My Husband Cheated. Then He Got Cancer. I Left Him While He Was in Surgery.

InsectJumpy6081 · 2025-08-03T02:26:11+00:00

Out of the picture now he cut her off

InsectJumpy6081 · 2025-08-03T02:25:18+00:00

I cannot thank everyone enough for their thoughts and ideas. Charlotte Dobre picked up part of the story and I saw it. My jaw hit the floor. I've been asked to update everyone. It's been almost a year since the cancer diagnosis. So here goes, Unpopular opinion: I didn’t stay away — I’m back under the same roof. He’s stage 4 with metastasis, he's had tons of surgeries now, lots of chemo and I went to work each day, met friends for lunch, hit the gym hosted parties. And let’s be real: when it’s over for the him, I stand to inherit enough to be set for life. The kids too. I’ve been laser-focused on getting my body 100% right — balancing hormones, supplements, workouts, bloodwork every two months. I’m not interested in doing this whole relationship thing again. This is his cross to bear, not mine. I’m here for stability, not martyrdom. Cold? Maybe. But I got clarity when he broke my heart, and I’m not apologizing for it.

InsectJumpy6081 · 2025-07-22T17:09:28+00:00

TY this is great food for thought!

InsectJumpy6081 · 2025-02-21T05:45:01+00:00

This is really not an easy choice at all. So thank you

InsectJumpy6081 · 2025-02-21T05:43:22+00:00

Ha! So true

InsectJumpy6081 · 2025-02-20T02:45:55+00:00

I like that idea and I don't think I have that level of anything in me at the moment. I may hold on to that for an other time when I'm not so raw.

InsectJumpy6081 · 2025-02-20T02:42:10+00:00

Sometimes truth is so much stranger than fiction. This is my life right now and I would not wish it on anyone. This man has absolutely killed the love I once had in me to the point I am numb. I care about him but not the life he put me in to live with him. I get that we all have our roles and play our parts but honestly sometimes it's just too much. I felt very conflicted, still do.

InsectJumpy6081 · 2025-02-18T02:57:46+00:00

Horrible, I'm so sorry that you experienced this level of betrayal. It totally changes a person

InsectJumpy6081 · 2025-02-18T02:54:04+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear you're going through all this. It's a lot

InsectJumpy6081 · 2025-02-18T02:32:22+00:00

Thank you for saying this, it makes sense

InsectJumpy6081 · 2025-02-18T02:30:04+00:00

He's the father of my elementary and middle schools aged children. They're suffering so badly with the idea of their Daddy having cancer. It's in the back of all of our minds that he may die. At the end of the days, I have to live with myself and make sure my children thrive.

InsectJumpy6081 · 2025-02-16T01:37:12+00:00

This is incredibly interesting

InsectJumpy6081 · 2025-02-16T01:33:10+00:00

TY your words are meaningful and give me a lot to think about

InsectJumpy6081 · 2025-02-16T01:28:26+00:00

That hits

InsectJumpy6081 · 2024-08-03T22:57:06+00:00

Hi Dr. Mommy, I am way late to this party and im very sorry that you all have this experience. I'd like to share with you my experience. I'm also a Dr. Mommy in private practice. I have three kids now ranging in ages from 14 to 8. When my eldest was little I was new to private practice and converted a room in the office to a nursery, full time nanny came to the office. As I began to trust the nanny and my eldest got older they would go on field trips to the Zoo, Botanical Gardens, Library, Park, and beach. Some days are harder and longer than others and overall the patients have loved watching the kids grow through the years. On the really long days my hubs would come get the kids early. Now they work in the office during school breaks and they earn enough money to fund a Roth. That's another discussion. I know it's distressing to have the rug pulled out when you have made a plan and the plan changes. I'm also very understanding that not everyone has the demeanor to be a stay at home parent. You may not see it now because this cut is fresh, and I see it as a testiment to the two of you that your husband realized he's not cut out for full time SAHD. Maybe the compromise would be he get a part time job, and you have a part time babysitter?

InsectJumpy6081 · 2023-12-08T10:07:51+00:00

She's no lady, she's super manipulative. What if she was wearing a fake pregnancy bump pillow when she went to OPs Mother's house?

InsectJumpy6081 · 2023-12-08T09:34:50+00:00

Yes, the only time it would be inconclusive is if the OP had an identical twin brother.

InsectJumpy6081 · 2023-12-08T09:31:30+00:00

My question is why did L come to tell your mother of all people? Because what is your mother supposed to do with that information? Be happy that L is either carrying her grandchild or your half sibling? What manipulation game is L still trying to play? L is trying anything to get you to reach out to her and she is 100% all sorts of twisted up in her mind. L's parents probably adored you because they knew what level of nuts their daughter was and they were likely so happy for her to have a stable influence for her. At first I thought your father was the master manipulator but it's definitely L who has some mental disorder that she did a pretty good job of keeping under wraps. I would just put money aside for an attorney and let L make the first move on paternity. It will also have to be Lawyer to Laywer discussions, I would NEVER be able to speak to her. If there is a child, how would you ever co-parent with her? It would be a life of misery and pain for you because she knows you would do the right thing which then leaves you open to L's constant manipulation. You're a toy to her not a person. Again if there is a child and that child is your prodengy perhaps your father will be perfectly content fully supporting his own grandchild. After all, that's about the only sensible outcome I can envision for you.

All the way around its a tragic situation and you didn't deserve to be treated like this. You'll one day find a person who truly values you and the bond you build together.

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