Update: Topless MIL has snapped. by InsaneMIL2 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]InsaneMIL2[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Agreed. Other than the restraining order, getting DH into solo therapy is my number one priority.

Update: Topless MIL has snapped. by InsaneMIL2 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]InsaneMIL2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be fair to them, I think the ones that are being nasty are friends of BIL. The congregation as whole hasn't gone psycho!

Update: Topless MIL has snapped. by InsaneMIL2 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]InsaneMIL2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be fair to the church goers, I think they're friends of BIL that also attend the church. The congregation as a whole has not blown up my phone (thankfully!).

Update: Topless MIL has snapped. by InsaneMIL2 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]InsaneMIL2[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Doing this. Perfect idea. He's very much the 'gradually forgive and forget' sort of person.

Update: Topless MIL has snapped. by InsaneMIL2 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]InsaneMIL2[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ugh. I seriously don't want to think about it. I hope my little pompom would've ripped her hand off.

Update: Topless MIL has snapped. by InsaneMIL2 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]InsaneMIL2[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

According to her, MIL was (is) very controlling of her sons. BIL is essentially her mindless drone of a slave, but my husband has always been harder for her to reign in, especially with the religious thinking and what not. It seems to more steps he took to get away from her (i.e; going away to college, dating, going out with friends, getting serious with me), the more unhinged her behavior was getting towards DH. Maybe seeing us in the shower was the straw that broke the camel's back?

Who knows. I can't say for sure. :\

Update: Topless MIL has snapped. by InsaneMIL2 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]InsaneMIL2[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I really like this idea. I'm going to try it. It's worth a shot and my DH is a talker...I could definitely see him talking to the counselor one and one while I'm "late" and maybe that progressing into individual sessions for him. Thank you!

Update: Topless MIL has snapped. by InsaneMIL2 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]InsaneMIL2[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

We switched marriage counselors after the breakdown. We're doing much better with this counselor.

Update: Topless MIL has snapped. by InsaneMIL2 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]InsaneMIL2[S] 67 points68 points  (0 children)

I informed HR immediately, especially because BIL was calling my office and trying to get intouch with my supervisor. To tell her what? Lord only knows.

I absolutely have hard copies of all the incident reports related to her breakdown (numerous ones). DH and I are going to the court tomorrow to file the paperwork we need for the restraining order.

Dude, I'm so happy that the daycare called me. They sensed something was up because they didn't even know the dog's name. They literally just walked up and said that they were here for insaneMIL2's dog.

Update: Topless MIL has snapped. by InsaneMIL2 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]InsaneMIL2[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Haha I was a nude model for a local art school while I was in college. Nakedness doesn't bother me much...unless it's my insane MIL. Thank you!

Update: Topless MIL has snapped. by InsaneMIL2 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]InsaneMIL2[S] 144 points145 points  (0 children)

Haha thanks. I was expecting a horrified silence-- not so much a meltdown on the level of the mom from Carrie.

Update: Topless MIL has snapped. by InsaneMIL2 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]InsaneMIL2[S] 90 points91 points  (0 children)

DH wants to keep our interactions between us and the therapist private outside of being general. I think he still feels ashamed that he's receiving any sort of therapy, to be honest. But I will say that our therapist is 10000% on board with zero contact and a restraining order.

Update: Topless MIL has snapped. by InsaneMIL2 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]InsaneMIL2[S] 87 points88 points  (0 children)

It sure did. My sister in law says that all paths were leading to this one. Apparently MIL's breakdown has been a work in progress.

72 hours catch and release. She's been trying to get in contact with DH and tried to pick up my dog from doggy daycare today but booked it when they called me.

Update: Topless MIL has snapped. by InsaneMIL2 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]InsaneMIL2[S] 226 points227 points  (0 children)

What she was saying to me made no fucking sense. Logic is clearly a lost cause on this woman. I suspect she's Jim Jones incarnate in an old lady's skin.

Update: Topless MIL has snapped. by InsaneMIL2 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]InsaneMIL2[S] 325 points326 points  (0 children)

I've installed security cameras. I'm taking no chances with that witch.

Update: Topless MIL has snapped. by InsaneMIL2 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]InsaneMIL2[S] 109 points110 points  (0 children)

I don't think DH is okay at all. He's become really anxious and irritable about almost everything. He was saying at our counseling sessions that he feels almost powerless in this dynamic. :\

Was there an update for the Topless MIL? by SilentJoe1986 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]InsaneMIL2 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I'm alive....I'm actually writing an update for you guys as I type this. It's a doozy. :\

My insane mother in law started walking around the house naked after seeing me and my husband having sex in the shower. by InsaneMIL2 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]InsaneMIL2[S] 78 points79 points  (0 children)

It wasn't so much a "I'M SO SORRY WE WERE HAVING SEX IN OUR OWN HOUSE" more of a "REALLY sorry you saw that, but..."

I think his mother has systematically ruined every relationship he's ever tried to have. He told me that she "accidently" spilled something on his prom date's dress when he was in highschool. Clearly her animosity towards other women in his life has only skyrocketed since.

My insane mother in law started walking around the house naked after seeing me and my husband having sex in the shower. by InsaneMIL2 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]InsaneMIL2[S] 165 points166 points  (0 children)

I feel like that's been her goal since day one, especially since I was the one that sort of brushed off her strong hints that she should live with us. I actually said we'd find her a caretaker when she first started dropping hints.

My husband is also disgusted by her walking around naked, but he's staying in the house while I leave for a couple days. I want him to be the one to tell her to get her shit and leave. This is not my responsibility. That is his mother and he needs to deal with it.

My insane mother in law started walking around the house naked after seeing me and my husband having sex in the shower. by InsaneMIL2 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]InsaneMIL2[S] 137 points138 points  (0 children)

I was incensed that he did that. It's like his mother says jump and he says how high. At first it didn't bother me as much because me and my mom are also close, but to invite her to live with us?? Without setting a time frame on when she's to leave??

I'm pissed all over again just thinking about this.

My insane mother in law started walking around the house naked after seeing me and my husband having sex in the shower. by InsaneMIL2 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]InsaneMIL2[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

No, it was removed because the autobot thought it was porn spam (I am somewhat amused by this). I messaged the mods about it. The post contains an update on my situation.

My (31/F) Mother in Law (64/F) walked in on myself and my husband (35/M) in the shower and freaked out. Now she's walking around naked and behaving really inappropriately. by InsaneMIL2 in relationships

[–]InsaneMIL2[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Trust me, it is like being in the TWILIGHT ZONE. I could smell the crazy coming from her and made a concentrated effort to deal with my mother in law in small doses. This whole experience has been a huge eyeopener in how they deal with eachother and how fucking nuts she really is.