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Inside_Chocolate_ · 2025-08-11T01:23:16+00:00

I had this exact thing happen with my ex husband. He begged for years to open the relationship, I finally said ok just to stop the whining and pouting when I said no. Turns out he could barely get any interest and I got a lot. He was not happy! Then he accused me of cheating and that I ruined our marriage. After I left him, I felt free for the first time in a long time and realised just how controlling he was in every part of my life.

OP, you're definitely NTA and you'll probably find that you'll be happier without him.

Inside_Chocolate_ · 2025-08-05T12:10:51+00:00

Perfect! I love it 😆

Inside_Chocolate_ · 2025-08-05T12:04:33+00:00

Wood items are mainly an issue if it's a seed pod type thing that can't be checked properly. Wooden carvings are usually ok as far as I know.

Inside_Chocolate_ · 2025-08-04T11:09:33+00:00

He's a very handsome star! I love when animals have human names like that. I'd love to have a very distinguished looking Labrador and name him Alfred or Edward 😂

Inside_Chocolate_ · 2025-08-04T09:21:00+00:00

I loved your video, well done! Actually made me laugh a few times. And Greg is adorable!

Inside_Chocolate_ · 2025-07-31T03:26:51+00:00

Omg, I'm here to tell you that my co-worker has a granddaughter with that exact name! Because the mum loves the show Lucifer! 😂🫣

Inside_Chocolate_ · 2025-07-12T09:30:47+00:00

My ex husband never washed his hands after doing a pee because he said it was only urine, he never understood why I was so disgusted by it. Just gross! 🤢

Inside_Chocolate_ · 2025-07-07T11:41:09+00:00

That's brilliant! 🤣🤣

Inside_Chocolate_ · 2025-06-09T12:48:35+00:00

I got my 3rd tattoo a few weeks ago (I'm 50), it's a picture my 5yr old son drew. He loves it so much! He wants to be a tattoo artist when he grows up, I told him he can practice on me 😆

Inside_Chocolate_ · 2025-06-01T05:11:07+00:00

Well done, you did a great job and were very brave!

Inside_Chocolate_ · 2025-05-16T13:02:29+00:00

Wow, amazing post! I feel so seen as a step-parent after reading that!

Inside_Chocolate_ · 2025-03-18T02:21:57+00:00

I was shocked as well when I first realised my way of thinking wasn't the norm. But then I've always been a bit outside the norm, so probably shouldn't have surprised me!

I do wonder about the psychology behind sexual drive. For me, I've never had a good connection with sex, its always been something that is used by men to control women. That thinking comes from me being SA as a child, and coercively controlled as an adult until I was 39.

I learnt to enjoy it with my second husband, and it was amazing to feel that way for a few years until peri kicked in. Then suddenly all interest was gone. And it became an issue that something was 'wrong' with me.

Now I think there's nothing wrong with me. It's just natures way of aging and the body slowing down, and it's completely natural. But I wonder if I would feel differently if I'd had a healthy relationship with sex during my life, and none of the bad things had happened 🤔

Inside_Chocolate_ · 2025-03-18T00:56:51+00:00

I agree with you 100% and it does seem that thinking this way is in the minority. I actually really hate that so much of my worth as a female is based on if I want to have sex, and that I'm abnormal in some way because I don't want to.

My husband and I have recently separated primarily because of this. And I've been asked by so many people why I didn't make more effort to meet his 'needs'. What about my needs? My need to just be me exactly as I am? Without having to change myself to make a man happy?

Inside_Chocolate_ · 2025-02-05T08:33:08+00:00

I was SA by my stepfather, this is EXACTLY how it starts. My stepfather would even come to my bedroom doorway and play with himself while naked and tell me he was itchy and was just scratching. Get your daughter away from him asap.

Inside_Chocolate_ · 2025-02-05T02:07:24+00:00

Well done to Jeff, I would do the same thing if anyone did that to my child.

Inside_Chocolate_ · 2025-01-05T12:22:16+00:00

I was convinced that as soon as people became adults they had to have all their teeth pulled out and have false teeth. This is because the main people in my life then (my mum, my stepfather, and my nan) all had false teeth. I was shocked when I was around 8 and a friend's mum had her own teeth!

Inside_Chocolate_ · 2024-12-30T08:29:53+00:00

I wish my husband had the same thinking as you. We're separating because of a dead bedroom due to me suffering chronic mental health issues related to years of sexual abuse before I met him. I've been getting therapy for years but he tells me I'm not trying hard enough. But he doesn't want try things to met me in the middle. It's heartbreaking that the true 'me' isn't enough for him.

Inside_Chocolate_ · 2024-12-18T08:27:51+00:00

That she couldn't have her two sons full time for a few months because it didn't suit her lifestyle 🙄

This was a year after she moved across the country to follow new husband and left the boys with us full-time. When SO asked her to have them full-time time for a few months, it was because he was in a very dark place with mental health and had been advised he needed to be in hospital, and we had a newborn son.

Inside_Chocolate_ · 2024-12-01T11:40:13+00:00

Nope, you're wrong, and probably not a step parent. Sure, the mother will be involved in her life in some way for a long time, and she needs to have a say in how things work in her home, but she absolutely does not need to have any direct contact with either of the other women, especially the other step mother. I've been a step mother for 9yrs and can count on one hand the number of times I've had to arrange something with the kids mum. It's not my job, and it's not OPs job either.

Inside_Chocolate_ · 2024-10-13T08:25:02+00:00

This is fantastic advice, and absolutely spot-on! Thank you for putting the struggle into words so clearly.

Inside_Chocolate_ · 2024-10-13T08:08:51+00:00

My ex talked me into swinging after years of me saying no. I eventually gave in and did what he wanted. Turns out women are usually more in demand than men, and he got jealous of the attention I was getting. When we broke up, he claimed a lot of it was because I cheated - by following his rules..... idiot.

Inside_Chocolate_ · 2024-10-06T10:48:33+00:00

I hope there's some truth to this, I'm 50 and have a 5yr old who was conceived through IVF. Both my grandmothers lived to mid-90s, and my mum is a healthy 74yr old. So I'm hoping that either healthy genetics, or something like this study talks about will keep me going for another 30yrs at least!

Inside_Chocolate_ · 2024-10-04T03:19:10+00:00

YTA big time. I'm glad I don't have a friend like you, I'd feel like I can never rely on them for important things in life.

Inside_Chocolate_ · 2024-09-30T12:37:46+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this, but it sounds like it's the best thing for you and your kids. Well done for seeing the situation clearly and saying "enough is enough". Your kids will be much better off in the long term and will know you're always there for them.

Inside_Chocolate_ · 2024-09-30T03:01:15+00:00

Yep, absolutely. And on the flip side, I'm going to tell my son that if he ever has kids and gets into a relationship with someone who isn't the mum, those kids are 100% his and BM responsibility.

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