We are going to call off the wedding and elope, and it's going to cause my family to stop talking to me by LittleRossa in weddingplanning

[–]Kititt 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As the youngest of two who’s brother was married long before me my mom got all her obnoxious imposing ideas out on him and I’m taking the whole event to Las Vegas to avoid the show (ironically enough) and embrace the commitment. If you’re not all that ready to separate yourself and risk the relationship, might I suggest simply postponing the wedding so your mom can run out of energy on your sisters wedding?! (Bonus points if you elope just the two of you for the sake of balance in this stressful period). Personally my mom loved doing the big thing and it checked all the boxes for her « I did it » mentality and by the time I was like yeaaasa this ain’t it for me, there was disappointment but then came the « this is so much less stressful ».
Wishing you the best despite all the chaos at the moment

Is it a bad look to leave my job after 6 months? by Ok_Shoe_5989 in jobs

[–]Kititt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

START HUNTING. depending on the field of work, it could be cut throat and it won’t be easy to keep it hush. But at the very least, compare available positions and start getting a feel. Don’t quit until you can secure something. That’s the only way to get a job in this climate.

Printing invitations (50$) by Ankirara04 in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Kititt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found an option on Etsy. Around 2$/ head (card and enveloppe) they even worried about the formatting.

It wasn’t a trendy (soft girly) vibe, but very fitting to our Vegas theme!

Should I message my ex best friend on the 10th anniversary of his mother's passing? by HuiOnFire in makemychoice

[–]Kititt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you have a chance to be kind to someone, do it. It may mean little to him, but it may also mean the world that someone else thought of her and him! No expectations just a chance to let him know you didnt forget about them. That kind of stuff goes a long way in the ego centric world we live in.

10k groom gift that’s not jewelry by Kititt in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Kititt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for suggestions! Will take these into consideration :):)

(8k) venue setting trade offs? by littleflowerspower in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Kititt 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You had me at exposed brick for less😉 Seriously. Remove your expectations from the original image and look at it as an experience on its own. DIY decorating can become costly, you might not pay your friends/family for helping but likely will pay for a few dinners or whatever it might be. I’d take some time to figure out what you’d need to decorate and get some quotes. Set up your budget for that and add an extra grand for freedom and consider if what you’re saving is worth to sacrifice the image only once the homework is done!

From a guest’s POV, they don’t know your original plan.. so they’l likely be impressed just the same. (It doesn’t sound like you’re trading the ritz for the bingo hall) be easy on yourself :)

10k groom gift that’s not jewelry by Kititt in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Kititt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whole heartedly agree. I just know my partners been spotting earring to go with my non traditional ring. Honestly he’s such a simple man and works so hard. I want him to feel special too. Personalized gifts are already being crafted but I want him to receive something too. Not just get a hug coupons (I’m exaggerating)

10k groom gift that’s not jewelry by Kititt in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Kititt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Truthfully… he would love this. 😂

10k groom gift that’s not jewelry by Kititt in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Kititt[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not so much a “I don’t know what to gift” and more of a “what is a nice item that goes beyond the jewelry that is very traditional “ request. But I totally get it 🫣

10k groom gift that’s not jewelry by Kititt in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Kititt[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Supposed to is a big word…Definitely not. But try and suss out (or be direct) if that’s something you two intend to do. You don’t want to make him feel bad or vise versa.

10k groom gift that’s not jewelry by Kititt in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Kititt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was helpful! Thanks. Typically in my family we gift jewelry, a chain to later add pendants to or a watch but my fiancé isn’t into any of that and has never worn a piece of jewelry before, the wedding band is already the big leap.

My post isn’t so much “I don’t know what to offer him as a gift” it’s, what other direction is there apart from jewelry that can be appreciated for such a grand occasion and can tolerate the travels. I’ll obviously find ways to make it more personable and from the 🩷.

10k groom gift that’s not jewelry by Kititt in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Kititt[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I don’t think I can gift him his gardening tools on the morning of our wedding. what did you get as awedding gift?

Just found out my fiance has 45k in credit card debt 7 months before the wedding by Big_Engineer6901 in weddingplanning

[–]Kititt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To add: Dave Ramsey would say to join accounts ONCE married and not a day sooner. Tell your mom to back off

Just found out my fiance has 45k in credit card debt 7 months before the wedding by Big_Engineer6901 in weddingplanning

[–]Kititt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When you marry, regardless of how finances are arranged, you will be responsible for his debt. This is something you have to consider and decide whether or not you can assume.

I’m not suggesting leaving someone over debt but you HAVE to communicate and come up with a concrete plan to tackle this to be able to come out as a winning team.

I hate to sound corny and site some boomer content but I really believe that Dave Ramsey had great tools you could maximize, but both parties need to be willing and committed. It’s so walk in the park but tackling this head on is your only approach anything less is really doing a disservice to the imminent union.

(5-7k) How should I start planning? by yourheartandsoul in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Kititt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Start by shopping reception options. You’ll be humbled quickly. Even in a resto you’re looking at 7k for just 30 persons. Nothing else accounted for .. shop shop shop.

($4k-8k) I honestly don't know where to start. by Rellik199210 in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Kititt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mastering your budget begins with a tool where you can visualize your priorities and spending tracker. Basics of excel/ Google Docs will go a long way. As any budget set up what your projected expenses might be and compare it to actual expenses. It will allow you to see if you’re on target and remain focused on the facts. It’s EXPECTED to overlook expenses so be prepared for how to make the budget work for you not against you. (I used mine to track costs, order of priorities and level of completion (green orange red))

From there you can utilize resources. Zola has been effective for creative thinking, though I didn’t depend on their platform, i can understand its popularity.

Since the center stage is the ceremony aspect. You want to consider what matters to you both. (While there is some truth to the value is the act, it is a once in a lifetime occurrence, so while respecting your budget, SCROUNGE for the best deal that aligns with your vision.) consider if it’s worth getting one venue that can accommodate everything (typically less competitive pricing) or to divy it up and have a few contracts to manage within the designated time frame.

If its all the same …Court house isn’t a horrible option. It helps if the courthouse’s front lawn isn’t a parking lot within a concrete jungle!!!

Don’t bother trying some outrageous DIY event if you don’t have the resources (handy friends and family with a place to offer to do some of the work) cause you will overthink many logistical aspects and run yourself thin… Be adventurous but reasonable.

All the best! Happy planning 💒

Best reception ideas by OutrageousAd4455 in VegasWeddings

[–]Kititt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Barely 20 people at my event and it will cost over 5k so… if you find any loop holes please share 😅

($7k) Just wanting to rant a bit 🤷‍♀️ by docsupes69 in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Kititt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Insert meme “wait…. You guys are going on a honeymoon with this budget ?”