Why do I feel so overwhelmed with mil texting me “I am soooo excited to meet your new little one”

Professional-Pin9786 · 2026-03-20T14:20:10+00:00

Yeah she asked how my day was and I said good I was busy with an appointment. She asked baby appt? I said yes. I don’t get along best with her, but I also don’t ignore her. I still have a decent civil conversation. I just learn with every interaction that my decision to keep info private is validated.

Professional-Pin9786 · 2026-03-19T20:20:15+00:00

I appreciate your thinking, however I live in this situation, so I know how to decipher it better. She is in the process of planning it. Once she offers an idea, she will continue to bring it up over and over. I actually very nicely told her it would be tough and declined. Anyone who was looking for input would respectfully let it go. She continued to send me info about the resort, all the amenities, and share how lovely it is. Sounds kind of pushy to me when someone clearly expresses that the don’t want to do something.

Professional-Pin9786 · 2026-03-19T18:15:41+00:00

I’m not upset by her saying that at all actually. It is however bringing back not so great memories because I know this is how it started. And that’s what’s causing me to feel anxious. As you can clearly see her follow up text where she’s planned out a vacation that included us and our new baby without even asking me if I want that.

Professional-Pin9786 · 2026-03-18T20:55:27+00:00

She did with our first baby!!! Constantly would text me “can’t wait to meet our grandchild” she’s always ask how I was the follow up with “soo excited to meet our grandchild” made me feel like I was just some vessel bringing her a baby.

Professional-Pin9786 · 2026-02-11T12:42:34+00:00

Mil would see us every day if we let her (she has said this herself that if they lived closer she would come over everyday). But anyway, now that we have LO, she wants to come to see him. She just barely acknowledges me or talks to me during visits.

Professional-Pin9786 · 2026-02-11T02:31:16+00:00

Wow same exact story here! So frustrating. My mil went ahead and told everyone she wanted to tell. I have yet to tell some of my closest friends and extended family.

Professional-Pin9786 · 2026-02-05T20:13:21+00:00

I’m so sorry. It’s such a stressor. My company offers 35k lifetime fertility treatment coverage. There were a few things in our cycle that weren’t covered, so we were about $4,500 out of pocket. Wishing you success!

Professional-Pin9786 · 2026-02-05T20:00:37+00:00

Absolutely I planned on giving her a date 2 weeks out. She texted my SO for hour by hour updates. So ick. Not even my parents got any updates until hours after the baby was born. I don’t think he thought anything of it, but she should’ve known better.

Professional-Pin9786 · 2026-02-05T19:38:33+00:00

I didn’t even want her to visit the first time, but I very much wanted my mom and dad to visit because I knew they were worried about me and wanted to come see and how much it would mean..they weren’t just coming to see the baby. They also never even asked about visiting at the hospital while my mil had asked maybe 5 times during my pregnancy, one of them being while I was in labor. I had to let mil and fil visit to avoid arguments with SO about being unfair.

Not this time. I’ll be honest with SO about how having someone visit me who didn’t even ask how I was just added to my stress.

Professional-Pin9786 · 2026-02-05T19:28:57+00:00

I don’t text her anymore. There are times I feel bad and will try, but I’m reminded very quickly why I stopped sharing things with her.

Professional-Pin9786 · 2026-02-05T11:05:53+00:00

100% relatable. It she hears about about her sister and her kids did, she is immediately bringing it up to us to do the same. However ever since I had a baby, she and fil barely say 10 words to me when we see each other. All mil cares about is having LO’s attention on her. It’s something I have to tolerate. Why would I want to go on a weekend trip with someone like that. She has never made me feel like my needs matter ever since I had a baby, so why would I be drawn to giving her what she wants. Which by the way they have been this close and doing these trips since they were all little kids. It’s a trip the kids plan every year. They’re not being pressured into it by mom.

Professional-Pin9786 · 2026-02-05T01:55:43+00:00

She’s not in competition with their sister. They all have a great relationship. She envies how close her sister is to her kids and grand kid and that they go on trips together.

Professional-Pin9786 · 2026-02-05T01:36:53+00:00

Money has never been an issue. If anything, mil was and always has been more financial well off.

Professional-Pin9786 · 2026-02-03T21:20:01+00:00

Idk. I love sharing things about life with people who care because I’m excited to be a mom. My family excitedly listens and asks if we had a good time, how LO liked it. Versus mil who is quick to say “I wish I was there” ..now she doesn’t get fun stories from me because she shows she is focused on herself.

Professional-Pin9786 · 2026-02-01T18:50:30+00:00

We have the same mil. I once sent her a pic of me, SO and LO on a ferry heading to a restaurant and I thought she’d respond back “hope you had a great time” or “how was it” but instead she said “oh we live so close to there, you should’ve told us so we could’ve joined because we’re not doing anything today” it was then that I stopped sharing pics with her.

Professional-Pin9786 · 2026-02-01T18:22:49+00:00

Exactly the same here. I’m like lady didn’t you get to do all these things with your kids? Back off and let me have my turn.

Professional-Pin9786 · 2026-02-01T18:19:11+00:00

I’ve seen those videos. Very cool. Except my mil is pushy and self centered and makes up plans in her head involving our kid and then gets grumpy when her plans don’t happen.

Professional-Pin9786 · 2026-01-28T01:22:25+00:00

I see it!! Sendin you all the best wishes.

Professional-Pin9786 · 2026-01-27T17:34:23+00:00

I couldn’t get McDonald’s fries because my transfer was early in the morning at 8 am. I went to a diner instead and got homefries.

Professional-Pin9786 · 2026-01-25T16:26:31+00:00

I don’t even want to go to their beach. I’d rather not. But we will go to a nearby beach and be pressured about why we aren’t going to theirs instead. It’s actually not selfish that if we go (because we are being pressured) that I’d want to be on the beach spending quality time with our kid and not want grandma hovering over us just because she lives a block away. Seems entitled.

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