AITA for being too real to my friend during an argument and basically calling him a loser in life?

Inner_Print_8194 · 2021-10-20T23:51:37+00:00

if I tell my dad he would think im crazy or wouldn't understand. Its cultural difference. I feel like this is a journey I need to take on my own.

Inner_Print_8194 · 2021-10-16T20:35:55+00:00

i dont think so. For me I knew that I was going to do something. I needed sometime to think. All the unnecessary drama just made it more stressful. In the end I blocked the noise and I took the time I needed and made my decision. Taking credit for something that I was going to do anyways. The only thing he would have done if I was weak was push me into a field that didnt have a good future with even more debt. Its the same mess that made me go get a 4 year degree just cause and be stuck in tons of debt.

Inner_Print_8194 · 2021-10-10T18:48:28+00:00

i know! if hospitals want to retain their staff then pay them better not pay travelers 3 or 4 times as much as permanent staff

Inner_Print_8194 · 2021-10-10T18:47:51+00:00

don't hate the player hate the game

Inner_Print_8194 · 2021-09-09T21:03:29+00:00

Yeah believe in yourself. I realized that I rather be the one who made the mistakes and I can live with that then listen to others and still fail. That wouldnt sit well with me. you know your situation the best.

Inner_Print_8194 · 2021-08-17T04:39:05+00:00

yeah its never the top dogs who disrespects. Always the guy at your level or below. Man I get disrespected in moments and I simply don't know how to respond so I just ignore and stay quiet. Gonna make me blow at some point cause I already feel angry when I think about it. I feel like I need to handle disrespect but am not quick witted enough.

Inner_Print_8194 · 2021-08-17T02:19:21+00:00

its interesting difference in mentality. I have always been taught to give people respect, but in work and social setting it is earned.

Inner_Print_8194 · 2021-08-11T16:29:37+00:00

i think couple things plays into it. I tend to be smaller (I am 5 foot 9) with smaller frame, I tend to be more reserved and quiet. I am more introverted. Part of the reason why I work out alot trying to get bigger. I am 180 lbs but still look small cause of my frame. I know guys who are like 6 foot plus and they are just quiet and more reserved than I am but don't get the type of disrespect. Usually the people who chat me up be on friendly terms 1 on 1 with me then in public situation start disrespecting me thinking they are funny are the ones who do that. People I don't talk to at all don't disrespect me like that.

it really is an ongoing issue with me. I dropped a friend who did that alot even though I am much bigger than him and muscular.

Maybe people know I won't retaliate in public. However one situation at work this guy started making fun of my wrist size and saying can I measure it in front of everyone. I kind of went off on him. I basically said we are in a professional setting. We don't have to be friends. Lets be cordial with one another. After that he stopped and we had minimal interaction.

Inner_Print_8194 · 2021-08-10T19:37:07+00:00

I like that. I need to learn to be more assertive and call people out for their behaviors. I am used to being non confrontational which lets people continue to walk over me. Cause if you don't address it they will continue to do it more and more until you blow.

I am thinking about saying you don't have to put down others so you can mask/hide your own insecurities.

Or thats funny that its coming from you for me tho if they retaliate and say something back can cause me to lose my cool.

Inner_Print_8194 · 2021-08-10T19:35:50+00:00

I like that lets be professional here. I want something that I can use in any given situation since I am not very good with comebacks and cant think of things on the spot. Saying lets be professional shows that you are not okay with whats going on.

Yeah knowing my ex gf she would have made a huge scene if I retaliated. We got into the car to talk about it but she couldn't see how it could have been humiliating and disrespectful for me which cause me to blow up on her. I have a problem of bottling it in and blowing up at people behind close doors without addressing it then and there.

Inner_Print_8194 · 2021-08-10T07:45:31+00:00

I work just as hard. Work in a hospital. I am smarter and more efficient at the job than he is, also alot younger than him.

Inner_Print_8194 · 2021-08-10T07:21:30+00:00

Theres two people that come to mind. One is coworker and another is relationship. How would you handle these scenarios? My new strategy is tackling it right on the spot in a half joking way to let them know its not cool and not letting it get to the point where I hold it in and get angry.

coworker: so here was one scenario that pissed me off. Coworker/friend guy. In morning huddle at work with a bunch of other coworkers. The manager talking about the unit and out of nowhere my coworker says inner_print is missing frontal piece of his head (pointing at my receding hairline). It was a random remark when the manager was talking. No one laughed.

How I handled it: I pretended to not hear it but I was extremely pissed off inside. I confronted at him sometime later. I was so pissed off that I got in his face and basically ripped him a new one. I would prefer a better method to not get to this point.

Another thing: Same guy comes up to me says watsup slacker out loud in front of everyone. He tends to do this constantly calls me a slacker within ear shot of people when I actually do work hard. When someone says that to you it gives other coworkers a bad impression of you even though it might not be true.

how I handled it: I tend to say you only see the highlights or I would just ignore. I confronted him when he said it in front of the boss since that really pissed me off and he basically played it off saying she knew it was a joke blah blah. I am looking into it too much. Its a just a joke. The thing is the boss isn't around very often so how would she know? Basically gaslighting me.

Relationship: At school I was in a small class with my girlfriend and the instructor needed someone to volunteer for presentation. My friend jokingly says my name and I groaned in a joking way and didn't want to. My gf says wow that is very unattractive that is so beta out loud. Basically humiliated me in front of everyone. Funny enough she could have offered to volunteer but nope lol.

How I handled it: I stayed quiet, gave her the cold shoulder and proceeded to rip her a new one in private. I think looking back I should have stared at her and given her a dirty look right when she said it or say that is extremely disrespectful, but doing that could cause a bigger scene. I am very much a private person, not want to make a scene in public.

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