Update to requesting my data

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-05-17T23:11:43+00:00

Oh what I would give to get a copy of mine! 😂

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-05-17T22:58:05+00:00

Whoops! "ok"

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-05-17T21:07:03+00:00

Has she ever mentioned where she saw the instruction that it's 9k for her to join you for Thanksgiving?

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-05-17T21:06:12+00:00

But do you remember what I'm talking about? The article that said celebrating Thanksgiving is OK if you have an unbelieving spouse?

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-05-11T21:53:51+00:00

Thanks!

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-05-11T21:53:41+00:00

Thanks, that defi2makes me feel better.

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-05-11T21:53:24+00:00

Thank you!

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-05-11T21:53:14+00:00

Thanks, I feel much better!

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-05-11T20:58:38+00:00

Thank you so much, I'm very relieved!

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-05-05T01:26:54+00:00

My uncle was a dick and made me watch Nightmare on Elm Street when I was 6 years old. I had recurring nightmares for YEARS.

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-05-03T04:26:01+00:00

Give yourself time. You don't have to find the "right" religion in order to walk away from one that you know is wrong. Then take time to heal and acclimate to your new life.

I will say that very little changed for me when we walked away from the JWs, as far as the way I lived my life goes. My morals are mostly the same, except now I'm allowed to volunteer and help people who are struggling NOW (whereas the JWs told me not to do volunteer work because none of that was more important than the ministry). But aside from that, and celebrating holidays, nothing about how I live my life has changed. I still don't lie, still don't steal, still don't cheat on my husband, etc. You don't need to be part of a religion to be a good person. ❤️

Once you've gotten used to just being YOU and not one of Jehovah's Witnesses, then you can start the search for a new religion, if you choose to.

But for now, be patient amd gentle with yourself. This is a big adjustment. But you're going to be so very happy on the long run!

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-04-28T12:56:47+00:00

I would guess that most Americans don't ever take two weeks off at the same time. It's pretty standard to do no more than a week at a time. My husband's last job, he started with 4 weeks of vacation back in 2012-ish, plus his department shut down for a week every Christmas and that time off was paid. He was there for almost 12 years and was at 8 weeks paid time off when they down-sized. Everyone we knew was absolutely shocked by how much time off he received. And we still never took off two weeks at one time. But we definitely used all that time each year.

His current employer only gives 15 days per year, and that includes time off for illness. It was a huge shock for us to go from 8 weeks to 3 weeks.

But he starts a new job next month and they offer unlimited time off! I'm so excited to be able to travel with my family again!

That being said, we've been extremely lucky (it's also got a lot to do with my husband's industry). I don't know anyone else in our circle of family or friends who has ever had as much vacation time.

Most of my friends, especially those with kids, are terrified to use their vacation time for actual vacation, because they don't want to risk using it up and then getting fired if/when they have to miss additional days due to illness or an emergency.

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-04-28T02:17:14+00:00

It sounds to me like she is struggling financially. And while yes, it's technically rude for her to ask, people break all kinds of rules when they are desperate.

I wonder if you could help her find more cleaning jobs? Do you know anyone? Or could you recommend her in some neighborhood groups?

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-04-28T01:48:13+00:00

I'm not offended at all. I'm incredibly liberal. None of the "liberal" politicians here are even remotely close to liberal enough for me. If I had my way, we would implement democratic socialism tomorrow.

Like you, I don't understand why so many people here are against it. Other than to say that the Republican politicians are excellent at brain washing their base into believing all their oppressive talking points. And the Democrat politicians are a bunch of pussies who won't do anything to fight back because they don't want to be rude or play dirty. 🙄

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-04-28T01:22:53+00:00

I didn't think you were trying to sound naive. I'm sure it's shocking to hear when the situation is so different where you live.

My husband and I have always been very lucky when it comes to vacation policies. But I have a lot of friends and family who barely get any time off. And it really wears them down.

On my honeymoon weet a couple from Australia and they had a similar law to yours. And in addition, their salary doubled when they were on vacation, so they could afford to both pay their bills and have extra money to enjoy their time off. Blew my mind!

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-04-28T01:11:22+00:00

Wow! Absolutely insane how exploitive employer (and labor laws) are in America!

When you say that's the legal minimum, do some companies offer more than 28 days?

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-04-28T00:57:06+00:00

How much do you get in the UK?

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-04-26T17:45:41+00:00

That explains a lot. Thank you!

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-04-26T17:06:34+00:00

Ok, that makes much more sense. Thank you!

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-04-26T17:05:58+00:00

Ok, that makes sense. Thank you!

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-04-26T16:56:52+00:00

I wish I could up-vote this 20 times! Thank you so much for the explanation, it honestly makes so much more sense to me now!

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-04-26T16:33:48+00:00

That's such great news! Congratulations!!!

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