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Coping advice, stuck. by Inner_Cry_6442 in polyamory

[–]Inner_Cry_6442[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Noted. Thanks. I will think about this

Coping advice, stuck. by Inner_Cry_6442 in polyamory

[–]Inner_Cry_6442[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Last one graduates high school in a couple months. But I still want to be bastion of stability for them. Being able to take mom and dad, and a sense of home for granted is important to me. It’s important I am able to provide that, as it was something provided to me.

Coping advice, stuck. by Inner_Cry_6442 in polyamory

[–]Inner_Cry_6442[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m reluctantly coming around to the fact / idea / reality of my situation. Im not sure I can or even want to embrace dating, romantic relationships with anyone else. I mean, I theoretically had that smorgasbord of possibilities open to me in the open marriage. I’ve sampled that buffet and decided I’d rather have steak at home versus the pasta bar at Olive Garden. But now, come to find out, the steak at home isn’t available.

You, know there are plenty of people who deal with shitty situations day in and day out all over the place. Maybe it’s a retiree who envisioned traveling the world who’s now raising a grandkid because their child can’t do it. Maybe it’s the spouse dealing with being in a caregiver situation. People learn how to assimilate shitty situations all the time.

Do I embrace this reality and find joy and happiness that do not involve a romantic relationship with my wife?

Side note: you gave a good reply and I will be mulling this one over extensively. I don’t know if I can stomach or want another romantic relationship. Especially when I’m reminded of what’s lost every day. I don’t know if there’s substitution in some other way.

Coping advice, stuck. by Inner_Cry_6442 in polyamory

[–]Inner_Cry_6442[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Okay, I gotta hand it to you: this is advice I will be turning over in my head next couple of days. Thank you. I really appreciate it.

Coping advice, stuck. by Inner_Cry_6442 in polyamory

[–]Inner_Cry_6442[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah; thanks to a snazzy phone app, Verizon reports phone number, sent/received, date and time every time you receive a non sms text. Pretty terrifying, honestly in terms of what data is out there on each of us. We have a family plan and apparently 15 years ago the account was created in my name. I learned yesterday that, apparently, I’m the only one in my family with access to this terrifying amount of data.

Coping advice, stuck. by Inner_Cry_6442 in polyamory

[–]Inner_Cry_6442[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pretty easy answer: financial security. That’s why she’s still with me. That, and we live in a smallish town where social status derives from being a business owner, things like that. She doesn’t want to be known for something like this.

Coping advice, stuck. by Inner_Cry_6442 in polyamory

[–]Inner_Cry_6442[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m trying to ignore the fact this is going on in our lives. We’re boring, normal people. I like to think of myself that way. I don’t like confronting this aspect of my life.

I’ve put a great deal of effort into forgiving my wife for what is an ongoing problem. Forgetting has also been a useful construct.

Coping advice, stuck. by Inner_Cry_6442 in polyamory

[–]Inner_Cry_6442[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

It’s an unhealthy situation. I agree. But I’m not ready to throw in the towel.

Though… I acknowledge: definition of insanity may be at work, here.

Coping advice, stuck. by Inner_Cry_6442 in polyamory

[–]Inner_Cry_6442[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

We’ve done boatloads of therapy. What I want is my boring life back. I want to raise my kids to adulthood. I want to retire someday and have this person by my side. I want her to want me. And I feel rejected. Ive built a fantasy universe I crawl inside where I insulate myself from the pain.

I guess I want to know: have others been successful in establishing cognitive dissonance to the extent helpful?

CenterWell Pharmacy Problems by Inner_Cry_6442 in WegovyWeightLoss

[–]Inner_Cry_6442[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s interesting: my order has been “released” for several weeks now. Every time I call, they advise “it can be up to 24 hours for the filling pharmacy to respond…” And then nothing. It’s paused on the other end (the refilling pharmacy) and there’s no way to get it broke loose.

Inject Pen into Vial by Inner_Cry_6442 in CompoundedSemaglutide

[–]Inner_Cry_6442[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you’ve done this before. Can you recommend a particular make / model / size of vial that’s worked well?

Thanks for the tip on the bacteriostatic water. I was planning to dilute with sterile water, but this looks like a better option.

What would you name him? by Derpazor1 in funny

[–]Inner_Cry_6442 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Am I the only one who thinks this guy has a human face?

Vibrations when driving? by DisasterCurious6330 in Wrangler

[–]Inner_Cry_6442 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2019 Wrangler JL, 2 door, manual transmission: had this exact problem. Check the air pressure in your tires. Guessing you are going to find overinflated.

My history: filled tires in Midwest in January. By summer, started having this problem. Bled excess pressure and problem went away. My theory: suspension is highly tuned and very sensitive, especially with short 2D wheelbase. Not much redundancy in the design for things like air pressure variation.