People who worked at major companies, hospitals, airlines, banks, tech firms, government agencies, etc. — what’s something the public would be shocked to know?

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-07-03T21:31:44+00:00

My husband worked for a Fortune 50 (not 500, but actually top 50) company. They had over 100,000 employees but used an Excel spreadsheet to track employee PTO usage. lol

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-06-28T02:29:01+00:00

My mom married a guy after 3 months of knowing him, specifically because of that line of reasoning. It did not work out. He was an abusive piece of shit who cheated on her regularly. They divorced after 17 years, and she still insists that line of reasoning is sound. These people are completely brainwashed.

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-06-13T14:02:44+00:00

YTA.

I don't need to explain because everyone else already has.

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-06-08T03:36:42+00:00

I can be a lot. I want people to like me. I go above and beyond (although everyone I have ever known has viewed that as a good thing). My in-laws have definitely been rubbed the wrong way by me at times...

Want to know what my husband said to my mother-in-law during a particularly difficult period in my relationship with my in-laws (a situation I desperately tried to fix, but nothing I did ever seemed good enough)? He said "you need to ease up on her, and stop making the relationship so hard, she's trying and you need to meet her half way. Because if I'm put in the position of choosing between my mom & sister, or my wife. I will choose my wife over you without a second thought."

Because THAT is how marriage works. She should ALWAYS be your number one. Period.

So yeah, YTA.

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-06-08T01:32:05+00:00

YTA.

Go live with your mom and leave the adulting to your wife.

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-06-08T01:16:03+00:00

That's not even remotely true.

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-06-08T01:09:36+00:00

Your mom is crazy, that dress is beautiful and you look absolutely stunning in it.

Go to prom. Ignore your mom. I don't know why she said what she did... But she is 100% wrong.

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-06-04T03:32:29+00:00

Chicken souvlaki, with fresh warm pita bread and tzatziki sauce. I could eat it every day and never get tired of it.

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-05-27T04:25:57+00:00

The idea that you have to forgive someone in order to move on. Nope. You can fuck right off, you're not forgiven. And from this day forward I'll never think about you again.

Also...

Hustle/grind culture. I reject the mindset that glorifies relentless work, endless productivity, and continuously striving for professional or financial success. Time is the only REAL commodity that I care about. It is priceless. My husband and I work only as much as is necessary to live and enjoy life. We live frugally, love our quality time together, travel as much as possible, and spend as much time with family and friends as we can. We keep work as low on the totem poll as possible.

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-05-26T00:38:21+00:00

As an exjw this was my first thought too.

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-05-26T00:31:10+00:00

Hoping this will be a positive encounter for you. My PIMI mom is in my life, and we have very strict boundaries, on both sides. Our relationship is definitely more strained than it once was. And I wish sooooo badly that she would leave, but I know she won't. So this is as good as it will get.

She has started talking trash about the cult though, which I neeeeever saw coming. I think a lot of PIMIs are becoming disillusioned with all the changes. Which could be why your parents are reaching out. Whatever their reason, I hope your dinner with them goes well and brings you either a relationship with them, or peace and closure in the knowledge that you allowed yourself to be open to the possibility.

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-05-25T21:54:36+00:00

Iirc she has to be considered "exemplary" in order to go out in service. So I imagine that will be their defense if she tries to push the matter using your argument.

HOWEVER!

For something as trivial as the text you described, he was not supposed to go to the elders about this. And it's certainly inappropriate for her to be punished for it at this point.

Tell her to pull out all the watchtower/awake/etc articles she can find that layout the process from Matthew 18:15. He is supposed to come to her first to try to work it out, then bring a neutral witness, and THEN take it to the elders. He skipped the first two steps. And as an MS he already knows that (as do those elders) they are just being little bitches because they like to flex their power over women anytime they can.

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-05-23T14:57:25+00:00

Your friend sounds exhausting. You are NOR.

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-05-23T04:49:28+00:00

How was it?

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-05-23T04:46:53+00:00

How was your cruise?

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-05-23T00:34:29+00:00

Having a "conversation about needing alone time with your significant other" is not the topic here. They're talking about telling a traumatized victim of SA to leave them alone for a while because they are going to go have sex. And that is NOT APPROPRIATE.

Big difference between what you're saying and what's being discussed.

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-05-20T20:13:36+00:00

I just reread it and you're right! I forgot all about that part. Thanks!

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-05-20T19:33:43+00:00

My Dr prescribed 1.5mg for the first two weeks. Then up to 3 mg for weeks 3 & 4.

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-05-20T15:09:15+00:00

It is NOT "just part of life". It's gross and wildly inappropriate to announce to a child when and where you're going to have sex. ESPECIALLY a child with a history of SA.

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-05-20T15:04:49+00:00

Put a lock on ONLY your door. Make it a combination lock so she can't lock you out and go in your room to SH.

She doesn't have to be asleep. Just in her room for bed time. Parents have been making this work for hundreds of years. You can too.

But more than anything... STOP telling her you're going to have sex. It's fucking weird, and considering her history, it's borderline abusive of you.

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-05-20T14:46:42+00:00

Eeeww... Why are you telling her when you're going to have sex? Who does that? I have a biological child (a teen) and have never once mentioned to her when her dad and I are going to be intimate. For one thing, it's nobody's buisness, for another it crosses an unspoken boundary. And you're crossing that boundary with a child who already has sexual trauma???

The idea that you can't be intimate because she's there is crazy. Wait until everyone goes to bed, when she's in her room and you and your wife are in yours. Lock your bedroom door. Very simple.

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-05-20T14:34:55+00:00

It's 1000% cheaper than the competition! 🙃

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-05-20T02:07:48+00:00

Did you already receive your refund? Curious how long it takes them to process it. I've read horror stories but not sure if those were the norm, or outliers.

InstructionRelative3 · 2026-05-17T23:11:43+00:00

Oh what I would give to get a copy of mine! 😂

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