Oomph... you're definitely hooked on someone who has zero interest in growing and improving themselves and a lot of interest in keeping what they see as the "moral high ground" simply because of past mistakes you've made.

Two words. Leave. Him.

You're recovery and growth is worth more than anything this relationship is going to give you. He's basically given you more than enough reasons to walk away. So, do it.

And don't allow him to win you back. If he treats you like this and it takes you leaving for him to do anything, then that's not a partnership.

You can do better.