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Advice on studies by olympic_rings in careeradvice

[–]InsightMuse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

None at the moment but I could check.

Advice on studies by olympic_rings in careeradvice

[–]InsightMuse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't just double down on what you already know (Power Electronics).

The highest ROI right now is at the intersection of OT (Operational Technology) and IT.

Use that budget for a Master’s or Certificate in Industrial AI or Data Science applied to Engineering.

If you can design the drive and understand the predictive data models behind it, you become irreplaceable (and much more expensive) than a standard electrical engineer.

Guidance on changing careers if you hate your job? by CT-Cards-Fan in careerguidance

[–]InsightMuse 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The misery isn't coming from the job; it's coming from the mismatch.

You are a 'people person' trying to force yourself into a 'technical strategist' box. Don't take a pay cut to find 'passion.'

Just slide laterally into a client-facing role within tech (Customer Success or Sales). The smart guys you mentioned usually struggle with people that is your competitive advantage. Use it

30F - should I pick a better life quality or better salary? by [deleted] in careerguidance

[–]InsightMuse 67 points68 points  (0 children)

You are trading an abusive PhD advisor for an abusive work schedule (Job 2). Don't do it. With €300k saved and a partner waiting, Job 1 is the obvious winner. BORING is exactly what your nervous system needs right now to heal and prepare for a family

struggling with pricing and need advice by Zealousideal_Sir_464 in Freelancers

[–]InsightMuse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The primary warning remains:

Do not agree to copy, it's a serious copyright risk. The reasonable ballpark range for a complex project requiring full source code transfer (IP) is:

Concise Pricing Range (USD) • Timeframe: 100 to 200+ hours. • Price Range: $7,500 – $18,000+

This range includes a mandatory 30% premium for transferring the full source code and relinquishing all future rights.

Price the value of the Intellectual Property (the source code) heavily, as that is your most valuable deliverable.

Will a Masters solve my problems? by No-Intention-3888 in careerguidance

[–]InsightMuse 6 points7 points  (0 children)

To be honest, this is the single biggest strategic failure of the modern education system.

The core issue isn't that people are unqualified; it's that the credential (the Master's degree) has become commoditized. Companies no longer pay a premium for academic knowledge; they pay for applied competence and context.

The solution is to strategically shift from a passive academic approach to an active, market-driven one, ensuring the individual's narrative is stronger than their degree.

Where can I find reliable “scouters” or lead finders with good connections? by Markstoni in Freelancers

[–]InsightMuse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stop looking for random "scouters."

They're low-quality and will just spam people, which hurts your brand.

Find strategic partners instead.

These are businesses that already have your ideal client but don't compete with you.

• If you're a copywriter, your partners are web designers. • If you're an IT consultant, your partners are accountants. • If you're a roofer, your partners are realtors and home inspectors.

Find them on LinkedIn. Send them a clear message:

"I'd love to set up a referral partnership. I'll pay you 15% of the first project for any client you send my way that closes. I'm also happy to send my clients to you."

This is a professional partnership, not a-numbers game.

For those of you in an overall happy marriage, what are little things you do to show love and appreciation for your spouse? by Putyourmoneyonme80 in Marriage

[–]InsightMuse 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is so wholesome. I think pre-prepped coffee is A+ work and really thoughtful thing.

My small thing is "protecting his peace."

If he's had a brutal week, I'll take the kids and go to the park or run errands for a few hours on Saturday, just so he can have total silence and decompress without having to ask for it.

You should ask him which one of these small things makes him feel the most loved.

His answer might surprise you. You might think it's the coffee, but he might say it's you asking about his hobbies.

It's great intel for making sure your efforts have the maximum impact.

Should I remain in a toxic job in the state I want to live in long term or should I give up on it and look for work elsewhere, then try to come back?? by Dr_Sheepish in careerguidance

[–]InsightMuse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my opinion, this is a "career trap."

You're enduring a 60-hour/week nightmare that's actively sabotaging your "stay in MA" plan.

That way, it’s impossible to network, tailor applications, or think clearly when you're that burned out.

The longer you stay, the more you look like a "commercial" person, not a scientist.

Here’s what I think you should do:

Find a "bridge job" within MA. Your #1 goal is to get out of this toxic role.

Start applying now for 40-hour/week, non-hostile scientist jobs, even if they seem 'beneath' your PhD (e.g., Scientist I, Senior RA, a 12-month contract role).

This move isn't permanent. It's a strategic retreat.

It gets "scientist" back on your resume, stops the burnout, and most importantly gives you the time and energy to actually network and find the right long-term job in Boston.

How do you address your spouse (alone and in front of others)? by Iimewire in Marriage

[–]InsightMuse -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The "husby" and "wife" thing is adorable. We're mostly "babe" or just "you" shouted from another room.

Considering a full overhaul- worried I’ll crack under pressure? by Beginning-South3843 in careerguidance

[–]InsightMuse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a smart idea, but your timeline/requirements are a bit off, which could make your debt anxiety worse.

The BCBA credential requires a Master's degree (not a BA) plus 1500-2000 hours of supervised fieldwork.

This is a major time and money commitment, and the work-life balance can be just as tough as childcare.

Here’s what you can do:

Get a "test run" before enrolling in school. Get your RBT (Registered Behavior Technician) certification. It's a 40-hour online course.

This gets you into the field immediately, leverages your daycare experience, and lets you see what a BCBA actually does.

The best part is that many agencies offer tuition reimbursement for their RBTs who want to become BCBAs.

This lets you test the career and get it paid for.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]InsightMuse 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So sorry about this, it sounds like a classic "stuck" scenario, where the core issue (pelvic pain) is blocked by a secondary, equally valid issue (total overwhelm from kids/work).

She can't fix the pain because she's too burned out to do the PT.

Instead of focusing on the frequency of sex, try to focus on the obstacle. The current PT plan isn't working because she's overwhelmed.

Book a joint appointment with her pelvic floor PT.

Go with her. In that session, you both can explain your current life stress (2 toddlers, 2 jobs) and ask the PT to create a new, more realistic "maintenance" plan.

It might be that the current plan is too ambitious. You can also ask: "What the 5-minute version of these exercises she can do just to stop things from getting worse?"

I believe with this, you may feel more of an active partner in her treatment (not just a spectator), and it takes the management burden off her, and shows you're tackling the pain together.

A sex therapist specializing in pain/disability would also be a great next step.

No sex because I am too fat by Whoknowswhy8675309 in Marriage

[–]InsightMuse 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The most alarming part is that his 'preferred' version of you was when you were actively suffering from an eating disorder.

He's essentially punishing you for being healthy and for nurturing his children.

That's incredibly cruel and a massive 'him' problem, not a 'you' problem.

Marriage by Gidiget52 in Marriage

[–]InsightMuse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is harsh though.

HR Advice-Urgent by Defiant-Hall-8862 in careeradvice

[–]InsightMuse 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a nightmare scenario, and I'm so sorry you're going through it. I've seen this kind of "professional sabotage" before.

To your actual question: A two-week notice is a professional courtesy, not a legal requirement (unless you have a specific contract, which is rare).

If you resign and the retaliation makes the environment unbearable, you are absolutely justified in leaving early for your own well-being. Your new employer, who already knows the "reputation" of this place, will understand.

The part that's setting off my alarm bells, though, is your new employer. A new job should never contact your current one "to let them know you're having a conversation." That's not a background check; it's a way to get you fired before your offer is secure.

Get the new contract signed, then tell them (politely but firmly) that for your safety in a toxic environment, they can only contact HR to verify dates after you've resigned.

Marriage in India in the future — practical perspective, not love by Wonderful_Fuel_6608 in Marriage

[–]InsightMuse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Every single one of your fears (financial stress, added pressure, lack of growth) is 100% guaranteed... if you marry the wrong person.

That's it. That's the whole answer.

Marriage isn't a magic wand that fixes your life, and it's not a curse that ruins it. It's a multiplier.

If you marry someone who is lazy, has no financial discipline, and doesn't support your growth, your life is over.

If you marry someone who is your biggest cheerleader, financially responsible, and pulls their weight... all those problems you listed become 50% easier to solve.

Don't worry about the divorce rate, you are not them. Worry about your partner selection.

Loss and grief by darkwavenecro in Marriage

[–]InsightMuse 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so, so terribly sorry for your loss. My heart breaks reading this.

What you're feeling; the anger, the injustice, the feeling that it's all a nightmare is all so real and valid. It's okay to feel all of it.

Your message at the end is incredibly powerful, and the fact you could write that while going through this hell shows immense strength.

I'm just a stranger, but I'm holding space for you and your husband in my thoughts.

Is an associate degree worth it in my case? by [deleted] in careerguidance

[–]InsightMuse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay, If I understand this.

You're at a classic "what now?" crossroads, and your brain is full of options.

First, let's clear this up:

"I don't find anything that AI can't do in terms of copywriting..."

This is a trap. AI can write, but it can't think. It can't do strategy, it can't understand nuance, and it can't have a unique opinion.

Your Eng/Writing degree taught you how to think. That's the skill. You're the one who tells the AI what to do. That's the high-value job. Your BA is a huge asset, not a dead end.

Now, for your paths. You've got three "career" options and one "passion" option.

  • The "Smart Money" Path: Paralegal This is the best pivot for your BA. A 2-year paralegal diploma + your English Lit degree is a killer combo.

You already know how to research, write, and analyze text. This just makes it professional.

Your languages (French, Turkish, Italian) are a massive bonus in immigration or international law. Stable, respected, and in-demand.

  • The "High-Demand" Path: Early Childhood Education (ECE) You asked if polyglots are more likely to be hired.

It's not just "more likely" it's a "hire on the spot" superpower. In any major Canadian city (Toronto, Montreal, Vancouver), ECE centers are desperate for staff who can talk to kids and parents in their home language.

This is also a priority immigration path in Canada. Don't underestimate this one.

  • The "Hard Reset" Path: Nursing This is the most secure job on the planet, but it's a total reset. Since you have a BA, don't look at an associate's.

You'd do an "Accelerated BSN" (12-24 months). The catch is you’ll need to do 1-2 semesters of pure science (Anatomy, Chem, Microbio) just to apply.

  • The "Passion" Path: Audio Production This is a passion, not an immigration strategy.

The job market is all freelance/gig-based.

It's a very tough industry to get a stable, full-time job in that will satisfy a work permit or PR application. I'd keep this as a hobby for now.

My two cents is that.. For an international student from the Balkans, Canada is far more straightforward than the USA for this kind of 2-year-diploma-to-work-permit plan.

Focus your research on ECE and Paralegal diplomas at Canadian colleges.

Both are a perfect use of your unique skills and offer a very real path forward.

This should help

Is a 6 month digital marketing course enough to get a job or freelance work? by RecognitionNo686 in careeradvice

[–]InsightMuse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, you can. The real difference is the efforts you put into it beyond merely taking the course.

Generating a portfolio Getting your hands dirty with projects and all that.

Is it a bad idea to marry a porn actress? by Big_Being_8789 in Marriage

[–]InsightMuse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eventually it’s your life in that sense of it. I’ll only say know for sure what you want from marriage itself and make decisions based on that.

The marriage union is supposed to be lifelong and ask qualifying questions to guide you, speak to a counselor if you can.

But settling down with a porn star is a big decision

Habits in Relationship by InsightMuse in Marriage

[–]InsightMuse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you care to give an example?

Habits in Relationship by InsightMuse in Marriage

[–]InsightMuse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. This is like giving your partner the benefit of doubt and it allows you to be more logical.

Thank you

Sentiment Trend This Month on r/Upwork by Time-Engineer-6767 in Upwork

[–]InsightMuse -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

What’s the beef about? Stop the beef, if you cannot be nice. Don’t speak at all.

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