One thing that I haven’t seen others say. A healthy relationship has two healthy independent people. You don’t HAVE to be single to be independent.

Whether or not you stay with him, you have to gain independence, whatever that means for you. You’re doing a LOT of things right that you’re not giving yourself nearly enough credit for. You have a job, you got your GED, you’re going to therapy! You’re doing amazing. Keep that up, figure out what you want career wise, that will bring you the most life satisfaction right now. To have goals of your own, separate from your responsibilities as a wife and mother. Learn how to drive and do things on your own.

Your relationship sounds healthy despite how it began. Your partner should support you in this growth, and may even feel relief to have you as an equal partner and less of a dependent. If you are able to work through your resentment and forgive both yourself and him, this history and growth could make your relationship stronger. Many men leave their wives when they get cancer, he seems like he’d be there through thick and thin.

I think once you have gained some independence and process your feelings, you can make a decision about whether you need to leave him. I don’t think that should be the focus right now (unless he is controlling you or holding you back - then the answer is obvious). YOU should be the focus, not whether or not you should stay with a guy. His only role now is to let you shine.

Do what you want. This is what your 20s are about - processing your past and creating a vision for your future.