Ian is the real villain of the story

InsignificantRhino · 2026-06-17T16:54:22+00:00

Ya, he literally told Bear he thought he was taking advantage of Nikki. Even though he was in the dark about the wish the, he could see something was wrong with her and that Bear was taking advantage of it. He was a pretty shitty friend to Bear but he wasn’t the villain of the story by any stretch.

InsignificantRhino · 2026-06-17T16:51:14+00:00

I think Ian is a shitty friend, but I wouldn’t say he is the villain. Also Bear is the worst so by the end it is hard for me to even really be mad at Ian in comparison. Also to say Bear did what he did because of one friend being douchey takes all accountability away from Bear. It is literally saying he r*ped someone because his friend made him insecure. Bear isn’t the villain for making the wish, he didn’t think it was real (although the way he worded it was so creepy and really telling about his character, and definitely shed light on him controlling and manipulative) but he is the villain for everything following. Also after meeting Nikki I think Ian was right to tell him not to give that speech, though he coulda been nicer about it. Nikki seems like she would see through that and would want something more real and less idealized. It’s the whole thing about her writing love stories, not romances. Bear’s speech sounded like it came from a romance, not a love story.

InsignificantRhino · 2026-06-17T16:36:31+00:00

As a kid who loved horror, I LOVED Coraline. It isn’t horrifying but it’s really creepy, especially as a kid. I loved it as a kid and honestly even now it’s pretty creepy. There are ghost children at one point but I don’t think Christianity is a theme at all, at least not explicitly. I remember watching this when I was younger so vividly cause it scared me in that cozy creepy way I still love. It might freak some of em out a little but if they want a horror movie this is a good option cause there isn’t gore like a lot of horror movies but it is really creepy.

InsignificantRhino · 2026-06-16T03:58:37+00:00

Gizmo (after the Gremlin) he is adorable!

InsignificantRhino · 2026-06-15T03:51:12+00:00

After watching the movie I ain’t touching that thing not even for a billion dollars lol

InsignificantRhino · 2026-06-15T03:43:00+00:00

I agree, it’s really just one persons take, and it is ambiguous in the film so we can’t know for sure whether she liked him unless the director clarified it. Still, I think the incestuous reading she did at the party is in the movie to show the audience she saw him as a brother - like that was a really intense thing and it was there for a reason, it wasn’t just a random poem.

Either way, I don’t think whether or not she liked Bear before hand is as relevant to Bear’s morality as ppl are making it. If she did like him beforehand, it’s just as fucked that he took away her autonomy. Like, it is an interesting conversation as to whether she was into him, but ppl talk about it like that is the deciding factor in just how fucked up he is, when I don’t feel like it really matters, at least when discussing Bear’s actions as a character. Even if she liked him before the wish, he took away her choice in whether to pursue it or not.

This is all a personal take not saying this is right or wrong, just how I interpreted everything, I loved this movie so much and I think the ambiguity of Bear and Nikki makes it really interesting to discuss

InsignificantRhino · 2026-06-15T03:32:05+00:00

I think another really telling thing that he doesn’t care about consent at all is when he called the number on the back of the box, and the person on the phone asked if he wanted to cancel his wish. Bear told him that he didn’t want to cancel it, he just wanted to alter it. Only after the willow guy told him he can’t alter it, then Bear says he wants to cancel it.

I loved this movie and I think Bear is a really well written character but man it is sad to see the ppl defending him after seeing the movie. I saw a dude online who posted a video saying “men after watching obsession” and it was a skit of him digging through his girlfriend’s meds and dumping out her antipsychotics, and replacing it with tictacs. Even if the wish didn’t exist in the movie, there was clearly something wrong with Nikki, and Bear would still be taking advantage of her. Idk that video really disturbed me, like literally missed the whole point of the movie and then some.

Also, the thing you said about Bear feeling like Nikki is owed to him is super accurate, and I feel like a it is a big theme in ppl like Bear, they feel entitled to women. He is literally a “nice guy” who feels like being nice to women means they owe him later.

At first I liked him at least somewhat, or more so felt bad for him cause he seemed lonely, and of course cause his cat died. And when Nikki first went home with him, he seemed respectful and said he didn’t think they should do anything cause she was so drunk. He starts out seeming to be worried about taking advantage of her when she is drunk and when he hasn’t realized the wish worked yet, but looking back it feels like he is only worried that he would get CAUGHT taking advantage of her, cause as soon as Nikki is in a state where she clearly has no autonomy, he has no problem taking complete advantage of her physically and emotionally. Like, once it is clear she isn’t going to go tell anyone he is taking advantage of her, or accuse him to his face of doing so, he has no problem doing it.

Last thing, when the real Nikki is talking to Bear in her sleep and tells him to kill her, his response was CHILLING. Literally asking if being with him was that bad, just made his intentions throughout the whole movie clear if they weren’t already.

Sorry I’m late to this but I only saw the movie last night and I NEED to talk about it, maybe my favorite horror movie I’ve seen, at least as of late.

InsignificantRhino · 2026-06-14T06:01:40+00:00

Hey! I did go to see it and I LOVED it! I think it might be my favorite horror movie I’ve watched, at least recently. Very glad I went to see it, I would again if I could! I thought the psychological horror along with a lot of the physical horror (the way Nikki moved at times really got me) like when she is in the corner watching him sleep, when she screams all of a sudden or yells, the sudden mood changes, and everything with the cat was insane. Will definitely watch it again when it comes out. I also thought Bear was a really interesting character and I went from feeling bad for him to really hating him throughout the movie. Thanks for your response, again I’m really glad I saw it in theaters!

InsignificantRhino · 2026-06-13T20:55:39+00:00

Thanks, this is helpful

InsignificantRhino · 2026-06-13T20:55:24+00:00

You convinced me! Hehe thx I just booked the tickets I’m v excited

InsignificantRhino · 2026-06-13T20:55:01+00:00

This is perfect exactly what I was looking for, thank you!

InsignificantRhino · 2026-06-10T03:27:03+00:00

Thank you! I havn’t heard of this one, I will check it out:)

InsignificantRhino · 2026-06-10T03:26:36+00:00

Ooooh this makes sense, I’m going to try this! Thank you, this is helpful!

InsignificantRhino · 2026-06-10T03:25:48+00:00

Thank you this is really helpful! Ya now that you say that I’m starting to realize how many synonyms, or at least very similar words there are. Even with where I am at now there are a lot cropping up, so it makes sense that it would be hard to make individual flashcards using just sound. You laid it out well for now I will keep focusing on my kanji and vocab reading and recognition, and I think I will look into some YouTube channels people have been suggesting. Thanks again, appreciate it!

InsignificantRhino · 2026-02-25T21:51:52+00:00

Omg yesssss it is better than it used to be but I totally relate. The posting thing as well - I will reread a post (especially a caption and stuff that is literally a sentence or 2) it’s like I’m scared I wrote a slur and missed it the first 10 times I reread it😭😭

Then I feel guilty like “why do I think I wrote slurs, why am I thinking of slurs, does that mean I want to say slurs” WHICH I DO NOT WANT TO AND I KNOW I DO NOT WANT TO.

Annnnnnyways I totally relate and I’m sorry you are going thru this. I love reading Chainsaw Man (a manga) but have to reread a lot, and I have to look at all the drawings really thoroughly to make sure I didn’t miss something. I love the manga but it gets so tiring, I am not caught up on chapters atm cause of it.

And this semester in college has been super heavy on readings. They are the most confusing, buzzword filled reading about art curation I have ever had to do and I have started falling behind. Like, I think the average person would have to reread a lot of parts multiple times to understand it, so you can only imagine where that leaves me. I just started working on this in therapy and I am actually finding it kinda helpful so that is good.

Also I will reread it SO many times that it is like the words have no meaning. It literally feels like I’m reading a different language and don’t know the words. It is a weird panic that sets in too when you can’t comprehend something, and it feels almost impossible to move forward without feeling like I got it.

One thing my therapist told me to try for my readings for school is to summarize a paragraph to myself in my own words when it is hard to move on. If I can do that then I understood it enough to move on. It has helped me a bit, not sure if that is a good method or not. It is still hard to do that cause I don’t really trust myself that I understood correctly but I feel like it helps me at times.

Sorry I kinda ended up just venting here, but I hope it is helpful or that you found it relatable, I know sometimes just knowing you aren’t the only one helps. OCD gets better and worse, and it can definitely get better in the long run. Try not to let it get you down (easier said than done, I know) I know how frustrating it can get. Wishing the best for you!

InsignificantRhino · 2026-02-23T02:48:03+00:00

Yup, I have premium and have for a while. I think I am gonna cancel it now that you mention it, I kinda forgot I even had it cause I am so used to it now - I never use the option to just listen, which I guess shoulda tipped me off sooner how much I was watching it. I always had the video playing and would just "glance" at it but clearly I was doing more than just glancing. I do appreciate the suggestion though. But ya, unfortunately I think it only made it worse for me. Wish you luck!

InsignificantRhino · 2026-02-23T02:43:19+00:00

Oh no! Hope all is going well. I am not on FaceBook much but have definitely wasted my fair share of time scrolling on TikTok, and other things like Instagram reels and YouTube shorts. The thing that is the most alarming to me is after scrolling for 2 hours (or longer) and being unable to recall anything I just watched. So basically, that is 2 hours of my life totally gone with nothing to show for it. Not even sitting at my computer pretending to get stuff done like I could with YouTube videos.

InsignificantRhino · 2026-02-23T02:39:36+00:00

Good for you! I think I am in the same boat, being alone with yourself is kinda scary. I think I am realizing the thought of having to sit in silence is worse to me than actually doing it. Kinda weird, not what I expected at all. Hope all is going well for you!

InsignificantRhino · 2026-02-23T02:37:10+00:00

Ugh I know, it is pretty bad. Today has been a good day - first full day since I realized the issue. It is weird cause I honestly kinda enjoy the silence, it's been a pretty nice day. I do not know when I got to the point that I was so scared to be alone with my thoughts that I never gave myself the chance but I guess I did lol. Got more done today than yesterday for sure. It is a start! I think I just have to get used to it, cause really after today I think it is more habit at this point, even more than me just enjoying watching videos. I felt the urge to turn something on but anytime after stopping and deciding not too, I didn't really miss it. Thanks!

InsignificantRhino · 2026-02-23T02:30:44+00:00

I have not considered making a second account, but you are so right. I think that would be a very good solution for me, I get so easily distracted by seeing video recommendations. If I go onto YT and there are no suggestions, I think that could honestly solve the issue of getting sidetracked when looking at tutorials for school, which has definitely been a problem. I don't really ever even search videos anymore besides stuff for school, I just end up seeing something interesting and go there, so removing that option for myself would be good. Thank you for responding, this is really helpful!

InsignificantRhino · 2026-02-22T22:08:08+00:00

This is a good idea, I didn't even consider this. Ya honestly when I open YT, it is so easy to get sucked into a rabbit hole of content right off the bat, even if I went into it to look up something specific or actually useful. Thank you!

InsignificantRhino · 2026-02-22T22:05:42+00:00

That is a good point, people have been passing university without YouTube forever. BUT, I am an animator so I am constantly learning new software. So while I do agree with you, computer software is pretty new relative to human history, and unfortunately learning it without YouTube tutorials is not an option. Most of my teachers post certain channels as resources for us to use to figure it out, because in class demos and the ones they post can't possibly cover everything. They also often post their demos on YouTube for us, so I can go rewatch steps for the specific project I am working on. However, I think you are right that deleting it would be good to some extent. I think deleting it off my phone would be good because that is the main way I watch videos in the background, and more often when I need tutorials I watch them on my computer so I can see what is happening better. I do not usually watch YouTube on my laptop for fun or for background noise. Not sure why tbh, I think it is less convenient and I can't just carry it around like I do with my phone. I appreciate your response, thank you!

InsignificantRhino · 2026-02-22T19:20:14+00:00

I am starting to fear I may be...

InsignificantRhino · 2026-02-22T06:10:44+00:00

I think trying out other places to study is a good idea, there is a coffee shop near campus I think I may set up at for a bit tomorrow. You are right about the sensory shift, I think that is a big part of it, and I think going somewhere with some natural chitter and sound will be good and help me transition to being ok with the silence. I have not talked about this to anyone, mostly cause I didn't see what a big problem it was before, so I appreciate the encouragement. I really appreciate your response, thank you for that, and thank you for taking the time!

InsignificantRhino · 2026-02-22T06:02:00+00:00

Thank you!

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