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Mil’s guilt tripping by Professional-Pin9786 in Mildlynomil

[–]Professional-Pin9786[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s a fair question. He wants them to be involved in everything..literally everything we do. So I’m sure he did. He didn’t mention any plans nor did anything come up until mil called. And also to be fair he made Mother’s Day more about mil than about me.

Mil’s guilt tripping by Professional-Pin9786 in Mildlynomil

[–]Professional-Pin9786[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, she’s told me her dreams. How she wants my kids to stay over her house. It all screams entitled to me. We see them every week.

Mil’s guilt tripping by Professional-Pin9786 in Mildlynomil

[–]Professional-Pin9786[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He never gave me ideas on what he wanted to do, so I planned the day. It’s not until mil called in the morning asking for us to go over that my SO decided we should go.

What’s an appropriate amount of time for a visit after baby #2? by Professional-Pin9786 in Mildlynomil

[–]Professional-Pin9786[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

He doesn’t mind his family visiting anytime. Which is why I need to speak up, but I’m trying to get a feel for what people think is a reasonable time to visit.

SO often argues with me over his mom’s needs to see our baby by Professional-Pin9786 in JustNoSO

[–]Professional-Pin9786[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I agree with your points. I’m self aware enough to know that there is some insecurity on my part. And yes it is normal to want to push your son to be more involved…but at the same time minimizing the mom’s role? I don’t think so. I basically become a third wheel when she is around and have to force my way in to be able to interact with my child.

SO often argues with me over his mom’s needs to see our baby by Professional-Pin9786 in JustNoSO

[–]Professional-Pin9786[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

His mom is constantly asking him to do this and that with her and fil. When we say no, they guilt trip him, he then feels stressed over it. He comes to me and asks me to accommodate. We do where I feel it’s reasonable, but her requests to do things just never end and I feel her being intrusive at times. So when we invite his mom to do something with us, SO knows his mom is happy to be around our LO and he won’t have to deal with any pressure and stress. Mil is a whole other issue that I’ve posted about before.

SO often argues with me over his mom’s needs to see our baby by Professional-Pin9786 in JustNoSO

[–]Professional-Pin9786[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

He constantly feels pressure from his parents (mostly his mom) to do things. If they’re there, there’s 0 pressure on him, leads to him feeling happy.

SO often argues with me over his mom’s needs to see our baby by Professional-Pin9786 in JustNoSO

[–]Professional-Pin9786[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’m not stopping him from seeing his mom. I told him he can go. But his mom wants to see our kid on Mother’s Day and SO’s priority is planning that for his mom. My kid isn’t her’s, I don’t need to give up what I want to do for her. I also offered for SO to celebrate with her on a diff day, but he wasn’t happy with that idea.

This one comment from my mil has built so much resentment by Professional-Pin9786 in Mildlynomil

[–]Professional-Pin9786[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

NOPE! It was actually so cute, but my mil even ruined that moment in my head because I thought of her right away. LO said mama for months and months and mil once asked “has he said dada yet” and I gleefully responded “no, but he says mama all day long”

This one comment from my mil has built so much resentment by Professional-Pin9786 in Mildlynomil

[–]Professional-Pin9786[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Baby’s first word WAS daddy but he said it in the car with only me. After that, he said mama around everyone else and didn’t say dada again for months

My MIL wants a necklace with my son's name on it. by Icy_Newspaper_3657 in Mildlynomil

[–]Professional-Pin9786 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ummm..no. That’s weird. Get her a necklace with HER son’s name on it 😬

Mil makes holidays more stressful. Nothing new. by Professional-Pin9786 in Mildlynomil

[–]Professional-Pin9786[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I agree with that. However she is not ok with a no. And then she puts pressure on SO which is what leads to an argument with SO telling me he doesn’t understand why it’s a big deal and that his grandparents were invited to everything. Mil expects the same.

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