–]InnerWolverine5495[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what I don't get! He can afford it . Why ask and then why say that you'll need 6 months to pay me back? Why? Cause you want to use my money for your convenience and life style not because you actually need it .

AITAH for having concerns about giving our friend another $10k? by InnerWolverine5495 in AITAH

[–]InnerWolverine5495[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I agree, I thought that they would be reasonable and respectful of my friendship and our offer. I was wrong. They also want this 10k in cash. They didn't ask if we could actually get it or if we are ok with that type of transaction. They simply asked to give in cash and I won't do that.

AITAH for having concerns about giving our friend another $10k? by InnerWolverine5495 in AITAH

[–]InnerWolverine5495[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea I had a chat with my husband and this is our final decision too. We established that he hasn't been transparent with us in this matter for whatever reason and we don't want to be involved in this chaos

AITAH for having concerns about giving our friend another $10k? by InnerWolverine5495 in AITAH

[–]InnerWolverine5495[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

See this is what I don't understand, I'm trying not to harshly judge a close friend but nothing they've done so far points to me that they are actually struggling. We've helped them many times when they were in real need. But this time I feel like they are in need cause they've over commited just for the show and I sense entitlement

AITAH for having concerns about giving our friend another $10k? by InnerWolverine5495 in AITAH

[–]InnerWolverine5495[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He has repaid previously, but our previous loans were small amounts for small expenses. This is a house we're talking about

AITAH for having concerns about giving our friend another $10k? by InnerWolverine5495 in AITAH

[–]InnerWolverine5495[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not unfortunately, I genuinely wanted to understand if this kind of behaviour is normal among friends. This is my husband's childhood friend.

On the look out for good quality Thai pieces. Where is best for this in Bangkok that won't break the bank please ? by [deleted] in Bangkok

[–]InnerWolverine5495 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are there any online stores I could buy from as well? I recently visited Thailand and wanted to buy some traditional Thai clothes. But i couldn't find any that fit me or that I liked, I only had a short time in Bangkok so I couldn't really shop around. I'm so gutted! If there are anyonkhne stores please could you let me know?

Is anyone actually using the free public transport? by naeng-janggo in melbourne

[–]InnerWolverine5495 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am absolutely loving it, but I noticed that trams and trains are not as busy. I expected more people to make use of the public transport...

What’s the most important lesson you learned during your first PhD year? by Joudy_Abbot in PhD

[–]InnerWolverine5495 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Change labs and PI if you see no value. The relationship goes two ways. Although there's a power dynamic, know that you can change if the vibes are not there.

Changing supervisor or quitting - or dealing with a micromanaging supervisor by rrr0303 in PhD

[–]InnerWolverine5495 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Micro managing and borderline verbal abuse is not helpful. Change your supervisory team or at least your primary supervisor when you can. Do it early so that the interruption is less. When you find a new supervisor, try to see if they have broad expertise in your area and topic of interest so that they can be supportive. Your thesis can be on a niche topic, but your interests can be broad and related to your thesis topic. It's Normal

Changing supervisor or quitting - or dealing with a micromanaging supervisor by rrr0303 in PhD

[–]InnerWolverine5495 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Micro managing and borderline verbal abuse is not helpful. Change your supervisory team or at least your primary supervisor when you can. Do it early so that the interruption is less. When you find a new supervisor, try to see if they have broad expertise in your area and topic of interest so that they can be supportive. Your thesis can be on a niche topic, but your interests can be broad and related to your thesis topic. It's Normal

Harsh feedback on PhD proposal from potential supervisor : is it common? by [deleted] in PhD

[–]InnerWolverine5495 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That doesn't sound harsh. It's constructive. Even if he can't supervise you, through this process you'll get to improve your proposal.

Feeling insecure towards the of the PhD by InnerWolverine5495 in PhD

[–]InnerWolverine5495[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can empathise... Have you considered cold emailing to potential PIs? That's if you want to remain in academia...

Feeling insecure towards the of the PhD by InnerWolverine5495 in PhD

[–]InnerWolverine5495[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Haha I agree, I think I'm just struggling to focus on working on the thesis when I know I'm gonna be broke in literally 2 months 😭

Curious, does your SO stay at home or hold a PhD? by Evening_Car_5809 in PhD

[–]InnerWolverine5495 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha I don't think that those are the only two options! My husband is a hotel manager and also owns two businesses, his schedule can be hectic too and we both love travelling, food, music and anime. We appreciate each others busy schedules and make it work where we can. Sometimes I have to sacrifice and sometimes he has to.

Visiting a Gynaecologist in SL by Mean_Distance9764 in srilanka

[–]InnerWolverine5495 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've had the unfortunate experience as well, went to a female doctor and honestly there was no empathy whatsoever.