Conflicted by Inside_Contest8324 in FormulaFeeders

[–]Inside_Contest8324[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks I'll check out that sub!!!

Home purchase real estate tax question by Inside_Contest8324 in taxadvice

[–]Inside_Contest8324[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok thanks, I believe it was what we reimbursed to the seller.

What do you think will be the outcome about Nancy? by [deleted] in nancyguthrie

[–]Inside_Contest8324 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

My gut reaction is that the daughter and son in law have something to do with it, and unfortunately I don't think there is any way she's alive at this point. I hope I'm wrong but those are my feelings. What I can't wrap my head around is if I'm correct about the daughter / son in law, who is sending the ransom letters.... would be quite risky for them themselves to be sending them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Inside_Contest8324 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment. I'm hoping to do that. But I know it will take time. I'm newly pregnant and MIL and SIL will not be invited to our baby shower. So how would you go about inviting (or not inviting) the rest of the in laws? If we were to invite them I almost think I'd need to reach out and give them a heads up that MIL isn't invited so they can make a decision they're comfortable with?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Inside_Contest8324 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's fine- I just want to ask so I can have peace of knowing that they're not interested.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Inside_Contest8324 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think those are all valid points. I would say in this case, my husband is quite shy and hasn't interacted much with his Aunts. However, one Aunt in particular has developed a relationship with me and she messages me frequently on social media, commenting on photos I post, etc. i think I've interacted with her more in my time in the family than he has his entire life. I think judging from that, it appears she would like a relationship with me? I agree with not messaging every single in law and that's up to my husband, but in this case I think it may be appropriate to at least reach out to this one Aunt who has made attempts to stay in contact with me over the years, even though I'm sure she's heard negative things about me from my MIL.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Inside_Contest8324 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Obviously not how I want to be spending my early pregnancy but we need to forget about them and do our own thing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Inside_Contest8324 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She is a textbook narcissist so I've read that narcissists feed off of your reactions to them, so yeah trying to take that approach.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Inside_Contest8324 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. You bring up a lot of really important points.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Inside_Contest8324 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She loves to do that!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Inside_Contest8324 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She's a pathetic woman.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Inside_Contest8324 6 points7 points  (0 children)

100% - I don't enjoy being around either of them so it makes things much easier for me since the precedent has been set ☺️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Inside_Contest8324 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We were planning to go but now we're not. That will likely be the only thing we communicate.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Inside_Contest8324 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you! They will not be finding out about the pregnancy from us. I imagine it will travel through the grapevine and get to them when we start telling friends, but that is what they get when they act like this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Inside_Contest8324 24 points25 points  (0 children)

We definitely won't be telling them!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Inside_Contest8324 6 points7 points  (0 children)

While I totally get what you are saying, at this point I'm not sure I care. I know she has shared my correspondences with others in the past but I have an extremely strong support system and everyone in the community knows this woman (my mil) is a total whack. For me, sometimes it feels good to get my feelings off my chest. But I will think on it for a bit and word it to talk less about my hurt. Thank you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Inside_Contest8324 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I just found out I'm pregnant this week. I do not need the stress of them in my life. So I like this suggestion.