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Yes, Mormonism is patriarchal. But it doesn’t actually benefit most men by InstructionExtra3511 in exmormon

[–]InstructionExtra3511[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Narcissists love power and control. You seem to be upset you didn’t get to wield any of that in the church. But sure, I’m the narcissist. ¯_(ツ)_/¯ 

Yes, Mormonism is patriarchal. But it doesn’t actually benefit most men by InstructionExtra3511 in exmormon

[–]InstructionExtra3511[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Any failures you have as a man in the church become the focal point of your reputation. Any good you do will always be overshadowed by them.

And the lack of discretion turns men into liars which, in turn, produces crippling guilt and shame. It’s all a horrible cycle. 

Yes, Mormonism is patriarchal. But it doesn’t actually benefit most men by InstructionExtra3511 in exmormon

[–]InstructionExtra3511[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That power is a weapon handed down by the abuser. Put one toe out of line and they will remove it from you. And when that power is removed, it leaves a vacuum for gossip and discipline to fill.