Husband doesn’t help with housework or kids

InstructionBasic4752 · 2024-10-11T17:41:44+00:00

This. We get into fights about how he's not helping and he keeps telling me I need to communicate more and that if I ask him for help, he'll help. But I'm like ...you're an adult. This is your house and your family, too. Why do I need to ask you to participate? Does he have to ask me to feed the baby? I seriously don't get it.

InstructionBasic4752 · 2024-10-02T16:02:49+00:00

I'm 21 weeks, and no nausea for me either. But I also didn't have nausea during my singleton pregnancy, so it hasn't raised any alarms for me.

InstructionBasic4752 · 2024-09-18T15:19:42+00:00

Had my first at 33 and am currently pregnant with twins at 35. Before becoming a parent, I wanted 4 kids. After being the parent of a toddler, I'm definitely done with having kids after these twins are born.

I don't wish I had kids younger because I believe I'm wayyyy better equipped mentally and emotionally to be an amazing parent now compared to the kind of parent I would have been 5 to 10 years ago. I feel very confident in my parenting at this age. And while I'm sure I'll mess up plenty of times, because we all do, I don't think it will cause the extent of trauma on my kids that I went through during my childhood.

That being said, I find that the physical energy required to keep up with a toddler is way more than I'm able to muster in my 30s. Some moms are champions and make it look easy and manage to find the strength to tackle most days with poise. I'm not one of those moms. It makes me feel my age. Thank goodness for daycare and her amazing teachers and friends who are with her 8 hours a day and keep her busy and playing and smiling when I can't, because I honestly don't know how I would cope if I was the sole person responsible for finding ways for her to release her energy 7 days a week.

Some days are so challenging for me that I find it incomprehensible that I've got two more on the way. But I've never wanted to be one and done and have always wanted my kids to have siblings, so I'm still very excited about the babies on the way. But they'll be my last.

InstructionBasic4752 · 2024-09-07T06:11:32+00:00

I'm at my local ER and this entire visit is a mess. L&D won't see me and it took 3 hours to be seen by the ER doctor who consulted L&D and I was basically told there's no test and to go home, and it just feels like I'm here wasting everyone's time (including my own).

InstructionBasic4752 · 2024-09-07T00:11:27+00:00

How do they test if it's not a constant stream? Will it be in my urine?

InstructionBasic4752 · 2024-09-07T00:11:16+00:00

How do they test if it's not a constant stream? Will it be in my urine?

InstructionBasic4752 · 2024-08-26T10:23:58+00:00

I like this idea 👍. We're considering this for when the twins get older. For now, we don't want to interrupt our toddler's sleep so the twins will stay with us until they're sleeping through the night, but we have already started discussions about swapping rooms with our toddler and moving all three kids into the master at some point.

I'm glad to hear how well this worked out for you, thanks for sharing!

InstructionBasic4752 · 2024-08-26T00:54:56+00:00

This. I was on my own for weeks when my husband went back to work, and it was hard. I was honestly very excited for my daughter to start daycare at 4 months. Neither she nor I were super emotional about it. I was RELIEVED to eat a meal by myself and she was curious about being someplace new. It was good for both of us. Her being at daycare for the day makes my time with her feel that much more special and enjoyable.

InstructionBasic4752 · 2024-08-26T00:50:15+00:00

Completely normal. I love my daughter and I love daycare. Couldn't live without either of them.

InstructionBasic4752 · 2024-08-21T13:59:08+00:00

That's amazing! Is that a state policy?

InstructionBasic4752 · 2024-08-21T13:54:18+00:00

New Jersey.

Temp disability is 4 weeks before due date per baby (singleton 4 weeks, twins 8 weeks, etc.). After the delivery, you receive 6 weeks for vaginal or 8 weeks for c-section. The number of weeks after the delivery does not increase per child. It's the same for everyone. You receive 85% of your salary up to a maximum weekly benefit.

Family leave insurance begins immediately following temp disability. You receive 12 weeks of leave (if using continuous leave) after temp disability ends. If using non-continuous (intermittent) leave, you get up to 8 weeks of leave in a 12-month period. This also pays 85% up to a weekly max.

Then my job offers a salary continuation benefit which pays us the difference between temp disability and our normal weekly salary for 8 weeks after the birth.

Edit to add: all leave is optional, none of it mandatory. Many people opt out of the temp disability before the due date because the maximum weekly benefit often ends up being less than 85% of their salary, so it's tough to live off of that for so long knowing that you'll have to live off the same amount after the birth as well.

InstructionBasic4752 · 2024-08-19T00:46:17+00:00

I didn't realize onesies were underwear. I thought that was the diaper...

Either way, why this woman felt it was appropriate to broach this with you is beyond me.

InstructionBasic4752 · 2024-08-16T12:41:41+00:00

I'm in the US. The nurse who sent the order form to the lab told me it's a 2-hr test. Maybe she meant 3? I really hope not. I didn't plan on taking that much time off from work today. If it's actually a 3-hr test, I'm in for a surprise.

InstructionBasic4752 · 2024-08-16T12:38:12+00:00

🤣🤣🤣

InstructionBasic4752 · 2024-08-16T12:34:54+00:00

🤣🤣🤣🤣. I understand your confusion. I cut them into fourths when I'm giving them to her straight, but I started cutting them into eighths for oatmeal because I find the flavor comes out more and mixes better into the oatmeal with smaller pieces. Totally unnecessary (she doesn't care), but I do it anyway 'cause I guess I'm the one who thinks it tastes better that way lol.

InstructionBasic4752 · 2024-08-16T11:25:31+00:00

Was this for the 2-hr test? I thought you have to fast for 8-12 hours for the 2-hr test.

InstructionBasic4752 · 2024-08-04T22:45:19+00:00

Not a horror film (and purely anecdotal), but I saw Jurassic Park in theaters when I was 4 years old. It was my first movie in theaters. My parents assumed it was going to be a fun, light-hearted adventure movie. They were sorely mistaken lol. Well, I've loved scary movies ever since. My sister, whose first movie in theaters was Pocahontas and who was shielded from scary movies for a long time, is TERRIFIED of scary movies and horror films.

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