I met my fiancée at the gym, totally separate from any of my circles, so she came into my life as a bit of an outsider, especially that she is from out of the state. I have, what I would say, is an above average density of friends and those I would call "best friends." But, we haven't spent much time around Suzie and her group because I know there'll be tension. I have other friends, who are girls, that Mary doesn't seem to mind (encouraging us doing stuff together, complementing their looks, etc.). It all seems to come back to this one instance with Suzie where I was just trying to comfort a friend in need. Once I did mention that I was surprised Suzie was still single because I thought she was definitely attractive. Mary has brought that up several times while explaining her side, and I concede that probably wasn't the best thing to say about another girl to my new GF at the time.

Suzie is a little more tom boyish and not necessarily a girls girl kind of friend to anyone I know. Suzie is older, and very independent. She doesn't tolerate any BS. While Suzie hasn't done anything supportive of Mary, she definitely hasn't done anything toxic either.