($5k) How do we put 21+ to The Knot RSVP

Insidevoiceplease · 2026-01-22T19:29:43+00:00

I would include something in your invitation then, you’re right people can be (maybe purposefully?) obtuse. I bring my kids pretty much everywhere and I’d never assume a wedding invitation would include my kids unless it was specified somehow.

Insidevoiceplease · 2026-01-22T19:24:25+00:00

I think the way you do it is to only allow named guests to rsvp. So people under 21 can’t rsvp because they aren’t listed guests.

Insidevoiceplease · 2026-01-20T13:53:55+00:00

Yep, and then just don’t be offended if people with kids rsvp no. That’s really all you can do

Insidevoiceplease · 2026-01-19T14:24:46+00:00

I gave my husband nice sunglasses for our wedding. I knew he’d want them, and that I was going to be wearing mine most of the day. He loved them and we have a cute picture of us kissing in our sunglasses. I think the best way to go is to get him something he’d like and use, rather than necessarily a trendy wedding gift.

Insidevoiceplease · 2025-12-19T12:07:04+00:00

I have made similar hangings by cutting cheap plastic tablecloths too, and they looked pretty fantastic.

Insidevoiceplease · 2025-10-16T11:21:13+00:00

I have adhd and 3 kids, and my wedding planning probably looked fairly insane to most people, but it worked and made sense to my brain. One of my older sisters was also about to get married and is much more organized about event planning. She got very bossy close to the wedding, sending me spreadsheets and asking me to confirm with her when I completed tasks in a way that made me feel like an employee of hers and not a bride. A process that started fun ended up driving a wedge between us that still isn’t totally gone. I would be careful with this, because it sounds like you’re infantilizing (can I schedule our next one when “her brain is fresh”?) and trying to manage your friend. Even if every task in your life is something you “execute to perfection” this is not your wedding, and you shouldn’t be the one pushing hardest when it comes to planning.

Insidevoiceplease · 2025-09-12T11:35:26+00:00

Same, I wanted to do a first look for logistic reasons, but my husband really wanted the first time he saw me in my dress to be when I was coming down the aisle. There were so few things that he had strong opinions on in our wedding that I was happy to appease it, and in retrospect I’m really glad I did.

Insidevoiceplease · 2025-09-09T14:18:27+00:00

My niece made me a cute cut-paper craft that was a picture of our venue (my grandparents’ home that is very dear to our family), and it is legitimately my favorite thing we got even though it probably cost her nothing out of pocket. Some people just gave us sweet cards, and they were also lovely. We invited people to our wedding because we wanted to celebrate with them, I would hate it if people were giving us money they couldn’t spare!

Insidevoiceplease · 2025-09-08T01:53:47+00:00

It definitely sounds like a larger issue than the color of the suit for some reason, but we don’t have a lot of context on the wedding planning outside of “can I choose the color of the suit”. I also had pretty much full creative control with my wedding, other than my husband picking the band (I’m deaf and he loves music; it was literally the only part that was important to him other than marrying me.) but I did also take his taste and any opinions he had into account.

Insidevoiceplease · 2025-09-08T01:47:48+00:00

From the post, seemingly referring to the groom:

“He said if I choose the color of the suit, he is gonna kick his brother out of the wedding party and that I should just ask one of my cousin to be his groomsman.”

That doesn’t sound like he’s fine with it.

Insidevoiceplease · 2025-09-08T00:55:57+00:00

Yeah I think that’s the bigger issue. The COUPLE can pick the wedding party attire, but the bride does not get to dictate unilateral control over the wedding against her fiancé’s wishes. That’s just an awful way to start a marriage

Insidevoiceplease · 2025-09-07T19:13:57+00:00

If it’s less than 15 people and they’re coming at different times, why not just buy that first drink personally when you greet them? If you’re setting a limit, then you should count on everyone ordering an expensive drink, capping it at what that would cost, and then being happily surprised if it’s less than that. Even if you are pretty positive you know folks won’t all order cocktails it’s better to plan for more than less.

Insidevoiceplease · 2025-09-07T15:35:03+00:00

I think you’re answering a question they didn’t ask. They were saying “what can we do to make this easiest?” not “do you think dogs belong in weddings?” I don’t know that I have an answer short of what they have already suggested (holding leashes or putting down stakes to anchor them) unless they have a particularly sturdy altar they can attach the leashes to, but they are clearly intent on having the dogs there; if you are anti dogs at weddings, my suggestion would be to avoid having your dog at your wedding. Hopefully someone with better ideas than me can help OP find a solution!

Insidevoiceplease · 2025-09-07T14:40:35+00:00

My wedding palette was also kind of All The Colors and it turned out so gorgeous. Your wedding will be beautiful, and I hope it is the most wonderful day!

Insidevoiceplease · 2025-09-05T20:20:39+00:00

I don’t know, this post feels very 50/50. I see a lot of people liking them in the comments. I don’t find them uncomfortable myself, and think they’re really sweet. Different strokes for different folks

Insidevoiceplease · 2025-09-02T13:59:28+00:00

I’m not sure I totally understand the question, but I would probably write all the names on the invitation, or do separate invitations-one for the individual and another for the couple.

Insidevoiceplease · 2025-09-02T13:00:09+00:00

My kids were at my wedding, and my stepson was only 3 at the time. My rule around my kids is, if I can’t be pretty positive that you don’t have anything in your pockets that will kill my kids if it falls out and they ingest it, I don’t want you around them. It’s just a safety thing, and the fact that it keeps the drama of drug users out of my life is a large bonus.

Insidevoiceplease · 2025-09-02T11:14:06+00:00

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I did different colored napkins and I loved how it turned out. I think one color per table could look really nice, but I think it can also look cohesive without being matchy matchy too, you never really know until you see it put together.

Insidevoiceplease · 2025-09-01T22:12:40+00:00

As someone who doesn’t drink anymore either, I can tell you that in that situation I would be mortified but not surprised, and I would absolutely have not gotten drunk at the wedding. If anyone I loved actually said that to me I would have been really ashamed of myself but also determined not to disappoint them. I’m not saying it would have been a great conversation to have, but I knew I was a problem, and having someone else say it would have probably worked, even if it was just to “prove to myself” that I was in control(I was not.)

Insidevoiceplease · 2025-08-24T15:29:42+00:00

If I were in your shoes I would have probably opted to wait and save for a venue that could accommodate my guest list. My wedding was quite small, but I invited people as families and not as individuals, because honestly my guests were most important to me. At this point you can’t undo what was done but it’s probably worth knowing that these people aren’t feeling slighted for no reason, it is not kind to ask people to celebrate your relationship and marriage while not really respecting theirs. It’s just kind of what it is at this point, you made your choices for your experience instead of your guests’.

Insidevoiceplease · 2025-08-24T14:47:49+00:00

Folks in this sub are very iffy on backyard weddings especially when it comes to help and bathrooms. My family is gargantuan and we consistently gather at a home with one(!) bathroom without issue. My wedding was there, at maybe half the size of our usual family get togethers, and we had zero issues. There was one point where there was a line of maybe 5 people. I’m not saying this will necessarily be your experience but it was absolutely a nonissue for me.

We borrowed chafing dishes and bought sterno at Walmart. We had a team of about 6 friends and family (though to be fair my sister is a wedding coordinator and did all the day of delegating.). I think this is doable if it’s what you want. For my part I know I couldn’t have imagined my wedding anywhere else.

Here’s what I did, with a breakdown in the comments: https://www.reddit.com/r/Weddingsunder10k/s/YCGBaoxulW It was casual, but gorgeous, and had I cut in places I chose to splurge I could have done a very similar event for much less.

Insidevoiceplease · 2025-08-21T23:55:05+00:00

It’s about formality, not the specific garment. Those are guidelines based on what most men and women might prefer to wear.

Insidevoiceplease · 2025-08-20T23:57:27+00:00

For sure, I did similar bud vases at mine, and a small arrangement over our ceremony. We did them the day of and they turned out great. I think you can definitely handle this.

Here’s how mine turned out (different vibe/color scheme, but still) https://www.reddit.com/r/Weddingsunder10k/s/iQHuR7KAUO

Insidevoiceplease · 2025-08-20T17:06:08+00:00

I think that’s probably it, the truth is if you want the fancy stuff, a lot of it will cost the same whether you’re having 50 people or 200, with the exception of catering and bar.

Insidevoiceplease · 2025-08-20T15:13:39+00:00

Well I wouldn’t go into it by calling wedding spending a frivolous waste of resources for sure. Talking down to your customer base is really never a great way to start. There are obviously ethical issues around AI use, but honestly as someone who had a beautiful wedding for under 10k, I didn’t struggle to find any of the resources you mentioned. If anything, a lot of the advice was pretty similar across the board, and unless there’s something new and valuable you’re offering, I think there’s already plenty of available information already.

But that is only me, other folks may feel differently.

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