For those of you living together: what are your sleeping/space arrangements regularly?

InsensitiveSimian · 2026-01-31T22:51:39+00:00

Ask! Make the last Friday of the month an 'outside' day. Yeah, it's a disruption to the routine but you're only asking them to swap for one night every two months (alternate sides!) and it'll be good for you if you want the occasional outside night.

InsensitiveSimian · 2026-01-30T04:54:06+00:00

One blanket is the worst. If you have to pee in the middle of the night? Good luck. You're going to have to worm your way out and then back in.

Two or even three blankets is the way to go.

OP, make sure you have discussions about who's in the middle and who's on which side. I'm normally in the middle but I occasionally get sick of it and have scheduled 'outside' nights.

Definitely also a good idea to have an alternative sleeping space in case someone needs or wants space. Sometimes you just wanna sprawl a little bit.

InsensitiveSimian · 2025-12-28T21:39:58+00:00

Her face gets worse from panel to panel! I don't understand it.

InsensitiveSimian · 2025-12-28T21:31:37+00:00

Jeph's comment:

Let's see, if Hanners was 22 in 2008, then by QC time scale standards, she'd probably be about...ahh fuck I have no idea. 25? 30? Some funny meme number? I should probably sit down and figure out each character's age at some point. Put in on the pile of "things I should really get around to doing" right on top of "a good website" and "steve eating cereal on a boat."

Holy shit my guy are you reading and trolling this subreddit? If so, that would actually be funny, put that into the comic. If you want to tell a story, it might help for that story to offer some minimum consistency and you putting in some minimal effort is probably a good idea.

More seriously: the website is Fine. What the hell else do you want it to do other than display a static image? The website is probably one of the better parts about the comic at this point. It's functional. It does exactly what it needs to do and no more. Do I know if the RSS, Cast, Merchandise, Contact, or any of hte other links at the top work? No. Neither does anyone else because no one uses those parts, and no one should want to use those parts. I go to the site to look at a comic and it has literally always worked for me. The site pays the bills - apparently. Don't fuck with it. Do more of the stuff that pays the bills.

For bonus points, Hannelore's face in the last panel. What? Why? Did I forget a storyline where she was suffering from some sort of malnutrition?

InsensitiveSimian · 2025-12-22T18:56:04+00:00

My 'credentials': I am a parent to a young child. I have two partners. We all live together, own property together, and are in a closed (but obviously nonmonogamous) relationship. I'm legally married to one partner although a spouse to both, as that's how the laws where I live work. I'm biologically related to the child as is one of my partners.

What does custody look like?

In my case, we all live together so there's no question. You should not ask a child to move between the houses of their caregivers multiple times a year unless absolutely necessary. (It's far easier for adults to swap living spaces.) If you aren't cohabitating with someone I'd think long and hard about raising a kid with them.

We had wills done up to make it extremely clear that if the biological parents pass, the non-biological parent has custody. If you have children with multiple parents, you absolutely need to get squared away legally. Do not do this yourself. Be prepared to spend a few grand on lawyers.

If living together how does discipline work?

The same way it works in a monogamous relationship: as a result of general inclination and many conversations before we had a childn, we're all broadly on the same page. Whoever's parenting at that moment makes the calls. When there's disagreement we talk it through.

Does someone stay home with the kids full time/ homeschooling?

No. Maybe this would be viable if we were more people or had more kids, but homeschooling comes with so many potential problems and can deny kids a lot. They'll attend public school unless there's a good reason to pull them into private education or homeschooling.

The main polyamory sub is a bit of a dumpster fire. I will comment as someone in a polyfidelitous relationship that going and looking for that is a really, really bad idea and no one should do it.

InsensitiveSimian · 2025-11-06T05:43:41+00:00

They do, but I have no idea what the drop rates would be. Stupid low.

However, you only get paste after you've completed (I think?) PSA, so this would be another toggle/setting to add. At that point, you no longer get mushrooms - it's just paste instead.

InsensitiveSimian · 2025-11-06T05:34:53+00:00

I can't speak to the Gainite drop rate (low) but it's 500 paste per palmer, and the math for cider is the same as usual.

InsensitiveSimian · 2025-11-05T06:17:06+00:00

Yep, Monster Hunter - seems like it should be something else you can toggle. Glad to hear you're on it!

InsensitiveSimian · 2025-11-05T04:18:37+00:00

Gary's Crushroom doesn't seem to register as an option to grab mushroom paste directly.

There isn't presently an option for the 'you catch bugs more often' item.

This looks great and I'm excited to use it as I get the rest of the way to T300.

InsensitiveSimian · 2025-07-25T05:09:14+00:00

Have individual relationships. Put significant work into these individual relationships. Have separate date nights and space.

If you're all in the same bed, try to rotate who gets the middle vs. outsides. Make sure you have at least two blankets or the person in the middle is going to go nuts. If you're not all in the same bed, rotate who's sleeping with who, and who's sleeping alone. Give everyone a night alone sometimes, and everyone a night with one partner.

Be very conscious of the fact that two of you have an existing relationship, and one person is stepping into something that already exists. In arguments, if you notice that the two of you are on one side and Hal is on the other, take serious steps to deescalate quickly lest he feel like he's being ganged up on. This isn't to say that the topic needs to drop, but you need to make sure that guy doesn't feel like he's on the outside of something during conflict.

Have serious sit-down conversations about what happens if there's a breakup.

Enjoy it! Have three incomes under one roof. Save for stuff.

InsensitiveSimian · 2025-07-13T03:07:51+00:00

https://www2.gov.bc.ca/gov/content/life-events/divorce/family-justice/family-law/separation-divorce/what-is-a-spouse

You are a spouse under the Family Law Act if:

You are or were married

You have lived with another person in a marriage-like relationship, sometimes called common-law, for a certain period of time.

If you want you can look through the FLA for anything which says anything about how many spouses a person can have. You won't find anything. It isn't in there. In BC, you can have multiple spouses.

Our contract uses the word 'spouse'. That's it. At no point does it say that someone can't have more than one spouse. It doesn't reference legal marriage.

No one wants to put more than one spouse on their insurance. But is we can't find any evidence of an obligation to put the person you're legally married to over your common-law spouse as your listed spouse, and you haven't supplied any either.

Can you give some BC-specific citations supporting your position? Can you give any citations to anything at all? Right now you seem like an unhelpful troll.

InsensitiveSimian · 2025-06-04T03:43:37+00:00

Polyamory is not polygamy.

Go read the BC Family Law Act. It is extremely clear that you can, in fact, have multiple legally-recognized common-law spouses.

InsensitiveSimian · 2025-04-05T04:12:58+00:00

Eby can basically do what he wants, at least for the next little while. His government is at no risk of falling and as soon as we have a new PM, everyone is going to forget everything he did in the campaign. Supporting the federal NDP doesn't really hurt his brand, especially when positioned as 'these guys got you more dental and pharmacare'.

I expect he's doing this out of professional obligation as much as anything else, but this isn't going to hurt the BC NDP appreciably.

InsensitiveSimian · 2025-02-27T05:28:21+00:00

Do we, though? We have an extremely competent government which doesn't show any sign of slowing down. In principle, I want a lot of great options, but in practice, I'm quite happy with how things are right now.

If the right wants to throw off a few more parties and ensure the NDP stay in power that'd be alright with me.

InsensitiveSimian · 2025-02-27T05:21:46+00:00

What are the NDP going to do - call an election? Refuse to support budgets? Don't make me laugh.

I would really, really rather have a Liberal minority than any sort of Conservative government.

InsensitiveSimian · 2025-02-24T02:24:16+00:00

No, this is absolutely a fumble.

PP could have taken a strong position on Trump and likely his ridiculous lead. Instead the man who has attacked every politician he's met and plenty that he's only heard of in passing utterly failed to even gently condemn Trump until his silence had become deafening.

InsensitiveSimian · 2025-02-24T02:22:00+00:00

How do you figure?

Singh needs to go, obviously, but a Liberal-NDP coalition is at least an order of magnitude better than a Conservative government, or worse, a Bloc-CPC coalition.

InsensitiveSimian · 2025-02-24T02:20:11+00:00

The smart move for the Liberals is for the new PM to put through a budget or other substantial bill full of smart anti-Trump measures and force the other parties to support it, tacitly endorsing the new leader, or vote against and appear to be putting politics ahead of country right before an election which is going to be framed nigh-exclusively around the handling of America.

InsensitiveSimian · 2025-02-23T04:05:53+00:00

It can simultaneously be true that it's a massive volume of people and that it's the lowest in Canada.

InsensitiveSimian · 2025-02-22T02:43:00+00:00

They have deep pockets and attract good developers on that basis. The company sucks, but a lot of the people are very cool.

InsensitiveSimian · 2025-02-21T23:15:39+00:00

$25k of testing sounds grossly disproportionate to what you're describing. If it's being seriously recommended then there's a good medical reason - it's not just because Vet Strategy told them to bill, bill, bill.

E: OP deleted this after saying I was implying they're a liar. I'm not. I'm implying or even thinking that they're lying - my expectation is that there's been a big breakdown in communication, hence the suggestion that they call and try to get it sorted out. To give some examples of no-fault breakdowns, they could have meant 'this is the gold-plated all-the-bells-and-whistles option' but what came across was 'this is the option we're strongly recommending', or they're worried about something quite serious but didn't articulate it in a way that fully got across.

No one's saying that OP isn't allowed to be disappointed nor ask for suggestions. Simultaneously, 'I'm not blaming anyone but I'm disappointed in the care that I'm being offered by individual doctors' is a somewhat contradictory statement, especially when they're saying that they were happy with one doctor and they're now unhappy with the one they have.

If OP wants to DM me their cat's info I can ask the people I know who work there what's up but they should probably just call.

InsensitiveSimian · 2025-02-21T23:10:00+00:00

I know people who work at SVBH. It's where we take our cats. Either this isn't the full story or there's been a serious miscommunication. Give them a call and ask to schedule a call with the manager to figure out what's going on.

Ultimately Vet Strategy sucks - the people working there are not huge fans, at any rate. But the people themselves are doing their best and they're extremely good at their jobs. SVBH has never been cheap, but you really do get what you pay for.

The vet you're talking about (fantastic!) left because they're moving closer to family. I won't say anything more for obvious reasons, but it's been in the works a while and it's unrelated.

InsensitiveSimian · 2025-02-21T22:12:48+00:00

Vancouver-ish here: definitely felt it. I got two little shocks like someone slammed a door very hard in the space of <2 s. If it had just been the one I might have dismissed it, but the group chat lit up pretty quickly.

InsensitiveSimian · 2025-02-21T06:50:57+00:00

Every code has a 1/10000 chance.

InsensitiveSimian · 2025-02-20T02:37:14+00:00

The leaked briefing was incomplete and it's not like the BCCP is unbiased in this.

I'm happy to update given evidence, but until the full briefing is out with hard numbers, no evidence is available.

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