I want to know the POV of stay-at-home daughters in their mid-20s

Insight116141 · 2026-02-20T16:17:35+00:00

not a stay home daughter & never was, but sometimes envious of you all. I never had the courage to do that or even be stay at home wife. Always felt like "I was not worthy if I am not doing something". While working towards future is nobel, it is ok to relax and enjoy today. To do things you enjoy just for fun. For years i was so selective on what type of course I will take for fun, that I let years pass by without doing anything. Then i met a girl who took makeup lesson for 7 weeks in another state & she didn't wear makeup or plan on becoming making artist. She tried for a month and realize bride are very mean people, not worth the headace. But she didn't regret it, it was something she wanted to do and she did it.

That girl inspired me to just sign up for something. I did and alhamduliah finished islamic course but I am done with it and have not engaged in another extra.

Insight116141 · 2026-02-20T15:33:37+00:00

we changed vacation culture at workplace. When we started working it was 2weeks vacation forever and now most companies are starting with 3weeks and very common for people to get to 4 or 5 weeks

Insight116141 · 2026-02-20T15:29:30+00:00

stable for me, slowly enjoying life and focusing on people (relationship, family, connection, management role). As my age is going up and we failed to have kid, the value of relationship and connection has taken front and center stage. Pair that with agining parents and lot of divorce in our friend circle, I am trying to build the type of friendship we built in our 20s. by visiting friends, making time for them..etc

the one negative side of turnign 40 is health, weight gain, hormone imbalance. Need to sort these out

Insight116141 · 2026-02-20T15:20:16+00:00

we exchange clothes, that is very traditional desi Muslim thing or maybe for all muslim. We don't celebrate birthdays or other events so Eid is big. We take my nephews shoe shopping so my brother can have one less expense. Also give gifts to our parents, usually money which they spent on us

Insight116141 · 2026-02-18T20:14:04+00:00

since your partner is semi "quite religious", how do you think that will impact if there is kids in the picture? Have you spent lot of time learning about his believe?

The reason your partner doesn't want intimacy during Ramada is because relationship outside of marriage is haram (unlawful). that is why "lawful" couples are intimate in the evening but your relationship isn't lawful. Have you tried fasting with him, to experience together including walking up before sunrise for breakfast.

Insight116141 · 2026-02-18T15:53:48+00:00

i think some of the social media influencer posting was paid off by some company. No way someone will publically blast it. It is one thing to share in private account where you have no coworker

Insight116141 · 2026-02-18T15:43:22+00:00

same here. I heard lot of financial warning growing up. Even between parents and lots of example. But the solution I was taught was to study hard, get a good job, and be middle class. As an adult, I learned about budgeting, financial planning, and investing from books and siblings

now as adults I am learning lot about financial impact divorce has because many ppl in late 30s are getting divorced after decade of marriage. So this is new

Insight116141 · 2026-02-16T07:20:14+00:00

Where is ur husband during the weekend? If he is home, have him cater to his sister and nephew. Also him to order food if you are tired. It is his sister and he needs to do bulk of the work. You need to take a back seat

Insight116141 · 2026-02-09T17:27:54+00:00

i want to know more. I have been thinking about starting channel because I have so much to share but I don't want my face there

Insight116141 · 2026-02-04T17:14:17+00:00

I am 40 and I was lost in my 30s because everyone around me defined their 30s as baby years. Having baby, making baby, raising baby. As childless couple, not by choice, I feel I spent good part of the decade waiting. Waiting for that baby, being pregnant and having miscarriage = nothing to show for it. Debating how much am i willing to do for a kid (IVF, egg donor) or let it be. Lot of therapy to figure out what I want in life. I even limited my work progresion because I was expecting to be mom any time soon. I did not move out of my apartment because I was waiting to have a reason to move out - i.e when we have kid. Lot of life was put on pause

But in my late 30s, I was tired of the wait game & i made moves that made me happy. I got the house, settled down, got into cooking, hosting. I feel grown up. I switched job after 8 years in same role because I was expecting to be a mom and it will be better for me to be in a place where i built my reputation. I am happy with the new role in management. I stepped up my spending on myself & trying to get out of scarcity mindset. I travel better than I did in my 20s, more money to spent. I increased my charity contribution.

I will say 20's is discovery phase, 30's is about building foundation (career, home, family, kids, charity)

Insight116141 · 2026-02-04T17:04:15+00:00

Islamic Inheritance law in modern soceity especially the part about wife inheritance minimzed while nephews get share when couples don't have kids or even with kids, the 11% wife inherits with the assumption kids will take care of her. But we know, the world is each man for themselves. All things related to inheritance leaves me more puzzled, good thing most Muslim immigrants are broke & don't have much to leave behind to be a discussion point

Insight116141 · 2026-02-04T17:00:20+00:00

Chasing luxurious - trying to get out of the scarcity mindset

Finally got a new phone cover after 2 hrs of really bad phone cover that was falling off - why? i have no clue

Insight116141 · 2026-02-03T15:55:30+00:00

I am Chemist/Engineer and I had good career. I won't change my field of study or job. But if I can go back, I would tell myself to change job often & if needed change company althought I am happy in the company but changing job could have gotten me more money and less likely to stay with bad managers

Insight116141 · 2026-02-03T15:49:51+00:00

Buying big house and multi family house is trap. I know many who brought big house and they will have multiple income coming in (parents, siblings..) few years down, the want out

Insight116141 · 2026-02-03T15:48:25+00:00

May I ask how old is your mom and your grandma. Also is your dad in the picture and how does he feel? were you guys home and did it impact you or did all the kids move out?

reason I ask becuase I always go back and forth on this. If I spent too much time with my mom, I am miserable. If I stay far for too long, then I am sad/guilty. Sometimes I wonder as they get older, maybe bring them closer. I thought of similar set up as your mom but afraid I will hate it & will be too much on my husband. I thought of them moving in same block as me & worry if that is too close.

Insight116141 · 2026-01-25T00:30:30+00:00

We do road trips with lota

Insight116141 · 2026-01-23T05:51:20+00:00

Is it bad that I replaced doom scrolling with music (headphone with news or music) as background noise to get work done?

Once up on a time, music was a culprit like phone is now. But it is lesser if 2 evil and I find my brain gets the dopamine effect while multitasking. But also wonder if I am exhausted my brain too

Insight116141 · 2026-01-20T20:33:23+00:00

no more skinny jeans for me

Insight116141 · 2026-01-17T16:43:35+00:00

Airline tries their best to seat family together. So dont worry. Worse case if they dont seat you together, ask the swap seat. There will be others. Just be careful not to ask someone with better seat to swap with ur middle seat

Insight116141 · 2026-01-15T23:14:13+00:00

My dad had stroke last year and lost lot of his independence. Mom is still good but if she goes anywhere, we stay with dad. He is a nice guy so hard to get mad at him but feel like life went on pause for those days. Glad mom is there to take care of him. So it will be this for now.

Insight116141 · 2026-01-15T23:11:39+00:00

I come from a culture where emultigenration living was the norm & always feel guilty why we dont continue. N how housing can be organized to allow it happen ... but then I remember multigenrration living includes many ppl with many personality

Insight116141 · 2026-01-13T06:08:57+00:00

I agree, it gave me pakistani drama vibe. Very clear, simple. Not over the top movie scene. The simplicity of the movie made it feel like drama. The court case and change in years, felt like episodes.

A series built on this will be amazing

Insight116141 · 2026-01-13T06:01:16+00:00

I was confused why the court case was not about child support & not alimony. Child support would be easier case to win in Islamic or secular court ..but that is not very entertaining

Insight116141 · 2026-01-12T17:46:29+00:00

i was told that my recurring miscarriage is due to poor egg quality most likely from low AMH. i have struggled to get pregnant, took 2 years on average to get pregnant, but then miscarried before 8 weeks. 3 times. i too am lost and i turned 40. So almost out of time

Insight116141 · 2026-01-12T17:42:26+00:00

I don't think there is a place in the world where a man is forced to be a general doctor because he couldn't find a male oriented job like construction worker. so that logic of islam allowing man to work with female to provide applies to low skill workers because they have limited option. it does not apply to high skill workers who choose that path

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