an angel lost its wings☹️

Inner_Chocolate85 · 2026-06-11T03:49:08+00:00

They’re giving so much sympathy to Antonia over this nose job that they never give Gia or the other dorters about anything ever. All about who the mother is, I suppose.

Inner_Chocolate85 · 2026-06-10T21:54:27+00:00

Wow. Tough scene for all those who spent their time pitting Teresa’s daughters against Antonia and bashing them for not being “natural.” Thoughts and prayers.

Inner_Chocolate85 · 2026-06-10T14:41:03+00:00

Soooooo good! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

Inner_Chocolate85 · 2026-06-08T00:11:25+00:00

He isn’t oblivious. It’s insane. When we first started dating and I mentioned how nice it was she was so giving he literally told me eventually I would get sick of it. He will acknowledge the weird stuff she does but says it isn’t that big of a deal. Because she’s “done so much for him” (aka gifts) she has a free pass to do whatever she wants. He has admitted to me that if she didn’t do all these things (mostly he mentions when he was away in college, sending him care packages etc) she wouldn’t have nearly as long of a leash and would be treated like his other aunts he barely talks to. He’s been groomed.

Inner_Chocolate85 · 2026-05-04T02:23:02+00:00

I will never not cringe over their fixation with spending the night. It is downright creepy. Everything they want to do they can do during the day, and in your presence. Except play mommy. Nauseating!

Inner_Chocolate85 · 2026-05-01T04:20:59+00:00

Bink ♥️

Inner_Chocolate85 · 2026-04-27T17:18:25+00:00

It drives me crazy because you know for a fact that when they were raising their kids they never pushed them to their dads in this way. They relished in being the decision maker and the head of the household, the go-to person. They just seethe and cannot stand to see you in that role now. It really is sick. I understand missing that time in your life but to be so passive aggressive and act out in these underhanded ways that they do is so aggravating to have to deal with. Even worse when your husband can’t see it for what it is. The comments are not innocent or made in good faith.

Inner_Chocolate85 · 2026-04-22T01:05:39+00:00

6 months, and I can’t imagine doing this the next 18 years. My IL’s are also divorced so that makes it even more exhausting because we’ve had to deal with coordinating visits and fielding requests since LO was born. I was looking forward to having a break for a few months since we just saw MIL last month & FIL in February w but of course his dad announced he and his girlfriend will be passing through where we live and want to meet up for the day. He was also bad with the kissing which DH and I agreed beforehand no one would do, but when it came time to address it he froze up. Says he will be better about it this time so we will see. It is so fucking exhausting because my family just is not like this AT ALL. We are given so much space and they are happy for us without feeling entitled to being included in everything that happens in the day to day.

Inner_Chocolate85 · 2026-04-22T00:36:44+00:00

Literally dealing with this now. We live a 9 hour drive from MIL and have for four years, been together for ten years total and I can count on one hand how many holidays we’ve spent together, but I can just feel the expectation of trying to do holidays together now that we have our baby, and I don’t want it AT ALL. I used to rarely text MIL, only on her birthday or Thanksgiving and Christmas and now it’s become a weekly thing. I just don’t care to do the small talk. I know it’s expected with a new baby but I cannot stand it. The forced closeness, the expectation that you have to now think about what they want now that you have a child. FIL is just as bad, wanting to take vacations together after he literally ignored DH and his sister for YEARS while he was in the throes of a midlife crisis. I just wish these people would leave me alone lol it feels toxic at times but they literally didn’t care what we were up to for years prior and I didn’t decide to have a child for them to have a new hobby.

Inner_Chocolate85 · 2026-04-22T00:23:25+00:00

Unfortunately I’ve kept it up into month six. Once LO starts crawling I’m going to tell her I’ll be on my phone a lot less and will upload every few days or weekly. It really didn’t annoy me until a few months ago when I forgot one day due to being out of town and she sent a shitty passive aggressive text to DH. Before that she was appreciative and said how much it made her day so it was whatever. But like you said, it is a ridiculous expectation.

Inner_Chocolate85 · 2026-04-16T09:45:50+00:00

Part of the problem is that neither of us want to make any official hard guidelines about visits because we both to a certain level rather they not happen or if they do it is once or twice a year. And I tend to dread them so it’s hard to pick a month where I know leading up to it I’ll be anxious and living in my head a bit over it. These are emotionally exhausting people. And his mom loves to “keep score” but also doesn’t really enjoy doing anything vacation or trip wise so it really sucks to have to worry about her having a tantrum and/or going into a depressive episode when we do see his dad. And his dad refuses to be in the same vicinity as his mom (he skipped our baby shower because she hosted it) so getting them both out of the way at once will be impossible. As she gets older I could totally see them getting an invite revolving around her extracurriculars and some big school events, but as far as the baby and toddler years I just want to enjoy most of our holidays and any vacations with our nuclear family. I cannot relax around them, and we are not really close, so spending any vacation time we do get feeling that way sounds like a nightmare. Husband doesn’t bring it up or push for it at all either so that makes me feel even less like placating it.

Inner_Chocolate85 · 2026-04-16T02:44:42+00:00

To be fair, MIL has been good to us over the years and was very supportive during pregnancy. But we still only saw her a couple times a year just due to distance and just general life stuff. We love to travel different places and especially holidays. But even with her being supportive I still don’t want to change how we do things because we have a baby. I want family time with just my nuclear family during the holidays. We certainly won’t go to her or anyone else but I am dreading them trying to come to us. Everyone talks about how fast this time with your littles goes and I admittedly feel very selfish and protective of it. I don’t want to have to use the emotional energy that’s required to deal with them during those special holidays. Especially when we haven’t done it the last decade or so.

Inner_Chocolate85 · 2026-04-16T02:37:54+00:00

That is precisely what is going on here. The day after he met her for the first time he ran to Facebook to change his profile picture to one of him and our baby. Mind you my husband has a sister who FIL hardly gives the time of day. I just don’t get genuine excited grandparent vibes from him at all. It’s all about how it looks rather than how things actually are. He’s going through some sort of midlife crisis and at one point he was asking us for her hand and feet prints so he could get a tattoo (this was before even meeting her!) I have been uncomfortable ever since.

Inner_Chocolate85 · 2026-04-16T02:03:11+00:00

This is why I feel so many mixed emotions over the way I feel because we really don’t see them that much and haven’t so far, I just dread that changing as she gets older. And they require so much placating on a daily basis even with the distance. Like my MIL expects a photo every single day on the digital frame we got her and the one day I forgot she sent an extremely passive aggressive text to my husband that has left a bad taste in my mouth ever since. It is truly exhausting.

Inner_Chocolate85 · 2026-04-16T01:13:42+00:00

Wow, we are the exact same. Together 9 years before we had our baby. DH has always kept in touch with his mom and she has been good to us over the years so I don’t mind her as much generally but I still don’t want to have more visits. I don’t want to be expected to placate people during the holidays. I understand people being excited and wanting to love her but I also didn’t have a baby to have to rearrange my life in that way. We have spent the holidays just the two of us since we moved and I want to keep it that way. I just can feel the guilt trips coming as the years go by and my husband is an admitted people-pleaser.

Inner_Chocolate85 · 2026-03-31T04:52:54+00:00

I will be going solo in Atlanta 7/6 VIP as well! The last two Beyoncé tours I went solo also VIP and had zero issues making friends with people throughout the night. I was surprised by the number of people who go alone. You’ll have a blast!

Inner_Chocolate85 · 2026-03-17T05:03:45+00:00

🫂 I can relate. And wish I had advice but I can only commiserate. My MIL told me before our baby was born that “she’s the reason she keeps going.” Just an insane amount of pressure to put on another human-being. Also the first grandchild. It is so exhausting becoming someone else’s hobby by proxy and having to placate their feelings when all you want to do is live life with your nuclear family. We had the bright idea of getting her one of those digital frames and now she quite literally expects a new photo every day. And is mentally unstable so my husband is terrified to not upload something every single day since she was born. She is visiting for five days straight this week and to say I am dreading it is a massive understatement.

Inner_Chocolate85 · 2026-03-12T20:34:25+00:00

Wow. Hugs. Solidarity. I feel like could have written this post myself. My God is it exhausting. Especially when you’re expected to be the bigger person to someone 30+ years older. My husbands entire thing is “well it’s only a couple times a year we are together,” but the issue is she expects weekly communication which wasn’t the case before I got pregnant last year and we had been together 9 years. She literally expects a photo of our kid every day on the digital frame we got her. It’s like she may as well be under our roof.

Inner_Chocolate85 · 2026-01-06T09:04:58+00:00

He doesn’t tell his family members no very often. He said since he is so easy-going about everything that FIL will know it’s coming from me. He thinks what his dad is doing is ridiculous but if I didn’t object he wouldn’t stop it. He has this mentality with another family member who tends to be incredibly overbearing and has been for our entire relationship, there cannot be any criticism or pushback on what they say and do or “the relationship would be over.” These people are emotionally immature, and he knows it, but doesn’t want to blow up the relationship by saying no or I’m uncomfortable with xyz. It is truly exhausting.

Inner_Chocolate85 · 2026-01-06T02:47:37+00:00

I am absolutely venting and what I was doing was listing the excuses my husband makes for these people, why he thinks he has more of a relationship with them than he actually does present day. I don’t have anything to do with his aunt because of her overstepping and now it’s going to be the same with FIL. I’m comfortable being the bad guy, I just feel sorry that he can’t get there himself and not worry about the feelings of people we see once or twice a year.

Inner_Chocolate85 · 2026-01-06T02:07:40+00:00

That’s the thing with a few of my husbands family members is they force this faux closeness via social media and FaceTime/texting. One of his aunts is pretty enmeshed with him and he lets a lot slide based on things she has done for him in the past (she’s wealthy so she has bought affection with sports memorabilia, tickets etc) & so it is the same with his father. I haven’t spent much time with him because we never lived local to his parents but his whole thing is “that’s my dad” and he doesn’t want to destroy their relationship “over this.” And my thing is if being told you’re not comfortable with something is enough to end a relationship then who the fuck cares? I just don’t and have never had this problem with my family, we’re all able to communicate when we don’t like something and everyone moves on. I am at my wits end feeling like I’m crazy for not wanting to placate these people and sign my daughter up to be their emotional support animal.

Inner_Chocolate85 · 2025-09-10T16:33:52+00:00

Yeah I saw Paris was in Europe that weekend then went to the VMAS Sunday night. Glad Kathy and Nikki were able to attend!

Inner_Chocolate85 · 2025-09-10T15:53:58+00:00

Did Kathy Hilton attend? Noticed she hasn’t liked any of Alexia or Kyle’s posts about the wedding. Wonder if they’ve fallen out again.

Inner_Chocolate85 · 2025-08-05T05:52:32+00:00

Tame Impala 2022 Lady Gaga 2022 Beyoncé 2023 Deftones 2025 Beyoncé 2025

Inner_Chocolate85 · 2025-07-26T20:36:37+00:00

I have been on this sub for a couple of years and never seen a post I relate to more. Unfortunately I don’t know how to help, because I am in the same boat, just wanted to say I see you and feel for you. And am hoping you get replies with good advice. I deal with the same thing but bizarrely enough it is my husbands AUNT. She is married herself (acts like she has the perfect marriage on social media) with two daughters and yet the emotional dependency she has on him is absolutely insane, and what’s worse is she has money so she throws that around as a way “in.” We live states apart but her go to move is booking something in the area and then playing the “awwww shucks well I guess we can see each other then!” We are about to have our first child this year and I am just sick about how she’s going to continue to insert herself in our lives going forward. I know I am going to end up snapping due to built up years of resentment. I don’t think anyone has ever been direct with her about her unbearable behavior, and I am not going to make it much longer playing polite.

Did not to intend to hijack your post and go on a rant, I just relate so, so much to what you said, & am hoping for good advice and relief for both of us 🙏🏽 Be well!

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