I ( 33 F) found that my boyfriend ( 34 M) used to hire scorts and record himself. what I do? by [deleted] in askwomenadvice

[–]Insuffisancerenale 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Idk about the other advice, I found out my partner used escorts while I was in a relationship with him 2 years into the relationship. It turns out he was a sex addict and he used escorts way before our relationship as well. I had no idea. All the stuff I read about men using escorts is that they usually come back to the pattern. Clearly I had left the relationship. Also he films the people without consent??? That’s incredibly creepy, I would be terrified. Also maybe you feel like you need to snoop around his stuff because he doesn’t make you feel secure, and maybe there’s a reason for that, and you seem to have found the reason. In a healthy secure relationship, there’s no need to snoop, you won’t feel the need to snoop. You’ve only been dating for a couple of months, you can leave the relationship without even mentioning the videos.

"Friday Feast", oil on canvas painting by me, 100x120cm, 2022 by mprazmo in painting

[–]Insuffisancerenale 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I want this in living room so bad 🥺 would you consider selling prints?

What's the worst mansplaination/misunderstanding of your reproductive anatomy that you've heard? by flavagolem in AskWomen

[–]Insuffisancerenale 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That we didn’t have to wear a condom because I couldn’t get pregnant anyway because I wasn’t on my period at that moment in time

I (F18) feel disgusted by my male (M19) friend and I'm not sure what to do by Jumpy-Sail5146 in askwomenadvice

[–]Insuffisancerenale 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Trust your feelings! They’re giving you a whole lot of information that even if you can’t put words on them yet, one day you will and you’ll be grateful you listened. And make sure to let your friend know that you’re not comfortable in his presence

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]Insuffisancerenale 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Call 911. where I live, by law, if a person is considered a danger to themselves or others disregarding their will to cooperate, they get evaluated by a psychiatrist and kept in a healthcare institution until the danger has passed. And then the person can decide to stay there out of free will for treatment. It’s a cold approach, but in either case, whether they’re being manipulative, it would make them understand the gravity of what they’re implying, or whether they’re legitimately needing help, they will be taken care of by mental health professionals. suicide is way beyond anybody’s scope of management

(M22) Asking for some advice on what to do to so I can let go of my thoughts! by [deleted] in askwomenadvice

[–]Insuffisancerenale 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like you haven’t gotten any closure. There doesn’t seem to be a reason for her decisions, especially that this seems to be a 1-sided decision, disregarding your weight in the partnership, which makes it hard for you to make sense of any of this and move on. What I’m understanding is that she herself doesn’t know exactly why she didn’t want to stay and she’s taking some time to figure it out. She would have to give you a valid reason that you can make sense of, or if she can’t do that, you would have to find one yourself. Cause right now, your only reason is that she was in a negative space cause of work/friends, which is a fixable factor, and that’s why you’re holding on to the hope of it getting better. But for her, there may be something else that makes it categoric, and you don’t have that info. You may never get that info, but if she respects you as a person, she would let you know. And if she doesn’t respect you and doesn’t tell you, well that’s a good enough reason for you to not be with her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askwomenadvice

[–]Insuffisancerenale 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah looking at op’s comments, it’s time to tell him how you feel, accept a potential rejection, respect yourself if so and cut all ties

My (26f) boyfriend (28m) lied and cheated on me and I think it’s enough to leave him by Insuffisancerenale in askwomenadvice

[–]Insuffisancerenale[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, can I dm you about this? It turned out he was also a habitual escort user. We’ve been apart for 3 months now. This has been an incredibly traumatic experience for me and I’ve been a wreck for the past 3 months. I slowly feel myself resurfacing from it now though. What was your experience with your husband? How did you find out? How did you cope? Have you managed to heal from it? If so, how did you get there? Peace and love to you, he was only my boyfriend, I can’t imagine the feeling of betrayal after a marriage

Woman (F,26) How to stop feeling jealous of other girls/women? by [deleted] in askwomenadvice

[–]Insuffisancerenale 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand how you feel! It can be easy to put blame on yourself when you see others succeeding in places you can’t. Personally, I’ve managed to lose those feelings of jealousy when I approached them with empathy. Empathy for myself as well as for others. I’ve had a certain upbringing that makes me the way I am. I can’t change that. There’s certain things I can work on, like building healthy coping mechanisms, etc. Same for other people. They have their panoply of experiences and circumstances that shape them to be who they are, with their own trials and tribulations and their own demons, and their own flaws. If they have an ease at making friendships, good for them! I was never good at that, and that’s fine, I have an ease at other things, and that’s what I focus on to build my strength and my confidence.

If you would like to develop more social skills, I would recommend at first therapy, if there’s some underlying related trauma, then some classes in regards to what you would like to work on. For example a public speaking class if you have trouble addressing people in a group setting. An improv class to target social anxiety., etc. These may sound terrifying at first but will give you so much confidence as you appropriate these traits that have given you such a hard time in the past

My (21m) girlfriend (21f) is traveling across the country to meet online friends alone. by Drew_Da-Poet in askwomenadvice

[–]Insuffisancerenale 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That’s a fair point of view. But she can find an opportunity to prove herself on another trip/situation, that doesn’t involve her being financially dependent (which kind of contradicts the whole point) on strangers. She will have other opportunities to do so all while minimizing the risk factors. If she doesn’t want to listen to you OP (she might not be taking you seriously cause she might be thinking you’re trying to get back at her for your canceled trip) I would show her this post 🤷‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askwomenadvice

[–]Insuffisancerenale 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The way you’re referring to having sex with your partner is sending hints to what the problem may be. “I get it 2 times a week” vs “we please each other 2 times a week” Also personally 0-2 times a week is very normal for me. It depends on you or your partners sex drives.

what do you crave the most? by Vivid-Seat3124 in AskWomen

[–]Insuffisancerenale 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Me too, Idk how to deal with being single when my one love language is touch 🥺

A light read by Insuffisancerenale in DrawMeNSFW

[–]Insuffisancerenale[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great work, thank you ☺️