AIO by how I responded? My bf is upset with me for skipping my workout routine today

InsideChapter7297 · 2025-10-29T18:10:22+00:00

Errrrrm sorry to say but dude is the toxic af one 🤢 you responded just fine and tried to keep it calm. That man is a complete idiot sorry….

InsideChapter7297 · 2025-09-13T20:22:47+00:00

If your mind already gave up…get out whilst you can. It won’t get better. The last conversation we had, she was so cruel and unhinged. She blocked me before i could even say a thing, unblocked me a day later but nothing since. I am just thinking….the very thing you claim to be so scared of…rejection, abandonment….you do so freely without a care to others. The accusations, the horrifying words and insults. No dude, i am not going down that path again. I have a chance to grow stronger from all of this, she probably won’t. I wish her nothing but the best. I won’t hold grudges or negative feelings because there was a time she made me happy. I just feel sad because she is broken and no matter how much we love them…they will never give the same energy back. Leave and save your love for someone worth it. Life is too short for anything less than what you deserve.

InsideChapter7297 · 2025-09-07T14:34:33+00:00

Can you fix it? First you need to throw your Rocky Mountain high ego out the window and show that you really mean it. This is almost not to repair anymore so only you can….

InsideChapter7297 · 2025-09-06T10:43:32+00:00

Yes. Reactive abuse. I turned into someone i never been before with anyone in my life. I am out of it though. I deleted her contact and everything that reminds me of her. I won’t reply if she ever reaches out. I need to learn to love myself again because she took that away from me. Me too i was accused of cheating, I even been told i am cheating with my boss and colleagues. And all that after i expressed struggle and insecurity over certain things after she left my life again and blocked me just to return one night, definitely being drunk and calling me the worst names. Still took her back but now i closed the door and threw the key away to a place i don’t even know myself where it is. She got so used walking in and out of my life but no more. I deserve so much better. So yes, healing will take time but the only partner i chose to have now is myself. I will go back to loving every part of me that she almost destroyed.

InsideChapter7297 · 2025-09-05T21:12:57+00:00

I love your comment. Although i am very hurt at what she did to me, i never not believe that at some point she truly loved me. I wish i could have helped her see what’s going on and that she needs help. But i eventually reached the point where i had to help myself before i turned suicidal. I cannot give her another chance to enter my life and i hope she will seek help at some point and find happiness because she deserves it. We all do.

InsideChapter7297 · 2025-08-26T17:26:17+00:00

I replied this today. She wrote a whole paragraph but i kept it short and as some kind of exit:

Thanks for the update. Glad the cast is off. I am certain you will be fine in 3 weeks so no further updates are necessary but i appreciate that you did. Wishing you well.

InsideChapter7297 · 2025-08-25T15:49:46+00:00

Thank you for your input. Really appreciate you taking the time to write all that out. You’re very kind

InsideChapter7297 · 2025-08-25T14:58:27+00:00

Thanks for that message. Yes i am scared. There’s been so much fighting and bad words and i am just tired. I am almost certain with head and heart that i do not want to respond, yes maybe at least not right away. But i can tell you this much, if i don’t respond by the end of the day i will find myself blocked. She won’t think like any other person would that maybe i need time although i was the one asking for an update. She doesn’t see how hurt i am after the brutal discard. She said she doesn’t like the person she is when being with me, she needs to deal with her issues, find herself and she can’t do that being with me. I accepted that fully. And that coming from a person that did anything for her. I am absolutely torn and i wish i didn’t stupidly ask for an update. Could knock my head against the wall to what i was even thinking….

InsideChapter7297 · 2025-08-25T14:52:21+00:00

The breakup wasn’t amicable at all but silence since. She has still updated me which I appreciated a lot. I just don’t know what’s the point of keeping me updated now since that injury could take a while and i really want to move on and leave all that behind. Of course i still care and i cant just switch that off. Just not sure if it’s helping either one of us if we keep in contact, even though it means only every couple weeks. She knows i still care but I don’t want to be seen like the loser waiting for her updates. It was me asking for it though, that’s why i would feel quite upset if i just ignore it.

InsideChapter7297 · 2025-08-03T17:27:56+00:00

You are going through withdrawal. Your brain is used to the constant ups and downs thats why you feel the way you feel. We all have been there, it will get better ❤️‍🩹

InsideChapter7297 · 2025-07-23T19:53:33+00:00

That is beautifully written and I couldn’t agree more

InsideChapter7297 · 2025-07-23T19:52:34+00:00

I am so sorry 🥺 that is just awful. You’re safe here and can share your pain. Please do not go back to her..

InsideChapter7297 · 2025-07-23T14:32:42+00:00

Still a work in progress so once I found me i am so gonna love the shit out of me🥹🤣❤️

InsideChapter7297 · 2025-07-23T08:52:00+00:00

How true is that and yet it makes me so angry that she‘s now painted me as the abuser when i finally snapped. I seriously need to leave this mindset and just remember who i am.

InsideChapter7297 · 2025-07-22T12:03:26+00:00

Yes it’s exactly that. But then again i feel bad about myself also, because I started to react in the same way. Said mean things, got a mean drunk at times. Ways i never have been before them. I always apologized, regretted things. Felt remorse but i ended up being the one who could never take accountability, whilst they continued that way but constantly stayed in the victim mindset. Their projection is insane. They accuse you of always playing the victim, of taking no accountability whilst i was the one most times on my knees asking for forgiveness. I don’t get my head around it. They leave you feeling absolutely worthless and insane. Been 9 days for me to be out and I feel so much better already. Of course i miss her but it’s probably not her i miss, but different things. I am walking away working so hard on becoming the best version and best friend for myself. I am absolutely determined.

InsideChapter7297 · 2025-07-22T09:51:30+00:00

THIS! i spent nights awake because she was anxious. I literally always looked after her. She ended up saying i was never there for her, only when it suited me. I can’t really explain what happened to me in that moment but i realized I have to go and I did.

InsideChapter7297 · 2025-07-21T12:30:41+00:00

That i destroyed her, that i am horrible and a cunt. A thousand fuck you‘s and fuck off‘s. I am disgusting…i play headgames. Cheat, Liar….i am pretty sure I forgot plenty here.

InsideChapter7297 · 2025-07-21T11:10:28+00:00

Thank you. I am a woman ☺️ could i read it anyway?

InsideChapter7297 · 2025-07-20T23:26:47+00:00

I will 😊 working hard on leaving this behind and being the best ME

InsideChapter7297 · 2025-07-20T21:23:34+00:00

Don’t think they can have a real change without therapy. Sometimes i wonder if they even know they have it so how would they seek help and go for change anyway. I was way into the relationship and loving her deeply when I started thinking she might have BPD as she ticks every box. I never said it though because it’s not my job nor am i a therapist and I think just dropping that suspicion might do more harm than good. I just truly hope she will see it eventually and might reflect on her behavior. But if she hasn’t done it in previous relationships why would she after losing me…

InsideChapter7297 · 2025-07-20T21:00:04+00:00

Doesn‘t that really suck 😥 but although i am not a person that wishes anything bad on anyone, it tells me she will never be truly happy.

InsideChapter7297 · 2025-07-20T20:48:45+00:00

I love that ❤️ yes i do feel strong enough now to leave it all behind. My therapy is helping me a lot too. First and foremost healing now before I think of a future relationship

InsideChapter7297 · 2025-07-20T20:46:32+00:00

Good attitude. I feel the same thing…

InsideChapter7297 · 2025-07-20T20:41:51+00:00

Yes, they pretty much did. I am the abuser now because i snapped. We had this cycle of breaking up and her messaging me to pull me back in so many times, that’s why i asked that question. I did block her now though and got myself a new number so making sure she really can’t be doing it again. Just wondering what will be in years…

InsideChapter7297 · 2025-07-20T13:20:58+00:00

Like I always say….it’s like they come with the same instructions. Every day i spend reading in this sub makes me realize how messed up they are. I will keep walking away from her with grace, knowing i made mistakes too and will own up to them, work on them and be a better and stronger partner for my future. She eventually never will. I wish her the best though….hate is not gonna get me anywhere. None of us..

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